Taking Responsibility
Taking Responsibility
Can anybody tell me why most addicts refuse to realize that they are the cause of their own drug abuse? That they have done this to themselves. That they are responsible for what they put into their bodies. That he/she chose to use the drugs.
I was talking with a young man today, who has been clean for about 11 months(only because he will go to jail if he comes up dirty). He was blaming his parents, home environment, and his financial status for his problems. Everything and everyone (according to him) is the reason why he became an addict. He said New York City has pushed him over the edge. If he hadn't left his home state he never would have been an addict. And so on and so on. So I asked him if he did drugs in his hometown of Ohio. He said he did, but he could've stopped anytime. So I asked him why he didn't. He said he wasn't ready. His parents threw him out. He said he came to New York to get away from the drugs and friends, and wound up addicted to heroin and xanax worse than before. So, he claims that he left Ohio to get clean, and now has become a worse addict in NY. Then he said that he was recently diagnosed with hepatitis b. He blames NY, and the woman he was sleeping with and sharing a needle with for that. (Again it's not his own fault). He is on probation for felony drug charges for the next 5 years.(Again It's Not his fault). He only sold the drugs to get money to live. If his parents hadn't thrown him to the wolves he wouldn't be in this situation. I asked him why he doesn't take a look at himself, and his behavior regarding his legal, health, and drug problems. I tried to tell him that geography doesn't really matter, that where ever he goes, he is responsible for his own actions. I was trying to tell him that it's the drugs that gave him all of the other problems. I told him the drugs are everywhere, and it was his choice to use them or not. It seemed to be falling on deaf ears. This guy is 32 years old, and just didn't want to listen to anything my friend and I were trying to tell him. I have noticed that alot of people that are addicted to opiates just can't listen to anything, or anyone. Even if they are clean, you can't reason with them. It's annoying listening to them blaming everyone else. Man up and take responsibility for your own actions. You are the person responsible for your own happiness today.
I am curious to know if it's the brain, or the drug, that doesn't allow the addict to listen. He is the one buying and selling the drugs. He is the one getting arrested for buying heroin. Is it a brain impairment? Or is it just the persons personality? Did the drugs destroy the part of the brain that can listen and learn? Why can't he realize that he is causing his own troubles? And that the drugs have caused all of the other problems that have followed. I've heard alot of other moms tell me that their addict children blame everyone else for their problems too. I couldn't believe how serious this guy was while he was ranting. A big 240 pound grown man. With a Bachelors Degree. He's not stupid at all. Yet, I felt like there was no getting through to him. It was like I was talking to a 10 year old. 10 year olds listen and learn better. He really felt that it's his parents fault for making him leave Ohio. I was trying to tell him that he is a 32 year old man and his mom and dad are not responsible for him. He just didn't get it. He shouldn't be depending on his mom and dad at this age. And using drugs in their house is what got him thrown out. He JUST DOESN'T GET IT.
I was talking with a young man today, who has been clean for about 11 months(only because he will go to jail if he comes up dirty). He was blaming his parents, home environment, and his financial status for his problems. Everything and everyone (according to him) is the reason why he became an addict. He said New York City has pushed him over the edge. If he hadn't left his home state he never would have been an addict. And so on and so on. So I asked him if he did drugs in his hometown of Ohio. He said he did, but he could've stopped anytime. So I asked him why he didn't. He said he wasn't ready. His parents threw him out. He said he came to New York to get away from the drugs and friends, and wound up addicted to heroin and xanax worse than before. So, he claims that he left Ohio to get clean, and now has become a worse addict in NY. Then he said that he was recently diagnosed with hepatitis b. He blames NY, and the woman he was sleeping with and sharing a needle with for that. (Again it's not his own fault). He is on probation for felony drug charges for the next 5 years.(Again It's Not his fault). He only sold the drugs to get money to live. If his parents hadn't thrown him to the wolves he wouldn't be in this situation. I asked him why he doesn't take a look at himself, and his behavior regarding his legal, health, and drug problems. I tried to tell him that geography doesn't really matter, that where ever he goes, he is responsible for his own actions. I was trying to tell him that it's the drugs that gave him all of the other problems. I told him the drugs are everywhere, and it was his choice to use them or not. It seemed to be falling on deaf ears. This guy is 32 years old, and just didn't want to listen to anything my friend and I were trying to tell him. I have noticed that alot of people that are addicted to opiates just can't listen to anything, or anyone. Even if they are clean, you can't reason with them. It's annoying listening to them blaming everyone else. Man up and take responsibility for your own actions. You are the person responsible for your own happiness today.
