Class of April 2014 Part 4 |
Joining new thread, doing much better today. Hang in there everyone! Thinking about this place all day :) |
Hey everyone, Just checking in- hope everyones doing good today. I'm hangin' in there- day 15! Have a safe, happy weekend- be good to you ❤️ |
Caught up on the old thread now :)
Originally Posted by Adnamaeel
(Post 4611741)
The woman I referred to last week as the walking cautionary tale melting down in my front yard was admitted to the ICU today with a stomach full of blood. She's been abusing painkillers for more than 30 years, and it just caught up with her. It's not a surprise to anyone. I do feel bad for her, though she's made her choices. she must be scared. And still, and here's a look into my twisted mind, I can't stop from thinking that I guess she's a prone cautionary tale now. What's wrong with me? I don't like reducing other addicts and alcoholics tragedies to cautionary tales for my own benefit either...there must be an enormous amount of pain and fear - and a *story* there... I think simply reducing it to a cautionary tale can trivialise all that. That being said, we're human and human reactions are not always laudatory. You're looking after yourself and your own recovery - I'd expect no less, especially at this point. Later you may be able to help this woman, or others like her, I'm sure. I found that once I felt secure in my recovery I was able to look past the cautionary tale and see the person behind that :) D |
Thanks for the post, Adna. I haven't posted for a while because I feel like I've set too high a hurdle for myself. While I genuinely care about the people behind the posts on SR, I also feel like if I can't address everyone personally, I'll hurt somebody's feelings. And sometimes I click on posts that are very troublesome to me and it triggers so much of my own crap I can't be present for others. Don't know if this makes any sense, but I DO know that part of the recovery plan I've put in place for myself is to post here, so that's what I'm doing right now, even tho I don't feel like doing it. And it's helping... go figure. |
MsOkra, glad you posted. ...it's ( for sure ) tough for me to address everyone also, but I trust we all understand. I was thinking about you , along with the posts today , and last night. I was wrung out last night, ...just able to read. you take care. .....dirty hippie |
Thanks, jock ;) |
Originally Posted by Dee74
(Post 4612338)
I found that once I felt secure in my recovery I was able to look past the cautionary tale and see the person behind that :) D |
Originally Posted by lovemesomeokra
(Post 4612380)
Thanks for the post, Adna. I haven't posted for a while because I feel like I've set too high a hurdle for myself. While I genuinely care about the people behind the posts on SR, I also feel like if I can't address everyone personally, I'll hurt somebody's feelings. And sometimes I click on posts that are very troublesome to me and it triggers so much of my own crap I can't be present for others. Don't know if this makes any sense, but I DO know that part of the recovery plan I've put in place for myself is to post here, so that's what I'm doing right now, even tho I don't feel like doing it. And it's helping... go figure. |
::hugs:: hope everyone is good.... I'm extremely more stable today, def hearing a reading stuff about controlling and owning my emotions and it really helped. De, I started the books and I can already see what your saying! I'm excited to read more. Stay strong everyone <3 |
Originally Posted by Adnamaeel
(Post 4612461)
I do see the person behind the tale, and the story is heartbreaking from her childhood all the way through her dead husband and murdered son. She's never had it easy. I presented her here in a purely one dimensional light, but I do see her in three. I guess I really don't know whats wrong with you :) you seem to be ticking all the right boxes as far as I'm concerned? D |
Originally Posted by Dee74
(Post 4612469)
I guess I really don't know whats wrong with you :) D |
Originally Posted by Dee74
(Post 4612469)
I guess I really don't know whats wrong with you D I don't know what's wrong with ME much less anybody else. I have a feeling that one of the keys to recovery is figuring out what's RIGHT with me.. and everyone else :) |
Hey all! ST, glad you're feeling more stable. Okra, feel free to post whatever you like - we're here for you as much as you are for us. I doubt there's any judgment round these parts :) I was thinking about how those of us who started at the beginning of the month seem to be traveling together through different phases...start, then a couple relapses, then getting a little time under our belt, then feeling emotionally squirrelly, and then starting to even out. I wonder if this is how every class goes? Dee, what are your observations? Today I'm feeling better. I still got that 3pm urge though....sitting at my desk, mind wandering and wondering about decompressing with some drinks tonight. Those thoughts usually come mid-afternoon when my energy level is the lowest and I'm feeling mentally drained. There has to be a connection, right? Thankfully, I'm over it by the time I head home. I hope everyone is doing well! Day 1 or Day 24, just keep going!! |
Originally Posted by DancingDiva
(Post 4612493)
Hey all! ST, glad you're feeling more stable. Okra, feel free to post whatever you like - we're here for you as much as you are for us. I doubt there's any judgment round these parts :) I was thinking about how those of us who started at the beginning of the month seem to be traveling together through different phases...start, then a couple relapses, then getting a little time under our belt, then feeling emotionally squirrelly, and then starting to even out. I wonder if this is how every class goes? Dee, what are your observations? Today I'm feeling better. I still got that 3pm urge though....sitting at my desk, mind wandering and wondering about decompressing with some drinks tonight. Those thoughts usually come mid-afternoon when my energy level is the lowest and I'm feeling mentally drained. There has to be a connection, right? Thankfully, I'm over it by the time I head home. I hope everyone is doing well! Day 1 or Day 24, just keep going!! And absolutely no judgement here, I should know ;) |
