Originally Posted by
jjwinters 
It's emotionally, physically, and time consuming. And when I do have free time, I'm absolutely exhausted from tending to her.
There is a saying around here, "let go or be dragged".
Here is the thing, you (as you know) are not an endless well of compassion, sympathy, extra time, fixer-upper of all things.
In a good relationship there is a balance. You might make dinner, the other person might clean the kitchen. The other person might do something kind for you or buy you a surprise gift.
Those thoughtful and loving types of things are the kinds of things that emotionally fill you up and I don't mean in a co-dependant way, just in a nice give and take, natural way. When you are doing all this giving, there is an imbalance and you will be depleted eventually. It's inevitable. That's why it's so important to look out for yourself in all this.
And please remember the 3 Cs - you didn't Cause it, can't Control it and can't Cure it.
If you want to check out the Friends and Family forum it can be found here:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
Some threads you might find helpful can be found in the sticky posts at the top of the forum, you might find this a good place to start:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)