I am curious to know if it's the brain, or the drug, that doesn't allow the addict to listen. He is the one buying and selling the drugs. He is the one getting arrested for buying heroin. Is it a brain impairment? Or is it just the persons personality? Did the drugs destroy the part of the brain that can listen and learn? Why can't he realize that he is causing his own troubles? And that the drugs have caused all of the other problems that have followed. I've heard alot of other moms tell me that their addict children blame everyone else for their problems too. I couldn't believe how serious this guy was while he was ranting. A big 240 pound grown man. With a Bachelors Degree. He's not stupid at all. Yet, I felt like there was no getting through to him. It was like I was talking to a 10 year old. 10 year olds listen and learn better. He really felt that it's his parents fault for making him leave Ohio. I was trying to tell him that he is a 32 year old man and his mom and dad are not responsible for him. He just didn't get it. He shouldn't be depending on his mom and dad at this age. And using drugs in their house is what got him thrown out. He JUST DOESN'T GET IT.
It took me a while to fully accept responsibility Angelic.
I think most addicts come from a place of pain and sorrow - I know I did - so it's probably easier to put the blame on whatever the factors were there.
It keeps the evil 'out there', y'know?
and I can't speak for anyone else but I was just a kid when I started - and the using and drinking kept me there - I look back now and I'm pretty amazed at how childish and immature I was, all the way up through my 30s until I quit at 40.
Add to that the denial factor - noone wants to admit they're an addict, and noone wants to readily admit they screwed up or lost the plot...
so, yeah, I can see why people look for, and sometimes come to vehemently believe, in these external factors as 'the cause'
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I think most addicts come from a place of pain and sorrow - I know I did - so it's probably easier to put the blame on whatever the factors were there.
It keeps the evil 'out there', y'know?
and I can't speak for anyone else but I was just a kid when I started - and the using and drinking kept me there - I look back now and I'm pretty amazed at how childish and immature I was, all the way up through my 30s until I quit at 40.
Add to that the denial factor - noone wants to admit they're an addict, and noone wants to readily admit they screwed up or lost the plot...
so, yeah, I can see why people look for, and sometimes come to vehemently believe, in these external factors as 'the cause'
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If the answer to addiction was simply a matter of reason--helping an addict to see the nature of her or his difficulties--it wouldn't be addiction. And if putting the drug down was all that was necessary to recover from addiction, addicts who had faced serious consequences would never pick back up again. Many addicts who have recovered will tell you that this self-centeredness that stood in the way of their recovery was present long before they picked up a drug, and if they didn't become willing and take steps to reduce and/or eliminate it, they'd have gone back to using.
Cunning, baffling, powerful...no human power could have relieved our addiction...
When he hurts badly enough, he'll seek a solution, either by using again, or by becoming willing to recover.
Peace & Love,
Sugah
Cunning, baffling, powerful...no human power could have relieved our addiction...
When he hurts badly enough, he'll seek a solution, either by using again, or by becoming willing to recover.
Peace & Love,
Sugah
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There is no doubt in my own mind that there are contributing factors in life.......but with all the help at our feet, there is no excuse to keep on using.
The only one person who puts pills into my mouth is me.
