My dog is dying. Doubt I'll make through the night and up coming days.....
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My dog is dying. Doubt I'll make through the night and up coming days.....
If she makes it through the night I have to get her to the vet first thing in the morning and end her suffering.
I'm on day 109 and ready to throw it out the window. It hurts do damn much and I only know one way to stop that pain.
I'm on day 109 and ready to throw it out the window. It hurts do damn much and I only know one way to stop that pain.
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Hey Eric, very sorry to hear about your dog!! 
Alcohol though isn't going bring her back, those feelings are going to be there in the morning and the next day, don't throw away 109 days for a short term fix.
Hang in there!!
Alcohol though isn't going bring her back, those feelings are going to be there in the morning and the next day, don't throw away 109 days for a short term fix.
Hang in there!!
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My heart goes out to you. I would be in the same mindset as you if it was me with one of my dogs. Drinking won't help though, it will just end up giving you another thing to be depressed about. Spend the night, and future days, reflecting on all the great times you shared with your dog. Every time you start to feel the urge, reflect on the happy times you two shared.
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Aw ****. I'm sorry Eric.
Drinking over it won't help either you or her, though. You know that, I know you do. It won't stop the pain, it will only delay it and then you'll be hungover and guilty and still grieving.
I'm really sorry. My dogs are central to my existence and losing a good dog is just awful. Can you get her to a vet tonight?
Drinking over it won't help either you or her, though. You know that, I know you do. It won't stop the pain, it will only delay it and then you'll be hungover and guilty and still grieving.
I'm really sorry. My dogs are central to my existence and losing a good dog is just awful. Can you get her to a vet tonight?
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Eric, I am so sorry to hear about your dog. I'm sure you must be devastated. But purpleknight is right. Drinking won't change a thing about this awful situation. I have 112 days, so I am only 3 days ahead of you, and I know those 112 days were hard fought and hard won. Don't throw away almost 4 months. Stay strong Eric, we are here for you.
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I lost my kitty of 15 years a few months ago. I considered drinking because I was so upset, but I decided to honor her memory by not drinking and continue my sobriety journey. Please don't drink. I know how hard it is to lose a furbaby. (((HUGS)))
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To lose a beloved dog is one of the hardest things in life to go through. I still miss my german shepherd who died last year.Sometimes I think it's harder than losing a person. ...but the best thing you can do is feel your feelings and don't drink. Drinking away the sorrow will only postpone the mourning you have to go through. And you will feel like crap. Keep your 109 days and cope with this. I'm so sorry about your dog.
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Originally Posted by Stevie1 
Can you get her to a vet tonight?
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So sorry about your dog, Eric. I have two dogs myself - I am sure it must be so hard for you at the moment. Try and realize that drinking won't help you. It only postpones the pain and grieving process. Best to try and feel it as it comes, in the present. I know that's easier said than done.
Try and keep in your mind the happy times you've had with your dog. Just know you've done a great thing by being there for her. She loves you.
Hang in there, and keep posting here if it helps!
Try and keep in your mind the happy times you've had with your dog. Just know you've done a great thing by being there for her. She loves you.
Hang in there, and keep posting here if it helps!
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So sorry to hear this Try and focus on all the love your dog has given to you during your time together. Stay sober and be there for her tonight. It will comfort her and in times to come, you'll know you did everythng possible for her.
As an animal lover - my heart truly goes out to you x
Try and focus on all the love your dog has given to you during your time together. Stay sober and be there for her tonight. It will comfort her and in times to come, you'll know you did everythng possible for her.As an animal lover - my heart truly goes out to you x
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Originally Posted by JustEric
I cant because this one is my fathers decision. I'm back living with him during my recovery. If it was up to me I would but he wont. Shes in a lot of pain and suffering from internal bleeding but he just wont do it. TO top off the great day hes working an overnight shift so I get to be home alone with my thoughts and my suffering dog.... **** this sucks....
Tell her she is an amazing good dog and be present with her. She is probably not hurting (that's your anthromorphising probably), just weak and woozy and looking for reassurance and comfort.
Stay sober, be with her and take her to the vet in the morning.
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Sucks to loose a pet- and their unconditional love.
