What and when an alcoholic can drink safely
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What and when an alcoholic can drink safely
I think:
"I could stick to wine, or beer" -- but since I don't particularly like either one, having one or the other would just make me angry and frustrated, and since I would by that time have already lost my sober sense, I'd just end up under a bottle of bourbon, anyway.
I think:
"I could limit myself to 1 drink before dinner." Which would spoil dinner, because at best I'd be wanting another, and at worst I'd have another and several more.
Or, "I could limit myself to one or two before bed." But the liquor would then be in the house, and even ignoring the fact that 2 would mean 6, it would be a matter of days before I wanted and took one or two to get out the door in the morning.
Or, "I could limit myself to a random shot on a random morning or a random binge once in a blue moon." But blue moons and random mornings would soon happen every day, all day. In for a penny, in for a pound was always sound logic to my drinking self.
Sometimes lately I try to think of a way to make drinking work for me again, I wish I didn't but I do. But I just can't come up with one. I can't even moderate my imagination!
"I could stick to wine, or beer" -- but since I don't particularly like either one, having one or the other would just make me angry and frustrated, and since I would by that time have already lost my sober sense, I'd just end up under a bottle of bourbon, anyway.
I think:
"I could limit myself to 1 drink before dinner." Which would spoil dinner, because at best I'd be wanting another, and at worst I'd have another and several more.
Or, "I could limit myself to one or two before bed." But the liquor would then be in the house, and even ignoring the fact that 2 would mean 6, it would be a matter of days before I wanted and took one or two to get out the door in the morning.
Or, "I could limit myself to a random shot on a random morning or a random binge once in a blue moon." But blue moons and random mornings would soon happen every day, all day. In for a penny, in for a pound was always sound logic to my drinking self.
Sometimes lately I try to think of a way to make drinking work for me again, I wish I didn't but I do. But I just can't come up with one. I can't even moderate my imagination!
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I think it's part of the addiction - I tried beer, I tried wine, I tried spirits...Eventually trhey all ended up the same way...Me very much not in control.
It took me many years and many ridiculous and/or dangerous situations, but I eventually accepted that alcohol and I were a toxic mix.
I'm glad to hear you can't mioderate your imagination Courage
whatever you want alcohol to do for you, there has to be a better healthier way of achieving that aim?
D
It took me many years and many ridiculous and/or dangerous situations, but I eventually accepted that alcohol and I were a toxic mix.
I'm glad to hear you can't mioderate your imagination Courage
whatever you want alcohol to do for you, there has to be a better healthier way of achieving that aim?
D
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Originally Posted by courage2 
Sometimes lately I try to think of a way to make drinking work for me again, I wish I didn't but I do. But I just can't come up with one. I can't even moderate my imagination!
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I stayed sober in AA for four years then relapsed the last two. It doesn't get better. I have a month now and I have an honest desire to stop drinking I'm just gonna take it a day at a time when I have cravings I pray so far it's got me threw some tuff days.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
whatever you want alcohol to do for you, there has to be a better healthier way of achieving that aim?
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This is flawed thinking if youre an alcoholic...Jesus made wine. I use to say that when people would com0lain I would drink. Now i accept that i was born to not stop at one, i never had. first time i got drunk i drank champagne, however you spell it, was also only time i drank it. I was whatever age you were in 5th grade it was new years i liked the acceptance i got from the adults i ******* face planted in the yard. Nobody helped me then. Help now is a bit better being mature but its just crazy thinking.
play solitaire? its not that hard to set up. i think ive done like 20 games in the last few days i have yet to win one... i lose to myself, >HA goodluck.
play solitaire? its not that hard to set up. i think ive done like 20 games in the last few days i have yet to win one... i lose to myself, >HA goodluck.
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I read somewhere they where trying to come up with a pill that would sober you right back up. I thought alas that's the magical answer for me. I could drink like a fish then when I'm done pop that pill and be fresh again to go about my way. But then I thought further about how that would tick me off and I'd probably promptly start drinking like a fish again. ::facepalm::
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Originally Posted by zjw
I read somewhere they where trying to come up with a pill that would sober you right back up. I thought alas that's the magical answer for me.
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Originally Posted by courage2
...Sometimes lately I try to think of a way to make drinking work for me again, I wish I didn't but I do. But I just can't come up with one. I can't even moderate my imagination!
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Nice thread C2 -
I heard recently a speaker state - alcohol wasn't the problem, it was the solution. Of course this is certainly been repeated by many others , but it struck a chord for me that night.
I have to find other solutions......
Can't moderate my imagination! - love it, so on point. The Secret Life of Walter Mitty comes to mind
I heard recently a speaker state - alcohol wasn't the problem, it was the solution. Of course this is certainly been repeated by many others , but it struck a chord for me that night.
I have to find other solutions......
Can't moderate my imagination! - love it, so on point. The Secret Life of Walter Mitty comes to mind
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Can't tell you how many times I've gone a few days totally straight, then had a couple of days with one or two drinks and convince myself hey I can moderate this. I feel great. We all know the next step then; binging and being back to square 1 and feeling awful. I've found this to be one of the hardest things to accept that I simply can't moderate any of it. Good post.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I think it's part of the addiction - I tried beer, I tried wine, I tried spirits...Eventually trhey all ended up the same way...Me very much not in control.
It took me many years and many ridiculous and/or dangerous situations, but I eventually accepted that alcohol and I were a toxic mix.
I'm glad to hear you can't mioderate your imagination Courage
whatever you want alcohol to do for you, there has to be a better healthier way of achieving that aim?
D
It took me many years and many ridiculous and/or dangerous situations, but I eventually accepted that alcohol and I were a toxic mix.
I'm glad to hear you can't mioderate your imagination Courage
whatever you want alcohol to do for you, there has to be a better healthier way of achieving that aim?
D
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You are doing great Courage! I had those thoughts pop up too especially as I approached my year. I made it by doing exactly what you are, posting about it. I have no desire to moderate anyway. That's why I had to quit. Once I get going the desire is insatiable.
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