Let's face it, all the pleading, all the name calling, all the treatment centres and meetings will do squat if the addict isn't done.
The only one person who puts pills into my mouth is me.
Let's face it, all the pleading, all the name calling, all the treatment centres and meetings will do squat if the addict isn't done.
angelic - your sig line says "Love the addict Hate the disease."
Do you really acknowledge that addiction is a disease?
If so, would you try to convice a person with heart disease, cancer or diabetes that their disease is their choice and by choosing to not have it any longer, it will go away or they will somehow "get it" and be well? All of these are chronic, progressive diseases that have potential for relapse and often end with death.
Just wondering.
Do you really acknowledge that addiction is a disease?
If so, would you try to convice a person with heart disease, cancer or diabetes that their disease is their choice and by choosing to not have it any longer, it will go away or they will somehow "get it" and be well? All of these are chronic, progressive diseases that have potential for relapse and often end with death.
Just wondering.
angelic - your sig line says "Love the addict Hate the disease."
Do you really acknowledge that addiction is a disease?
If so, would you try to convice a person with heart disease, cancer or diabetes that their disease is their choice and by choosing to not have it any longer, it will go away or they will somehow "get it" and be well? All of these are chronic, progressive diseases that have potential for relapse and often end with death.
Just wondering.
Do you really acknowledge that addiction is a disease?
If so, would you try to convice a person with heart disease, cancer or diabetes that their disease is their choice and by choosing to not have it any longer, it will go away or they will somehow "get it" and be well? All of these are chronic, progressive diseases that have potential for relapse and often end with death.
Just wondering.
Addiction is probably one of the only diseases that is self inflicted. If the addict stops using, he will eventually go back to a normal way of life. The brain does heal if the addict gives it a chance to. Almost every drug addict knows that he/she is an addict. Every addict knows that if they continue to use, they might die or end up in jail. What I am trying to say is, if you are an addict, stay away from the drugs. Otherwise your going to have severe troubles in your life. If your an alcoholic, stay out of the bar, and the liquor store.
Recovering from addiction is difficult. I understand that the brain keeps telling the alcoholic/drug user to go and get the substance of his choice. I think the healing starts with taking responsibility for your own actions. Admitting that your addicted and you need to change your ways is one of the first steps to getting well. Realize that you are the person who is responsible for your own health. Not your mom and dad when your 32 years old.
A person with diabetes, cancer or heart disease usually uses some type of a medication to get well. They try treatments,diets, and certain types of therapies.They go to the doctor, and they get treatment. People that have these types of illnesses, try to stay away from what it is that causes the illness, or contributes to it.
Addicts know that they cannot use drugs. If they do, they can't control it. Because they have the brain disease of addiction. So, if your 32 years old, and your mom isn't feeding you anymore, you need to watch what you feed yourself. If your sick, you do what you can to learn about your illness, and then you try to listen to what the professionals tell you to do. If your a drug addict, and you want to stop using, take responsibility for your own actions, and stop blaming others. Understand that your brain is trying to send you out to get more. Ignore it, until the feeling passes. It usually takes over a year or two to stop the brain from sending that message.
My point is don't continue to use drugs, and blame everyone else. You don't bring heroin into your moms house, and then expect not to get thrown out. Most parents wont allow that, because they don't want to lose their home. They also don't want their child shooting dope. It's definitely grounds for eviction. But the addict himself, doesn't think so. He thinks that his mom and dad are selfish, and that they are to blame. I'm trying to figure out why the addict cannot see that he is the one causing the problems. That's what I was trying to say. Thanks for your post Glitter. It made me try to explain a little better. I don't know if I made my point, but I'm trying.
A person with diabetes, cancer or heart disease usually uses some type of a medication to get well. They try treatments,diets, and certain types of therapies.They go to the doctor, and they get treatment. People that have these types of illnesses, try to stay away from what it is that causes the illness, or contributes to it.
