My dog is dying. Doubt I'll make through the night and up coming days.....
 

If she makes it through the night I have to get her to the vet first thing in the morning and end her suffering.

I'm on day 109 and ready to throw it out the window. It hurts do damn much and I only know one way to stop that pain.

Hey Eric, very sorry to hear about your dog!! :(

Alcohol though isn't going bring her back, those feelings are going to be there in the morning and the next day, don't throw away 109 days for a short term fix.

Hang in there!! :grouphug:

My heart goes out to you. I would be in the same mindset as you if it was me with one of my dogs. Drinking won't help though, it will just end up giving you another thing to be depressed about. Spend the night, and future days, reflecting on all the great times you shared with your dog. Every time you start to feel the urge, reflect on the happy times you two shared.

Thanks. I can use all the kind words yall can give.

Aw ****. I'm sorry Eric.

Drinking over it won't help either you or her, though. You know that, I know you do. It won't stop the pain, it will only delay it and then you'll be hungover and guilty and still grieving.

I'm really sorry. My dogs are central to my existence and losing a good dog is just awful. Can you get her to a vet tonight?

I feel for ya Eric. My dog means every thing to me also. Just hang in there. In time it will all get better. Drink won't help.

Eric, I am so sorry to hear about your dog. I'm sure you must be devastated. But purpleknight is right. Drinking won't change a thing about this awful situation. I have 112 days, so I am only 3 days ahead of you, and I know those 112 days were hard fought and hard won. Don't throw away almost 4 months. Stay strong Eric, we are here for you.

I lost my kitty of 15 years a few months ago. I considered drinking because I was so upset, but I decided to honor her memory by not drinking and continue my sobriety journey. Please don't drink. I know how hard it is to lose a furbaby. (((HUGS)))

To lose a beloved dog is one of the hardest things in life to go through. I still miss my german shepherd who died last year.Sometimes I think it's harder than losing a person. ...but the best thing you can do is feel your feelings and don't drink. Drinking away the sorrow will only postpone the mourning you have to go through. And you will feel like crap. Keep your 109 days and cope with this. I'm so sorry about your dog.

I cant because this one is my fathers decision. I'm back living with him during my recovery. If it was up to me I would but he wont. Shes in a lot of pain and suffering from internal bleeding but he just wont do it. TO top off the great day hes working an overnight shift so I get to be home alone with my thoughts and my suffering dog.... **** this sucks....

So sorry about your dog, Eric. I have two dogs myself - I am sure it must be so hard for you at the moment. Try and realize that drinking won't help you. It only postpones the pain and grieving process. Best to try and feel it as it comes, in the present. I know that's easier said than done.

Try and keep in your mind the happy times you've had with your dog. Just know you've done a great thing by being there for her. She loves you.

Hang in there, and keep posting here if it helps!

So sorry to hear this :( Try and focus on all the love your dog has given to you during your time together. Stay sober and be there for her tonight. It will comfort her and in times to come, you'll know you did everythng possible for her.

As an animal lover - my heart truly goes out to you x

Gotcha.

Tell her she is an amazing good dog and be present with her. She is probably not hurting (that's your anthromorphising probably), just weak and woozy and looking for reassurance and comfort.

Stay sober, be with her and take her to the vet in the morning.

Sucks to loose a pet- and their unconditional love.

Unfortunately you- and everyone who has ever owned a pet- will eventually have to face the pain (not telling you anything you don't already know). We all kind of know that going in, and recognize the years of happiness, companionship, and memories are going to be worth the pain of loosing our freinds. Certainly doesn't lesson the "suck".

I'm pulling for you to make a decision that you're proud of during a very difficult time.

I'm really sorry Eric. Losing a pet is never easy.

The worst thing I ever did was drink over it tho. However scared and sad we are, imagine how it is for our loved pet?

They need you there, fully present, to take charge, make decisions - and to love them in those last days.

I was not there for my pet - I was lost in my own pain...and self indulgence.
I've made my peace with it...but I will always regret that.

when it's over, remember it's ok to grieve - it's natural - resist the urge to numb the pain. You *can* handle it, I promise.

You will feel sad, you'll cry, but you'll get through it too.

Drinking just keeps us in a holding pattern of grief and pain.
D

Do you have someone else in recovery
that you know of that lives near you,
a relative or friend, that can come to
you? Someone that you can talk to besides
being here in SR?

