"Good." - Wow. Jesus God, Trach, I just ask how you doin', not for freaking novel, okay? My favorite Black Crowes is Jealous Again, Twice as Hard and Good Friday -good stuff! |
Originally Posted by Cow
(Post 5006024)
WB4R, I not know what to say about marriage problem, It's ok. I'm not here bc I have marriage trouble. That is just icing on the cake. But what we all know is that the booze only ever make any situation worse, even if it masquerading as making it better, yes? |
Lucky for you WB4R, Crones Club now offering FREE "Bitch Slap" service. All you does is come here and announce you is thinking of applying liquid medication to you problem. Then stand stoically while a bitchy Crone strike you, lovingly, with fist of wisdom. I just kid, we use open hand, okay, we not barbarians. |
Originally Posted by cow
(Post 5006044)
"good." - wow. Jesus god, trach, i just ask how you doin', not for freaking novel, okay? |
Originally Posted by Cow
(Post 5006197)
Lucky for you WB4R, Crones Club now offering FREE "Bitch Slap" service. All you does is come here and announce you is thinking of applying liquid medication to you problem. Then stand stoically while a bitchy Crone strike you, lovingly, with fist of wisdom. I just kid, we use open hand, okay, we not barbarians. |
Just glad to have you back, Cow. I know I don't comment often on your threads, but I've been around since the beginning. You being here means we are still winning. |
WB4R, the place you're in sounds like living hell. drinking and wanting to but not. come to think of it, i spent decades there. and in that place, i had to drink just a bit more and then do it all again tomorrow to wash away the knowledge of that part of me that didn't want to. you're in the middle of ambivalence-hell. got any ideas, one way or another, about how this is gonna go? |
Originally Posted by fini
(Post 5006609)
WB4R, the place you're in sounds like living hell. drinking and wanting to but not. come to think of it, i spent decades there. and in that place, i had to drink just a bit more and then do it all again tomorrow to wash away the knowledge of that part of me that didn't want to. you're in the middle of ambivalence-hell. got any ideas, one way or another, about how this is gonna go? I don't know how this is going to go. I think I will be strong enough to quit. I don't know. I just talked to my counselor about it. I feel energized to make it happen right now, after talking to him for an hour about it. Also, he said it would not be out of order for me to ask my wife to not drink herself. Maybe she will do that for me. I hate that I have to ask her to do that. I want to be strong enough to just quit no matter what temptations there are. |
WB4R, for me, it turned out to not be a matter of strength so much as action. and i know that sounds trite, and overused. i have plenty of willpower for all kinds of stuff, but it wasn't exactly what was needed for this. great you have a counselor to talk with honestly about it, and of course there's lots of support here, but it looks like you'll need something to add to that, no? do you know any sober alcoholics you could spend time with? i've found that invaluable; hm, still do :) |
Walkie, the feel good part doesn't last. I can promise you this. It might start lasting a few minutes and then it's just trying to chase down the nostalgia of when it was fun and no consequences. I found out I needed to get some help. read as much as you can about addiction. rational recovery works best for me. AA is a good program and can give you face to face support and help structure sobriety. also, it can help you make repairs to the damage we've done while in the depths of addiction. I'm on the road again for work. Not sure how long I'll be out here. I like Slap service, assigning it but I'll opt on a receiving it. sugar always worked best for me. love from Lenina |
Originally Posted by fini
(Post 5007510)
WB4R, for me, it turned out to not be a matter of strength so much as action. and i know that sounds trite, and overused. i have plenty of willpower for all kinds of stuff, but it wasn't exactly what was needed for this. great you have a counselor to talk with honestly about it, and of course there's lots of support here, but it looks like you'll need something to add to that, no? do you know any sober alcoholics you could spend time with? i've found that invaluable; hm, still do :) |
Originally Posted by Lenina
(Post 5007593)
I like Slap service, assigning it but I'll opt on a receiving it. sugar always worked best for me. love from Lenina |
the Cow special "bitch slap". I'm more a lump of sugar girl then I pass the inductees to Cow. glad you're with us, Walkies! love from Lenina AKA CAL. (crazy assed Lee) |
WB4R, I think is not good to be so isolated, although I total been there and choose that for many year. I just now starting to poke head out and is very relieve that some of my friends is still there for me. I not present for them for such long time and I even apologizes to some, and they total gracious, but most not even notice, so I just slide back in with them. Question I been thinking about a lot lately, and I think is good question for everybody here, whatever you sobriety status... what is "good" life look like to you? For me, I desperate to escape anhedonia and depressions and find some enjoyment in life, but I total unsure what that life look like. |
Originally Posted by Cow
(Post 5008137)
WB4R, I think is not good to be so isolated, although I total been there and choose that for many year. I just now starting to poke head out and is very relieve that some of my friends is still there for me. I not present for them for such long time and I even apologizes to some, and they total gracious, but most not even notice, so I just slide back in with them. Question I been thinking about a lot lately, and I think is good question for everybody here, whatever you sobriety status... what is "good" life look like to you? For me, I desperate to escape anhedonia and depressions and find some enjoyment in life, but I total unsure what that life look like. Good life for me would be to find peace inside myself. No longer needing to even take a breath. I've had brief flashes of that kind of contentment. |
Originally Posted by Cow
(Post 5008137)
what is "good" life look like to you? Here's my list. It contains for me, now, the ingredients of a good life:
I was unable to do any of those things as an active alcoholic. If I never do anything more, they'll be enough, I think. :wave: |
WB4R, not to hound you here, so i'll stop after this: looks like if you don't decide for sobriety and then put action behind it to make real changes it will just go downhill. i gety that you might not find it desirable now. i think we're supposed to always be wanting it, but certainly we don't always feel one-whole-heartedly about it. ever thought of deliberately looking for sober alcoholics and spending some time in real life? finding out how they're doing it, what they did when they were in your situation? |
This is such a hard question, Cow, and there are so many different answers. For me, it boils down to 1) being secure in my conscience that I have not harmed anybody;* 2) knowing that I have given of my very best; and 3) being content in who I am and what I have. *Bitch slapping is often the best thing that can happen to someone! |
Originally Posted by courage2
(Post 5008627)
Here's my list. It contains for me, now, the ingredients of a good life:
:wave: Lately I've been taking an excellent class on Primates, and have realized that I also want to also get more directly involved in conservation efforts with animals and habitat protection. I have so long been about my own suffering and issues that I had deliberately tabled caring about such "big" things. |
Originally Posted by fini
(Post 5008671)
WB4R, not to hound you here, so i'll stop after this: looks like if you don't decide for sobriety and then put action behind it to make real changes it will just go downhill. i gety that you might not find it desirable now. i think we're supposed to always be wanting it, but certainly we don't always feel one-whole-heartedly about it. ever thought of deliberately looking for sober alcoholics and spending some time in real life? finding out how they're doing it, what they did when they were in your situation? As for looking for sober alcoholics, I don't think it would help. I'm not the kind of person that learns well like that. I very often do not feel comfortable face to face with people, outside of a business setting. Here on the internet I'm better. I also get more than most out of reading. The Rational Recovery section here on SR was helpful to me. As for action, I did ask my wife to stop leaving wine within easy reach. Last night the wine was very well hidden. Temptation removed was a big help for me. I can still resist buying it for myself. At least I did last night and intend to going forward. |
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