hi BA, glad you found the forum again. You might want to review your last thread as well, there was a lot of wisdom shared in that as well:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...n-2-years.html (One last chance....for the 3rd time in less than 2 years)
You know, you could move states, but would that work? What would be the advantage? Is there any reason he wouldn't just follow you?
You would end up losing all your supportive community and that would be a shame.
This problem can be solved right where you are. I think you know the answer already? You can break the pattern. In fact, while helping yourself you would also being doing your children a favour, because they would only see their Dad at visiting times and that would be sober. What kind of relationship can they have with an active alcoholic? Kids can overlook a lot of things, because it's their normal, but once they get older they will understand exactly how things went.
Do you have access to getting therapy for yourself at all?