Unfortunately you- and everyone who has ever owned a pet- will eventually have to face the pain (not telling you anything you don't already know). We all kind of know that going in, and recognize the years of happiness, companionship, and memories are going to be worth the pain of loosing our freinds. Certainly doesn't lesson the "suck".
I'm pulling for you to make a decision that you're proud of during a very difficult time.
Unfortunately you- and everyone who has ever owned a pet- will eventually have to face the pain (not telling you anything you don't already know). We all kind of know that going in, and recognize the years of happiness, companionship, and memories are going to be worth the pain of loosing our freinds. Certainly doesn't lesson the "suck".
I'm pulling for you to make a decision that you're proud of during a very difficult time.
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I'm really sorry Eric. Losing a pet is never easy.
The worst thing I ever did was drink over it tho. However scared and sad we are, imagine how it is for our loved pet?
They need you there, fully present, to take charge, make decisions - and to love them in those last days.
I was not there for my pet - I was lost in my own pain...and self indulgence.
I've made my peace with it...but I will always regret that.
when it's over, remember it's ok to grieve - it's natural - resist the urge to numb the pain. You *can* handle it, I promise.
You will feel sad, you'll cry, but you'll get through it too.
Drinking just keeps us in a holding pattern of grief and pain.
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The worst thing I ever did was drink over it tho. However scared and sad we are, imagine how it is for our loved pet?
They need you there, fully present, to take charge, make decisions - and to love them in those last days.
I was not there for my pet - I was lost in my own pain...and self indulgence.
I've made my peace with it...but I will always regret that.
when it's over, remember it's ok to grieve - it's natural - resist the urge to numb the pain. You *can* handle it, I promise.
You will feel sad, you'll cry, but you'll get through it too.
Drinking just keeps us in a holding pattern of grief and pain.
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Do you have someone else in recovery
that you know of that lives near you,
a relative or friend, that can come to
you? Someone that you can talk to besides
being here in SR?
We never have to go thru anything in
recovery and life alone or by ourselves.
If you are determined to remain sober
by all means, then reach out to someone
close to you so you wont be tempted to
drink.
Both of my cats who lived long happy
lives passed away several yrs ago close
together. They were brothers. One passed
on his own and the other we put down
to avoid going thru servere pain.
Yes, the emotional pain of loosing our
adorable pets that have given us unconditional
love for yrs does take its toll. However, we
work thru it and we remain sober living on
the wonderful memories they gave us thru
the yrs. We will always have them.
that you know of that lives near you,
a relative or friend, that can come to
you? Someone that you can talk to besides
being here in SR?
We never have to go thru anything in
recovery and life alone or by ourselves.
If you are determined to remain sober
by all means, then reach out to someone
close to you so you wont be tempted to
drink.
Both of my cats who lived long happy
lives passed away several yrs ago close
together. They were brothers. One passed
on his own and the other we put down
to avoid going thru servere pain.
Yes, the emotional pain of loosing our
adorable pets that have given us unconditional
love for yrs does take its toll. However, we
work thru it and we remain sober living on
the wonderful memories they gave us thru
the yrs. We will always have them.
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“We who choose to surround ourselves
with lives even more temporary than our
own, live within a fragile circle;
easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps,
we would still live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only
certain immortality, never fully
understanding the necessary plan.”
― Irving Townsend
with lives even more temporary than our
own, live within a fragile circle;
easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps,
we would still live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only
certain immortality, never fully
understanding the necessary plan.”
― Irving Townsend
Please don't drink. It won't help. 
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Originally Posted by aasharon90
Do you have someone else in recovery
that you know of that lives near you,
a relative or friend, that can come to
you? Someone that you can talk to besides
being here in SR?
that you know of that lives near you,
a relative or friend, that can come to
you? Someone that you can talk to besides
being here in SR?
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Hi JustEric,
Hang in there. We are here to listen. I'm so sorry to hear your dog's health has taken a turn. They are such special creatures and it must be so painful for you. Please do not throw out a good long stint of sobriety for this. You will need to be strong and sober.
Hang in there. We are here to listen. I'm so sorry to hear your dog's health has taken a turn. They are such special creatures and it must be so painful for you. Please do not throw out a good long stint of sobriety for this. You will need to be strong and sober.
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