I don't know what to do
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I don't know what to do
I have tried reaching out to people, but no one cares. there are a couple who pretend that they do, but they only help me when it suits them.
I don't have anyone to turn to who loves me.I have pushed everyone away and I can't make new friends, because I am too screwed up and anxious to talk to anyone.
When I was younger I thought it was just drugs and alcohol that were problems for me, but then everything else fell apart and i started cutting and wishing i was dead.
things should have been resolved by now. i shouldn't still be like this.
i have no home. no friends. nothing.
I don't have anyone to turn to who loves me.I have pushed everyone away and I can't make new friends, because I am too screwed up and anxious to talk to anyone.
When I was younger I thought it was just drugs and alcohol that were problems for me, but then everything else fell apart and i started cutting and wishing i was dead.
things should have been resolved by now. i shouldn't still be like this.
i have no home. no friends. nothing.
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We have all known desperation
from drugs and alcohol and other related issues.
You are in the right place here.
Maybe you could connect with the spiritual fellowship of AA in your area
and there you will find what you need.
We all need a higher power, direction and true friends.
The gift of desperation is a turning point.
from drugs and alcohol and other related issues.
You are in the right place here.
Maybe you could connect with the spiritual fellowship of AA in your area
and there you will find what you need.
We all need a higher power, direction and true friends.
The gift of desperation is a turning point.
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Originally Posted by soberwolf 
Rice have you spoken to a GP since I last spoke to you months ago
It's nice to see you posting again
It's nice to see you posting again
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Have you gone back & told your GP this I started medication around 6 months ago I think I've had 1 change in that time but am going to speak to my GP again
I'm also doing therapy is that an option Rice
Keep posting get involved this is a fantastic support site where you make lots of friends you don't have to be alone with this
We are here 24/7 Rice
I'm also doing therapy is that an option Rice
Keep posting get involved this is a fantastic support site where you make lots of friends you don't have to be alone with this
We are here 24/7 Rice
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Well....you've reached out here just now and you haven't pushed us away yet and you won't push us away....don't know if that thought helps or not, but just wanted to let you know it!
I note that there is a 'should' and a 'should've' in your post and I don't criticize you for it, but speaking for myself: it seems that many times when I think in terms of "should've" or "should" it sort of sets me up for disappointment and can put me in a funk or a deeper funk than I already am in....
I've tried to train myself to think in terms of "it is what it is" and that bothered me for awhile when I kept hearing my friend say that. I couldn't accept it because I didn't like it at the time, but I had to come to a place of acceptance anyways after fighting it for quite awhile....
One thing that has helped me when I have felt a sense of rejection is to just know that there are world of folks out there who likely feel the same way....out of sorts, out of place, no place to call home, etc.
We all yearn for love and belonging. And many of our behaviors are part a quest for love and belonging. We sometimes do not realize that to love ourselves comes first, regardless of how others receive us.
I hope you love yourself.
I note that there is a 'should' and a 'should've' in your post and I don't criticize you for it, but speaking for myself: it seems that many times when I think in terms of "should've" or "should" it sort of sets me up for disappointment and can put me in a funk or a deeper funk than I already am in....
I've tried to train myself to think in terms of "it is what it is" and that bothered me for awhile when I kept hearing my friend say that. I couldn't accept it because I didn't like it at the time, but I had to come to a place of acceptance anyways after fighting it for quite awhile....
One thing that has helped me when I have felt a sense of rejection is to just know that there are world of folks out there who likely feel the same way....out of sorts, out of place, no place to call home, etc.
We all yearn for love and belonging. And many of our behaviors are part a quest for love and belonging. We sometimes do not realize that to love ourselves comes first, regardless of how others receive us.
I hope you love yourself.
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Hi Rice
if you're feeling suicidal please take a note of these numbers to call for help, or someone to talk to
CALM, the campaign against living miserably
Helpline – Nationwide
Call 0800 58 58 58
Our national helpline is open 7 days a week, 5pm to midnight. Callers can talk through any issue, we’ll listen and offer information and signposting. Calls are anonymous & confidential and won’t show up on your phone bill. Calls are free from landlines, payphones and O2, Orange, Virgin & Vodafone mobile networks. Other mobile networks and supermarket brand sims may charge.
Papyrus:
Call HOPELineUK 0800 068 41 41
or email: [email protected] *
or text: 07786 209697* *You do not have to give your name or whereabouts.
Samaritans Call 116 123 (free to call)
There's some good reading here too
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ease-read.html
I hope you'll log back in and give us an update?
D
if you're feeling suicidal please take a note of these numbers to call for help, or someone to talk to
CALM, the campaign against living miserably
Helpline – Nationwide
Call 0800 58 58 58
Our national helpline is open 7 days a week, 5pm to midnight. Callers can talk through any issue, we’ll listen and offer information and signposting. Calls are anonymous & confidential and won’t show up on your phone bill. Calls are free from landlines, payphones and O2, Orange, Virgin & Vodafone mobile networks. Other mobile networks and supermarket brand sims may charge.
Papyrus:
Call HOPELineUK 0800 068 41 41
or email: [email protected] *
or text: 07786 209697* *You do not have to give your name or whereabouts.
Samaritans Call 116 123 (free to call)
There's some good reading here too
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ease-read.html
I hope you'll log back in and give us an update?
D
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I was suicidal in my 20s. Had I been successful then I would have missed out on a lot of good things.
Back then I thought my life would never change...with the hindsight of 30 years I know how wrong I was.
I was making a lifetime judgement on the way I felt at a particular time in my life. I lerned to let people help, I learned to stop abusing myself and I learned that things really can change
There's only so much we can do here over the net, rice -but I really hope you'll look through those readings, maybe call a few numbers, and keep talking to us here.
Things can get better. People do care.
Let them help
D
Back then I thought my life would never change...with the hindsight of 30 years I know how wrong I was.
I was making a lifetime judgement on the way I felt at a particular time in my life. I lerned to let people help, I learned to stop abusing myself and I learned that things really can change
There's only so much we can do here over the net, rice -but I really hope you'll look through those readings, maybe call a few numbers, and keep talking to us here.
Things can get better. People do care.
Let them help
D
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Lots of people care Rice, as many of us have felt a similar sense of desperation.
The advice from Soberwolf to go back to your GP is sound. Please go back and be honest about how low you're feeling. Ask what support s/ he can suggest and provide. If you are still experiencing suicidal thoughts, you must TELL your GP.
Please, I know it can feel pointless when you're feeling so down, but one visit to a doc could be your first positive step.
Take care and please post and let us know how you are.
TCx
The advice from Soberwolf to go back to your GP is sound. Please go back and be honest about how low you're feeling. Ask what support s/ he can suggest and provide. If you are still experiencing suicidal thoughts, you must TELL your GP.
Please, I know it can feel pointless when you're feeling so down, but one visit to a doc could be your first positive step.
Take care and please post and let us know how you are.
TCx
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