Impressive attitude, seems to me like the most important thing for you to have is a perspective on what is coming your way.

Keep it up and let us know how it goes. Best of luck.
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It is good to hear from you, rich. I have thought about you. I am glad you have an excellent and compassionate attorney! Even though this mess would not have happened without your actions, I am very sorry for your struggles. This could have been me, and perhaps others here. I was one of the lucky ones.

It is good to see you being hopeful and Sharing your story with others, who will hopefully learn from this.

Whatever comes your way, even if the worst, a brief time in prison, has to happen, there is still a good life out there for you, you can make changes, you can inspire others.

It's good to see you around, Rich! I hope you can get minimal/no prison time but you have the correct outlook on it. You're taking responsibility for what you did, that's important. More punishment won't help the victim nor you but at this point the system will have to be navigated.

The really important thing is to control what you can control. Best wishes to you!

Glad to hear that you're feeling positive about your new lawyer, rich. Stay strong and sober.

Just checking in to say hi Rich, hope you're doing well.😊

Hey.

I'm glad to see you posting updates. I think it quite therapeutic to have a place like this for you to speak your mind and vent/ cope with the anxiety of the situation.

It's impressive to see you take the responsibility and do the things you need to do to keep moving forward. Changing attorneys was a big deal and a very smart move.

I came close to your situation - very close. The thought of it still shakes me to this day. I feel a great amount of empathy about where you are right now. I spent enough time dealing with the legal and corrections part of the world to know a bit of what's what.

As odd as it may seem. Embrace it. All of it. Let go of everything you know and everything you were and soak in everything that is coming your way. 4 years sucks, but in the grand scheme it's not forever - you have and you will have a ton of living to do and it can be good living... very good living. In a way, losing everything is a gift few get to experience.

And, you didn't kill anyone. In time make sure you work on learning to forgive yourself. You deserve that and will deserve it even more after you pay your dues. There will come a point where you will have paid. And at that point you will only owe yourself forgiveness... you will owe no one nothing. That time isn't now, but it will come. And you - as part of rebuilding your dignity - need to start acknowledging that after you pay your dues you deserve to be whole again.

You have a great life waiting for you. A few years of very intense and abrupt change and intensity. But you have an opportunity few get. I joke with people in my life that 'if you haven't been to jail you aren't living.' People always laugh in an uncomfortable way. But the truth is I'm not joking. I changed in ways I could not have if I had not gone through the hell I went through. I wouldn't change it for the world. The trials that we face really can harden our character. And there are some trials and some aspects of character that can't be hardened - some experience that can't be earned - without going to some of the darkest places a man can go.

The world at large might not understand that and might not care. But so what? This is a great opportunity for you to dive deep into yourself and learn things few get the chance to learn or experience. So yea, embrace it. All of it - especially the suck.

Keep moving forward bud. One step at a time.

You have a lot of living to do yet. And you are going to have one hell of a set of experiences to live that life with.

Best to you. Keep posting. Feel free to reach out anytime.

-B

Just to let you know we're still thinking about you Rich and hoping for the best for you and all concerned.

Still thinking of you Rich. You're not forgotten.

This could have easily been me. I'm lucky to have never hurt anyone driving under the influence. I'm also lucky to have never been pulled over while driving under the influence.

It's not a question of if, but when. I'm sorry for you, Rich, and for the person you hurt that it came to this; but you should know that you've reinforced my sobriety.

So sorry to hear this Rich. Glad you changed lawyers. Everyone almost is guilty of drink driving even non alcoholics. Hope you are doing okay. All you can do is go with the flow now. One step at a time.

Hi Rich, I am still keeping my fingers crossed for everyone involved, you especially and am hoping against hope that the worst hasn't happened. There will be a lot of people on SR who feel the same. I would love to see another post from you if that is possible.

Hi RIch - I've read all of your posts and they shook me to my core. I know that this could have easily been me and I've made the decision not to ever drink again (as a few wise people have mentioned in this thread).

Please keep us informed as to your disposition, legally, emotionally, and your general outlook for the future.

Rich,

Thank you for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you and I wish you the very best outcome, which includes sobriety. For all of us.

You're not forgotten here Rich. Best wishes.

Every fine this thread shows up I hope Rich is posting an update. Thinking about you Rich, and sending so much love!