I get the same thing, Diva. Mid-afternoon is REALLY hard for me. In a perfect world I could take a nap every day from 2-4, but the world's not perfect.. or maybe it is and I'm just learning how to live in a perfect world?? Who knows? I sure don't but I sure am glad to be here with people who "get" me in a way I don't feel AT ALL free with sharing elsewhere. Wishing you sweet dreams tonight. |
Heading up to bed on night 2. 10 PM Last night I didn't sleep great and had some vivid dreams but ok otherwise. Normal for some panic attack type feelings to be surfacing at this point? Mild so far...just hope my body shuts down for sleep at some point. Thanks all. Hugs. |
Here's hoping you get a good nights sleep kat. :grouphug: |
Originally Posted by lovemesomeokra
(Post 4612380)
Thanks for the post, Adna. I haven't posted for a while because I feel like I've set too high a hurdle for myself. While I genuinely care about the people behind the posts on SR, I also feel like if I can't address everyone personally, I'll hurt somebody's feelings. And sometimes I click on posts that are very troublesome to me and it triggers so much of my own crap I can't be present for others. Don't know if this makes any sense, but I DO know that part of the recovery plan I've put in place for myself is to post here, so that's what I'm doing right now, even tho I don't feel like doing it. And it's helping... go figure. Made it through another grocery store trip without grabbing any beer. I did somehow come home with a box of Raisinets and some ice cream sandwiches. And a box of Goobers. ... Sugar sounds good right now. |
Originally Posted by Applekat
(Post 4612681)
Heading up to bed on night 2. 10 PM Last night I didn't sleep great and had some vivid dreams but ok otherwise. Normal for some panic attack type feelings to be surfacing at this point? Mild so far...just hope my body shuts down for sleep at some point. Thanks all. Hugs. |
kitten, goobers AND raisinettes? You're outa control! kat, if you get a chance to read some of the early threads from this group, I think you'll find lots of us had trouble with sleep the first week or two (or more.) I'm pretty sure it's a part of what it takes to heal and it feels pretty sukky, but not more sukky than a hangover and all the crummy emotions that go along with hangovers. Some people find relief with meditation, baths, massage, melatonin, music.. others don't find much relief from anything except time.. but I've never heard anyone with withdrawal sleep troubles say they were glad they had a drink to make it better. Wishing you sweet dreams. |
I def don't want a drink. But now I want some goobers. :) I'm tucked in with my book. Also had my tea with valerian. Thank you guys. |
Here you go kat. http://images.sodahead.com/polls/000...10_xlarge.jpeg |
Originally Posted by areyoukittenme
(Post 4612730)
lovemesomeokra, it makes sense to me. I wish I could keep up with everyone but I just don't have it in me. I hope nobody is too offended. Made it through another grocery store trip without grabbing any beer. I did somehow come home with a box of Raisinets and some ice cream sandwiches. And a box of Goobers. ... Sugar sounds good right now. Sorry, tough to talk with a mouthful of Ben and Jerry's. I totally agree! |
I'm eating Easter candy and left over cake 8) |
OMG, y'all are killin' me... fixna go to bed, sure am glad I have some dark chocolate to take with me! ****{smooch}}} |
Originally Posted by lovemesomeokra
(Post 4612380)
Thanks for the post, Adna. I haven't posted for a while because I feel like I've set too high a hurdle for myself. While I genuinely care about the people behind the posts on SR, I also feel like if I can't address everyone personally, I'll hurt somebody's feelings. And sometimes I click on posts that are very troublesome to me and it triggers so much of my own crap I can't be present for others. Don't know if this makes any sense, but I DO know that part of the recovery plan I've put in place for myself is to post here, so that's what I'm doing right now, even tho I don't feel like doing it. And it's helping... go figure. |
Originally Posted by lovemesomeokra
(Post 4612380)
Thanks for the post, Adna. I haven't posted for a while because I feel like I've set too high a hurdle for myself. While I genuinely care about the people behind the posts on SR, I also feel like if I can't address everyone personally, I'll hurt somebody's feelings. And sometimes I click on posts that are very troublesome to me and it triggers so much of my own crap I can't be present for others. Don't know if this makes any sense, but I DO know that part of the recovery plan I've put in place for myself is to post here, so that's what I'm doing right now, even tho I don't feel like doing it. And it's helping... go figure. |
Good thing I have some blueberry frozen yogurt in the freezer after all of that:) Glad to "hear" your posts today & always Lovemesome:wave: Settling in for the night at a decent hour tonight - very tired. Thinking ahead a bit about the week-end. I have "over extended" myself the last 2 week-ends & am definitely not going to do that again this one. REALLY, REALLY need some "downtime". I love to read & think I will find a good novel, curl up on the couch with the fireplace on & read something that has nothing to do with alcoholism/addiction. Glad to be "riding the waves" with you all & in here for that group hug:grouphug: Stay strong out there & have a good sober week-end!! |
End of day 3 here. It was an interesting day to say the least (in a good way) things went vastly different from how I thought they would be this morning but I stayed sober and really didn't have a hard time with cravings today. I have been trying to quit for forever it seems but this time it seems very doable! I have to share with you my favorite part of my day... I took my son to the library today as part of our errands and he wanted to play on the computers there, so I sat down and started reading a book. He very soon after needed help and I stood up with my finger bookmarking my page and wished for a bookmark. When I walked over to the computer table I looked down and there was a bookmark that read "Think. Don't Drink."!!!!! I just about fell over.... wow I think the universe just told me I am doing the right thing!! lol. :lmao Wow, you all know how to make a girl want some sweets!! If I wasn't winding down working on a cup of sleepy tea I would probably go raid the Easter candy too! Good night everyone! |
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