Soulful...I am giving you the following link to our extensive library of excellent articles. I hope you will take the time to read through them....
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)
there is sooo much to learn. One of the fu ndamental things that you will learn is that with a using alcoholic/addict....words and promises are meaningless....because they can't keep them (even if they wish they can).....they have to be in genuine recovery for a long time...one or two years of solid sobriety, before they can even begin to trust themselves...
I don't know if they have alanon in Mexico....which would be of great support for you....but, if not...there are also alanon podcasts and alanon talks on youtube.....
If you didn't read "CO-Dependent No More"....now would be a good time....it is an easy read and you will probably find that it will resonate with you, a lot......