Originally Posted by Strawberry18 (Post 6995127)

Sobor sex. I can't do this . Tryed last night. It's hard :(

Originally Posted by snitch (Post 6995724)

Hey everyone,
Daisy, how lovely to have a true friend like that! And even better she doesn't drink too. Have a wonderful time away. I LOVE caravans!!
Ahhh strawberry bless you! The only time I have had sober sex is hungover sex lol!!! I can't imagine meeting someone new and doing "the deed" the 1st time without alcohol eek I mean, to feel REAL feelings! Heaven forbid lol! But from what I hear it is sooooo much better. Maybe it's the MIL putting you off 😂😂
Donny, well done for not listening to the AV. Remember these are just thoughts and we can't stop these thoughts from popping into our heads but its what we do with them that matters.
Vipe, Hope you are feeling better but as you say, everyday you don't drink you are healing and doing something so amazing for your body. I've been punishing my body for 20 plus years with alcohol. It's gonna take time.
Blusey, I was laighing and nodding at your response. There I am thinking (or my alcoholic mind is) that a drink will make me bond with a person and I look back at all ths friendships I have lost because of alcohol. Cunning, baffling, powerful!!! It is all LIES. Lol.
Hi Dee! Freat advice as usual!!

Ahhh guys i feely totally drained after this weekend. Friday evening wiped me out. Saturday was lovely as we stayed at my friend's who I love and have known for years and doesn't drink!!!! Hallelujah!! And we had a great time. Sunday we went to my parents and the stress started again. Not with my parents but my brother. Brief story. He has been a cannabis user since he was in his early teens. It has caused my parents alot of angst and worry. He is married now for 7 years with 2 gorgoeus kids 3 and 1 but he smokes cannabis daily, drinks quite heavily and now his wife suspects he is using cocaine when he is out. He goes to the pub alot after work instead of going home and it is causing problems in their marriage. They live 5 mins from my parents and my mum and dad are really worried. A year ago he contracted pneumonia and was in hospital. The doctors could tell by his xrays on his lungs that he was a cannabis user. They must be charred to bits! He also smokes heavily. And the doctors were shocked at how thin he was. He was so ill that his vital organs were starting to shut down. My mum and dad said he was crying and he was so terrified he was going to die and he vowed to change his lifestyle if he got better. Ha! Within a week of leaving hospital he was back drinking and smoking. Last weekend it all kicked off because he was down the pub drinking and his wife suspected cocaine use . He promised her he would cut down (blah blah...think they call it quacking on the friends and families of alcoholics forum lol) so yesterday we went bowling and I assumed (hoped) he wouldn't be drinking to try to appease his wife for his behaviour for last weekend but no. Within seconds of being there he had a large glass of red wine quickly followed by another. His wife was pissed off and I was a bit agitated too as once again I am subjected to being around alcohol! It was right in front of me the whole time. I could smell it. Almost taste it! Am getting sick of it. I went back to my mum and dads and his wife went home with their little one and he came round with his 3 year old plus a bottle of red wine just expecting to sit there drinking all afternoon! My mum and dad said they didn't want it round theirs and my brother reacted exactly how I would have done. Started shouting, saying he only wanted one glass (okkkkk) that he can't drink at home either so he was gonna go to the pub. My mum tried to plead with him but it was no use. He stormed out. I text his wife to let her know. She was upset and angry. It was awful. He did call about an hour later to apologise to my mum. My mum said we are just worried about him and he said why, because I have A(!) drink?! He is in total denial. My mum said it isn't only the drink we are concerned about. I offered to pick him up and he said he was gonna eat at the pub and call back. We never heard from him.

I am drained with it all and I need to definitely start putting boundaries in place to protect myself and mt own sobriety. For starters, I am not going to pubs anymore. And I am going to stay away from people who are drinking alcohol including my brother. I need to put myself and my recovery first. On the AA chips you receive it says "to thine own self be true". Each and every one if us here deserves this. To be true to our own selves. It is amazing how much peace and serenity it can give you to be true to yourself.