There definitely must be a willingness of an addict and an admission of powerlessness over their addiction, but it is not something, one day an addict says, and the next day everything changes and one becomes better. It's just not like that.
If someone were trying to force me to "get it" while I was in the throes of my addiction it would cause me to use even more.
Interesting thread. Thanks Angelic. I think the way of thinking that you describe is something that addicts as well as society battles with. I also think it's the kind of thinking that keeps addicts addicted. Like it's a moral deficiency or inability to choose between right or wrong.
I get where you're coming from D - but I think you have to remember - it's easy to say 'stay out of the liquor store' this side of things, but I literally couldn't do that for 15 years or more.
I had to reach the point where I admitted I had a problem, I couldn't beat it, and I was prepared to do whatever it took to stop.
I had to actively take myself out of the cycle, and stop using or drinking, before I could see things clearly.
I was poisoning myself and making myself insane. Insane people don't do logic very well.
D
I had to reach the point where I admitted I had a problem, I couldn't beat it, and I was prepared to do whatever it took to stop.
I had to actively take myself out of the cycle, and stop using or drinking, before I could see things clearly.
I was poisoning myself and making myself insane. Insane people don't do logic very well.
D
umm i'm real unsure of the politics here so cautiously..... really don't want to upset anyone but..
- when angelic has a rant - it comes from her own experience which after all is why we all come here isn't it?
- she is prepared to give any of us the time of day - she has supported me over 2 yrs... i think u'll find that she had to learn those lessons over a long period and can happily celebrate 5+ yrs clean...from heroin - if you wanted to check her background/blog etc - i dont usually jump to defend - its just this girl has cared so deep and comes from the heart - it hurts her thassall so ... i have only ever seen her get this upset this once - umm i hope u dont mind me sayin - she WAS JUST GIVIN AN EXAMPLE - i am recently clean and she has never given up on me - and anuvver thing - she is only sharing a personal view - the same as we all are lucky to have the freedom to do here
hugs to all
Karma
ps the guy she's talkin of has 11 mnths clean btw.. so not in active addiction.. please read careful..
- when angelic has a rant - it comes from her own experience which after all is why we all come here isn't it?
- she is prepared to give any of us the time of day - she has supported me over 2 yrs... i think u'll find that she had to learn those lessons over a long period and can happily celebrate 5+ yrs clean...from heroin - if you wanted to check her background/blog etc - i dont usually jump to defend - its just this girl has cared so deep and comes from the heart - it hurts her thassall so ... i have only ever seen her get this upset this once - umm i hope u dont mind me sayin - she WAS JUST GIVIN AN EXAMPLE - i am recently clean and she has never given up on me - and anuvver thing - she is only sharing a personal view - the same as we all are lucky to have the freedom to do here
hugs to all
Karma
ps the guy she's talkin of has 11 mnths clean btw.. so not in active addiction.. please read careful..
Last edited by karma35; 11-24-2010 at 03:35 PM. Reason: cos i just had to
Threads like this disturb me. I guess it's a trigger for me...knowing that all the people out there that are angry at addicts and addiction. It's the part of addiction I really hate, always feeling like a loser, getting labeled feeling like real recovery is a myth, once you got the mark of the beast. sigh
I have actually come to realize that this thread is also a trigger for me. LOL!
What happens to me is the .... "I know I'm right and I must convince you that I am right!" In the past with politically charged topics I would literally spend hours and hours looking up reputable references and citations online or share first-hand experience to prove my point.
I've learned (right now anyway in my early sobriety) that I just can't do that. I begin to obsess.
One day when I am able I hope to give back in a way that is helpful when it comes to addiction. As a healthcare professional I feel I have an opportunity to do this....especially within my own profession that sorely lacks in this area.
What happens to me is the .... "I know I'm right and I must convince you that I am right!" In the past with politically charged topics I would literally spend hours and hours looking up reputable references and citations online or share first-hand experience to prove my point.
