killerinstinct

What came first? Self centred ness or addiction?

happybeingme

Without knowing the person it is impossible to say. I will share what I know about me. Before I became an alcoholic I did have less than ideal traits however, I was able to control them pretty well usually. After the alcoholic drinking kicked in all bets were off. I was an unstable nutjob.

sugarbear1

for me, I think they go hand in hand. Alcohol became my solution and just made me more self centered.

Thumper

While I think most, if not all, addicts are self centered - or more accurately addiction centered and that results in very self centered behavior.

I don't think all self centered people become addicts and I don't think all addicts started out self centered.

LexieCat

Yeah, and I think a lot depends, too, on when the alcoholism developed. People tend to "freeze" in their emotional development when they become alcoholics/addicts. So someone who becomes an alcoholic in his/her teens (a very self-centered age) tend to stay there. And alcoholism makes EVERYONE more self-centered than they were before, so it certainly aggravates whatever tendencies there already were.

shil2587

I agree with other posters that they don't always go together. My RAbf is more on the CODiE side than self centered side. He cares too much about how other people are thinking and feeling.