Hi joy, well if you have read Melody's book and you have been to Al-Anon then you know you need to detach.
You didn't Cause it, can't Control it and can't Cure is. This you know, so why are you holding on, why are you trying to control it?
There is no reason for you to be so involved. The social workers etc are capable of coordinating your Sister's care.
You need boundaries here, that's what's going to make all the difference. As an example, one boundary might be that you don't speak to your Mom on the phone when she has been drinking. Perhaps if she has some useful information that's fine, but no rambling conversations like the one you probably just had. It serves zero purpose true? All it does is cause you worry and stress you out.
So that is the number one coping tool here, boundaries!
Respect for your Sister's decisions. She is a grown person, no she may not be thinking clearly but that is not up to you (again, you can't control this). Of course you don't want her wandering the streets but she has a right to choose that if she wants to. Sounds like there has been no lack of people attempting to get her help, that's not working (hopefully this latest attempt at sobriety will). As you know she needs to choose help, you can't do that for her.
Maybe try this out. When she arrives in Florida perhaps they contact you? Perhaps you would normally call the facility to see that everything is in order? Try not doing that. It might not be easy, but I hope you give it a try. As long as you keep throwing yourself in to the organizer role in all of this, nothing will change.
It's not up to you, it's not your responsibility. Focus back on yourself. You mention you are also in recovery, so that should be your number one focus right now?
You might find some of these stickies helpful:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oundaries.html (So what ARE Boundaries?) https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-recovery.html (Letting go of those not in recovery)