I've learned (right now anyway in my early sobriety) that I just can't do that. I begin to obsess.
One day when I am able I hope to give back in a way that is helpful when it comes to addiction. As a healthcare professional I feel I have an opportunity to do this....especially within my own profession that sorely lacks in this area.
If I felt any of these posts were an attack I'd remove them.
I know Angelic pretty well and I know her circumstances. I think nearly everyone in this thread does - but the discussion here has been fairly general and universal in its scope, and I think within the rules and not inflammatory or hostile.
We're a discussion board - it's ok to discuss stuff - even if we disagree on a few points
If the thread makes you uncomfortable, it's probably best to leave it for a while.
D
I know Angelic pretty well and I know her circumstances. I think nearly everyone in this thread does - but the discussion here has been fairly general and universal in its scope, and I think within the rules and not inflammatory or hostile.
We're a discussion board - it's ok to discuss stuff - even if we disagree on a few points
If the thread makes you uncomfortable, it's probably best to leave it for a while.
D
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I started my addiction early in life, well before my brain had a chance to fully develop. I also didn't care what I was doing to my mind and body because of an attitude that was shaped by childhood trauma. So yes I did pick up drugs but I was also confused and ashamed of being me.
I see addiction as a brain disease. Drug use hijacks the brain, essentially hijacks the person. Its like addiction runs the show. It alters perception, experiences and thoughts in a way the protect the addict from seeing things as the are. I wish it was as simple as wake up and smell the coffee...poof, no more addiction. But living in a dream world where reality is so distorted and twisted, just doesn't lend its self easily to wake up calls.
Reality did seep in to my addiction eventually. And the wake up call was a stark bone jarring realization that I needed to change my ways or die. Even this kind of experience is not enough for some in addiction...it was for me tho. Knowing that there was a need for change in my life was just the start. I had to develop new living skills in order to get out of my patterns of living that were conducive to drug use. Like having a recovery program with support.
I see addiction as a brain disease. Drug use hijacks the brain, essentially hijacks the person. Its like addiction runs the show. It alters perception, experiences and thoughts in a way the protect the addict from seeing things as the are. I wish it was as simple as wake up and smell the coffee...poof, no more addiction. But living in a dream world where reality is so distorted and twisted, just doesn't lend its self easily to wake up calls.
Reality did seep in to my addiction eventually. And the wake up call was a stark bone jarring realization that I needed to change my ways or die. Even this kind of experience is not enough for some in addiction...it was for me tho. Knowing that there was a need for change in my life was just the start. I had to develop new living skills in order to get out of my patterns of living that were conducive to drug use. Like having a recovery program with support.
let's remember you are speaking about ONE person who happens to be an addict......as an addict myself i get a smidge uncomfy when ALL addicts are lumped into the "THEM" column and ALL the bad behaviors of some are heaped upon ALL addicts.
most of the addicts i know, present or past, did NOT blame everyone else for their problems. most of the addicts i know took full responsibility for their condition, knew they were addicted.........just depended on whether or not they were ready and willing to DO anything about it.
lot of secondary, ancillary behaviors are blamed ON addiction, and yet truly the hallmarks OF addiction are pretty simple - abuse of mind altering chemicals and/or substances to the point where a physical/psychological dependence is developed and the use becomes the primary coping mechanism in life.
i'm curious why this one individual got you so worked up. why you took him to task in the effort to try and make him see the light. to create a conversion in his way of thinking and living? when his perspective was clear and unwavering? is it him or what he represents?
an addict in recovery knows to stay away from the first one. but an addict caught in throes of ACTIVE addiction doesn't HAVE that clarity...not for very long anyways. it's a physical compulsion and a mental obsession......for many its the only "relief" they know, from that endless stream of chatter in the brain, all those voices. all the coulda's and shoulda's, all the heartbreak and disapointment, all the wreckage.
