Miserable or Strong?
I thought the same, Cass. I put in so much time and effort trying to manage people and situations that I simply COULD NOT manage, but I resisted doing the work of recovery b/c "it's too hard."
But I think the quote is true; it's the same amount of work either way, just that the end result is totally different.
But I think the quote is true; it's the same amount of work either way, just that the end result is totally different.
I think that's a very good point. It's never too late to turn things around and trade in the misery for strength.
But then I found out it didn't work that way. It was more like being a gardener.
I had to haul those 8 bushel baskets of Misery out to the back 40 and spread them all around the little sprouts of Courage, Strength, Patience, Peace, Love and Honesty that were just breaking through the ground. Since Misery and Manure have a lot in common, those little sprouts grew and grew!
And when I needed to go harvest from those plants, they bore way more fruit than the original 8 bushels of Misery that I started with...
Very useful today indeed! Although I wish there was an in between for my brain that doesn't want to be miserable NOR courageous It's amazing how we sometimes choose misery because it simply FEELS easier (feels because it actually isn't all that easy). So many times in life I choose misery simply because I feel I am not strong enough to put my own happiness and well being front and center. For me, "misery" translates into a lack of misery for others. How about that? Thanks for bumping this one. I will need to add this note to my mirror so I can read each morning
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In my life, I've amended this slightly to "you can be just plain miserable, or you can be miserable and learning something". If you can't avoid the misery, at least you can look for ways to gain some self-knowledge or some strength while it's going on.
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