WhisperB......I am giving you the following l ink to our library of dozens of excellent articles on the effects of alcoholism on the loved ones.....I hope that you will use this time to read through them....
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)
In addition...here is an article on how to gauge where your A is, with regard to commitment to recovery....It is a pretty good yardstick....
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-reposted.html (10 Ways to Tell When an Addict or Alcoholic is Full of ****, reposted)