Originally Posted by
jarp 
AH sent me a message today apologising from the bottom of his heart, saying he could scarcely get his head around what he's put me through, that its horrifying. That HE doesn't think HE can ever see past it or get over what he has done.
And....please can he come home?
He then rang....and oh boy he was saying all the right things. He was sobbing his sorrow, his apology, his pain. He can't believe what he's done to himself and others. And please, please can he come home....
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Do you see how we tend to make these things all about us? I use to do it too. And I feel bad for him, however, he is making this into a big pity party for him. That is just how I see it from my side, this is just my opinion.
My daughter and I went to see a counsellor together and of course she said how she felt etc, etc. Of course I was mortified and embarrassed and proceeded to go on about how sorry I was why I was behaving like that etc., and it was the alcohol and blah blah blah.
A few days later I thought about it and you know, that session was suppose to be about her and how my drinking was affecting her. And I managed to make it a pity party about me, like I could almost justify why it was okay for me to drink and make her life miserable!
So I would proceed with caution as yes it is fine to have some compassion for others, but at the end of the day it isn't all about us. Our drinking affects everyone around us and my drinking was a CHOICE. Bad crap aside no one forced me to drink. I did that.