Yes, please do speak about codependency here. So many of us have or are struggling with it, it's something we need to talk about.
I also struggle with my mother. While neither of us are substance abusers, we both suffer from codependency. I've worked hard to change that aspect of myself, unlike my mother who is so deeply entrenched in her addiction of codependency that I don't think she will ever climb out of that pit. It makes things very difficult between us. Just last night we had a "thing" over text/email..at least I didn't have to see or hear the dramatics since it was all typed. *sigh*
A while back many of us here had a lengthy discussion about codependency, if you are interested:
Struggling with My Codependent Mother
I'm glad you are here Heather, I know how hard the mother daughter relationship can be. ( Not only do I have a mum, I also have a 26yr old daughter...)