Well I am gonna try to sleep again now. Tomorrow I am taking my daughter to the big fun inflatable park. I have booked to jump also. It will be fun! My brother and his family were meant to come too but my brother reckoned it was a waste of money (yep you read that right!) We know what a waste of money is (booze, drugs) and it is not having fun with your kids! Still that is his issue and I am powerless. So I have cancelled them off and am going to go with my baby and have some good, clean FUN!!!!

Love you all!!!
X x

Originally Posted by Erratic (Post 6995772)

Morn everyone xx just a short message this morn.

“Be helpful. When you see a person without a smile, give them yours” – Zig Ziglar

thinking of u all x

Originally Posted by kgirl41 (Post 6995918)

Hi everyone :) I had a very busy week and weekend and wasn't able to get out here. I will catch up tonight I just wanted to pop in and say high. I've continued to keep off all mu current no no's..alcohol, diet coke, sugar, and grains (mostly gluten)
Stats:
Alcohol Day 135
Sugar/Grains Day 7
Diet Coke Day 8

I hope everyone is doing well :grouphug:

Originally Posted by Viperidae (Post 6996280)

Hi my friends. 💙

I’m up and down, and feel terrible and then ‘just ok.’ I googled “how long does it take to recover from alcohol,” and found articles on Post Accute Withdrawal Syndrome or Protracted Post Accute Withdrawals. Let’s face it, I F-ed myself. I’m in rough shape. It does get better, but this takes up to 18 months. I hope 6 months brings relief.

They stress things for recovery: Diet, B Vitamins, Exercise (very important to heal), etc. Also, the damage might be done and that’s it. You don’t get better.

I think finding a hot place for winter, away from party zones, eating really healthy, using supplements, and starting to walk and swim, is what I need to do. No other priorities. My only aspiration should be to get better. Even if it’s here in the freezing cold. Of course winter makes me extremely depressed, so it’s probably a bad idea to stay here. Eat, exercise and sweat it out.

Don’t think about work, career, my dreams, just ‘get well.’

Tomorrow will be 6 weeks. It’s a bummer I’m not coming around.

V🐍

Originally Posted by bluesymusey (Post 6996641)

Your brothers behaviors sound sooooo familiar ! Truth is, he won’t stop unless he’s ready and often time (sadly) people don’t quit even when their health is on the line. Boundaries sound like a good idea and you need to be most kind and loving to yourself right now - seems like you are doing just that :)

Originally Posted by Strawberry18 (Post 6997431)

I failed . I'm a mess . Went out for dinner last night and drank . And today .

Originally Posted by Daisybelle (Post 6996965)

We had an amazing first night, we walked along the beach, collected some beautiful pebbles and painted them when we got back to the car an. Today we're going to hide them for others to find. We're just getting ready to go out to visit a castle in the next village and then more beach hopefully.

Originally Posted by Viperidae (Post 6997541)

Well another random Good Day. It’s tough to do deal with the dramatic ups and downs.

I had a good meeting with my APRN today. We have a good game plan. She’s having me tested for every tick borne illness. I’m getting auto immune tests (ANA), she’s getting me an infectious disease specialist to consult about that Rabies Vaccine. I’m even paying out of pocket for more advanced testing on my food issues.

Pull out all the stops. Rule things out. Make the best of it. Wether the storm.

6 weeks done ✅. Here’s to a more smooth 6 sober weeks to come.

💚
V🐍

Originally Posted by Quitnow4 (Post 6997368)

Hi April Class,
I’m still reading here daily, but I’m posting more in the August 2018 now and can barely keep up there. Back at day 2 with greater resolve to quit drinking for good. Finally pulled myself out of an 8 day black hole where I tried each and everyday to have it be the last, but let the power of addiction win.

Feel like I’m back in the light, and I never want to go back. You are all
An inspiration to me and that’s why I am compelled to check in here every chance I get.

I just didn’t want you all to think I abandoned ship. Love to all. I can’t wait to get as far along as so many of you are. Well done. Keep at it and never look back.