We never have to go thru anything in
recovery and life alone or by ourselves.
If you are determined to remain sober
by all means, then reach out to someone
close to you so you wont be tempted to
drink.

Both of my cats who lived long happy
lives passed away several yrs ago close
together. They were brothers. One passed
on his own and the other we put down
to avoid going thru servere pain.

Yes, the emotional pain of loosing our
adorable pets that have given us unconditional
love for yrs does take its toll. However, we
work thru it and we remain sober living on
the wonderful memories they gave us thru
the yrs. We will always have them.

I completely understand your pain. :hug: Please don't drink. :hug: It won't help.:(

Ive lost a dog i understand i am really sorry its horrible

hang in there

Not anymore. Over the years of being a sack of **** while I was an addict I've burned every bridge I had. All I have left is a few family members....now there's one less....

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Hi JustEric,

Hang in there. We are here to listen. I'm so sorry to hear your dog's health has taken a turn. They are such special creatures and it must be so painful for you. Please do not throw out a good long stint of sobriety for this. You will need to be strong and sober.

I'm so sorry about your beloved dog, Eric. I had a cat that wasn't doing well, at night, couldn't afford to take her to emergency vet, so just laid with her and snuggled until I could get to the vet in the morning.

It's very, very hard to lose a furbaby, but drinking will not help it. Not only will you have to eventually deal with her loss, you will also have to do it while beating yourself up by drinking. Been there, done that, it's not worth it.

There are a lot of animal lovers on SR, and most of us have gone through this at least once. Please lean on us to help you through this.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Eric, I lost my avatar, Charlee, just a month ago to cancer at age 6. He meant everything to me. I had just 5 months sober when he died and the six weeks before that were a roller coaster of emotion as I had hoped he would recover. It was not meant to be. I have cried more over losing him than any person. It still hurts a lot. But, to him, I was his entire life. And all he knew was that I loved him and I took care of him until the very end. If I had advice, I agree that you should just feel the pain and cry as much as you need to cry. Be there for the dog tonight and stay strong. Know that your dog feels your strength and love.

I'm so very sorry that you are going through this. I really understand how you feel.

The rescue found my beloved Woody on the side of the road with a broke leg. I adopted him from them and he had a good life except for my drunkeness. Last August I held him in my arms while he took the injection. It hurt bad and I got drunk that night. It didn't bring him back though. I regret I was a sot while I had him. Ask yourself if she would want you to drink. I think you know the answer to that.

It's hard, I know. I lost my best friend to cancer last year. I was OK until I went to pick up her ashes. I drove straight to the liquor store and went on a bender. It didn't help. Looking back I wish I would have been the person she always thought I was.

Put her head in your lap one more time. You won't regret it.

Jessie:

Please do not dishonour love by drinking. I am fresh off (well still in really) the emotional roller coaster of loss. It hasn't been easy but I stayed in the eye of the emotional storm. I posted here often and felt pathetic and like some sort of whiny, self pitying taker...but

the LOVE of SR was here to help me through. Lean in here my friend. Feel the feelings you need to feel. I think it vital to your sobriety growth...

Although the loss of your heart's companion is brutally painful...feelings are MEANT to be felt and moved through. E-motions are energy in motion. Let them wash over and pass through.

Post here often...let the love of SR help you through. You will learn so much about love if you do...it is everywhere..and we are supported in this life when we lean into it rather than run away.

Feel your feelings my friend...please honour the normal passing away of things we love in life. Be here with us..stay present...face it all..and grow stronger.

I have made a choice to not get anymore dogs or cats. The pain almost cased a relapse for me. You helped me remind me what a smart choice that is for my sobriety. Sorry to hear about your dog. You sound like a great owner. I pray and you find peace and beauty at all stages of life. Life wouldn't be special if we lived for ever. Really sit down and think about the great times with your dog and reflect on the brightness of the dogs life.

I understand how hard losing a loved one is. Trust me I know what watching suffering is like. The problem is drinking doesn't fix anything. OK you drink and then you sober up. Has anything changed other than you feel like crap and are at day one again?

If I thought drinking was a fix over the last 10 months of my life I would have been there in a heart beat but I know this is nothing but a lie alcohol tells us

Oh my........, I'm so sorry Eric! :(

I can't imagine your emotional agony, I relapsed last year after 2 months sobriety after my dog had a health scare...please stay strong...your in my thoughts.

So sorry xxxxx

I am so sorry Eric