Hello all!! I was hoping for some advice on what I should maybe do.
I had posted before about issues I had concerning my hub's sister and her kids, specifically, her daughter. SIL has taken shameful advantage of me in the past (ie-babysitting, etc) I had decided to step back from this, but recently was sucked into another sleepover. My biggest issue lately was SIL's thinking of me when her daughter wants to come over, but when a fun event came up over the summer, she did not think of me, or my kids, enough to tell us about it and get us tickets. There are many other things(if you are interested,
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I have 2 10 year old girls. Neice is 11.
On Christmas Eve we went to his other sister's house. Unknown to us, niece's dad was picking the kids up- right when we got there , to, I assume, stay with him all week.Tomorrow night, we are going over his sister's also, not neice's mother. Tonight, Neice called. Talked to one of the kids, and then asked to talk to me. She asked if she could come over tomorrow, and go with us to her aunt's house and then, whatever (meaning- stay with us) I told her I had to talk to hub and would let her know tomorrow.
Now, I have to work at 8am NY Day. What I had envisioned for tomorrow night was: leaving sil's at about 1, either with hub and kids in tow(unlikely) or (more likely) leaving hub and kids there, with other cousins. Note that SIL's house is pretty big, and there is plenty of room for the kids to play. As I have to work the next AM, I can't take kids home alone with me.
So, my dilemma is two fold-- I have no idea what the custody arrangement for neice is.. I asked her if she was SUPPOSED to be with her dad tomorrow night, she said "whatever".. I also don't know what her mom is doing tomorrow night. It would be awkward to walk in with this child, and her mom be there.
I really don't want to take her. That's why I want to clear this with hub, as I am assuming I will be leaving sil's alone. However, I will feel like a mean heel if I refuse her the chance to spend NY Eve with all her cousins. Her mom and dad do not have a cordial relationship so the adult suggestion of them coming to an agreement is out of the question. Plus, do I want to call either one of them and suggest he drop her off with her mom?? Too much involvement..
So I have 2 options-- Do what I really want to do and say no, or crush a poor lonely child's hope of a decent NYE??