My husband didn't want me to quit either. Then we had a bad patch, and we both quit for 5 months. Then I relapsed, and he started right back up.
Now I have 9 days again, and he's still a regular beer drinker. Does he have a problem? Dont know, that's up to him. He drinks different then me. He's an every day beer guy, not always drunk, occasional binges when he chooses. I'm a ... well, control teehee ... that's just a silly asumption for me. I'm a morning drunk, night time wondering what I did kind of gal.
He still thinks I could do wine coolers or mikes ... I love those drinks. But I love them as chasers, lol, and no matter how I try 'control'- I fail. He does not see how much I drank during my short relapse (I did not show then, and when I share now he thinks it's exageration because I hid it so well), but he did see my moods drop, my body quickly spiral downwards, and even more, my intense fear. Yup ... still wants me to drink wine coolers, nope, can't handle the word 'addicted' or 'alcoholic'. But if I say no, he doesn't push. It's my job to say no, if I rely on him (or anyone else) I'm screwed. Just me and my HP.
Anyway ... I'm there. He's the only one that does not believe I have a problem. He's my best friend, and I spend more time with him then anyone else. It's hard. But it's out of my control. I can't force him to 'see' it. I can only work on my sobriety. If I expect him to accept me as I am, I have to accept him as he is. It's a two way street I guess, and on this one, we sorta meet somewhere in the middle.
"I can't forget I am a sole architect; I build the shadows here ... I built the growling voice I fear" (Poe)