i imagine you've never had every cell in your body SCREAM for drugs. you're lucky. never been so overcome with cravings that you curl in a ball, rocking, crying, half out of your mind. never been so overtaken with the thought of MORE that it blots out all other thought, and the ONLY way you know to get any peace is to get more dope and make it all ok again, for a bit. never made yourself the promise that you'll just have ONE drink........or leave the bar at midnight. and find yourself staggering to the car after last call, getting ready to drive home when you can't even read the street signs. saying NO a hundred times, and meaning it, and caving in to just one YES. and hating it.
for the next week try giving up one consistent thing in your life.....white flour, cigarettes, coffee, dairy products......or try consistently every day to brush your teeth with the OTHER hand......drive a completely different route to work and home....completely CHANGE some central aspect of your life...something will cause some angst and inconvenience, something that you here to for like, enjoy or that falls into the crutch or habit category....don't drive your car, take the bus........change EVERY computer password.......see how difficult not doing something so seemingly innocuous can be....for one week, 7 days, without one slip up. then magnify that a hundred times.
most of the addicts i know, present or past, did NOT blame everyone else for their problems. most of the addicts i know took full responsibility for their condition, knew they were addicted.........just depended on whether or not they were ready and willing to DO anything about it.
lot of secondary, ancillary behaviors are blamed ON addiction, and yet truly the hallmarks OF addiction are pretty simple - abuse of mind altering chemicals and/or substances to the point where a physical/psychological dependence is developed and the use becomes the primary coping mechanism in life.
i'm curious why this one individual got you so worked up. why you took him to task in the effort to try and make him see the light. to create a conversion in his way of thinking and living? when his perspective was clear and unwavering? is it him or what he represents?
an addict in recovery knows to stay away from the first one. but an addict caught in throes of ACTIVE addiction doesn't HAVE that clarity...not for very long anyways. it's a physical compulsion and a mental obsession......for many its the only "relief" they know, from that endless stream of chatter in the brain, all those voices. all the coulda's and shoulda's, all the heartbreak and disapointment, all the wreckage.
i imagine you've never had every cell in your body SCREAM for drugs. you're lucky. never been so overcome with cravings that you curl in a ball, rocking, crying, half out of your mind. never been so overtaken with the thought of MORE that it blots out all other thought, and the ONLY way you know to get any peace is to get more dope and make it all ok again, for a bit. never made yourself the promise that you'll just have ONE drink........or leave the bar at midnight. and find yourself staggering to the car after last call, getting ready to drive home when you can't even read the street signs. saying NO a hundred times, and meaning it, and caving in to just one YES. and hating it.
for the next week try giving up one consistent thing in your life.....white flour, cigarettes, coffee, dairy products......or try consistently every day to brush your teeth with the OTHER hand......drive a completely different route to work and home....completely CHANGE some central aspect of your life...something will cause some angst and inconvenience, something that you here to for like, enjoy or that falls into the crutch or habit category....don't drive your car, take the bus........change EVERY computer password.......see how difficult not doing something so seemingly innocuous can be....for one week, 7 days, without one slip up. then magnify that a hundred times.
Believe me, I have learned alot about addiction over the years. I would never judge any addict. They are human beings just like anyone else. Addicts are the best and strongest people in the world to me. My brother died from a heroin overdose. I too was addicted to Vicodins for 10 years. That is an opiate, I'm sure you already know that. I was able to take responsibility for myself knowing that I took the pills,and I abused them for a long time. My doc gave them to me for a broken arm and leg after a car accident. I stayed on them 9 years after my bones healed. I took them in mass quantities.
So, believe me, I'm not lumping or judging all addicts. I don't think the way this young man thinks at all. I was able to understand my brain.
I think this guy's denial really aggravated me because, he kept blaming his parents. He has great parents. And, he's not the first person I have seen do this blaming. I was wondering about the drug and the brain. That's what I was trying to say. Besides I am an addict 5 years into my own recovery. I am also the mother of an addict. My son drove me crazy with his addiction. It broke my heart. That was the most hurtful experience of my life. He is clean now, and I am grateful. I ran after him, and chased him trying to save his life. I later learned that didn't work. I had to let go, and when I did he decided to stop using drugs. My son has never blamed me for his addiction. I blamed myself for a while thinking that he got it from me. He knows that he put the drugs in his body. Not me. However, addiction runs in my family. My mother was an alcoholic, my brother a heroin addict. My sister is 11 years clean from opiate pills. So maybe he did get the gene from me. I heard it's hereditary.
So, I do know what it's like to come off of drugs. To suffer the torment of needing more of the drug to feel normal. I was taking 25-30 Vicodin ES a day for years. When I stopped using, believe me I felt it. All of the changes, I had terrible anxiety, I was hot and cold. I had chills, aches and pains. I couldn't get comfortable in my own skin for months. It felt like torture. It was a big struggle for me to stay clean. I dragged myself around for about a year until I started feeling just a little bit better. I'm sorry you got the wrong impression of me. This is good though, because it's going to make me be more careful when I post something. I will definitely analyze what I write before I submit. It seems everytime I post something it doesn't come out the way I meant it. Anyway, thank you. I appreciate your input. Have a Happy Thanksgiving
Threads like this disturb me. I guess it's a trigger for me...knowing that all the people out there that are angry at addicts and addiction. It's the part of addiction I really hate, always feeling like a loser, getting labeled feeling like real recovery is a myth, once you got the mark of the beast. sigh
I get where you're coming from D - but I think you have to remember - it's easy to say 'stay out of the liquor store' this side of things, but I literally couldn't do that for 15 years or more.
I had to reach the point where I admitted I had a problem, I couldn't beat it, and I was prepared to do whatever it took to stop.
I had to actively take myself out of the cycle, and stop using or drinking, before I could see things clearly.
I was poisoning myself and making myself insane. Insane people don't do logic very well.
D
I had to reach the point where I admitted I had a problem, I couldn't beat it, and I was prepared to do whatever it took to stop.
I had to actively take myself out of the cycle, and stop using or drinking, before I could see things clearly.
I was poisoning myself and making myself insane. Insane people don't do logic very well.
D
umm i'm real unsure of the politics here so cautiously..... really don't want to upset anyone but..
- when angelic has a rant - it comes from her own experience which after all is why we all come here isn't it?
- she is prepared to give any of us the time of day - she has supported me over 2 yrs... i think u'll find that she had to learn those lessons over a long period and can happily celebrate 5+ yrs clean...from heroin - if you wanted to check her background/blog etc - i dont usually jump to defend - its just this girl has cared so deep and comes from the heart - it hurts her thassall so ... i have only ever seen her get this upset this once - umm i hope u dont mind me sayin - she WAS JUST GIVIN AN EXAMPLE - i am recently clean and she has never given up on me - and anuvver thing - she is only sharing a personal view - the same as we all are lucky to have the freedom to do here
hugs to all
Karma
ps the guy she's talkin of has 11 mnths clean btw.. so not in active addiction.. please read careful..
- when angelic has a rant - it comes from her own experience which after all is why we all come here isn't it?
- she is prepared to give any of us the time of day - she has supported me over 2 yrs... i think u'll find that she had to learn those lessons over a long period and can happily celebrate 5+ yrs clean...from heroin - if you wanted to check her background/blog etc - i dont usually jump to defend - its just this girl has cared so deep and comes from the heart - it hurts her thassall so ... i have only ever seen her get this upset this once - umm i hope u dont mind me sayin - she WAS JUST GIVIN AN EXAMPLE - i am recently clean and she has never given up on me - and anuvver thing - she is only sharing a personal view - the same as we all are lucky to have the freedom to do here
hugs to all
Karma
ps the guy she's talkin of has 11 mnths clean btw.. so not in active addiction.. please read careful..
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