Originally Posted by
GettingBy 
he'd rather have the kids grow up in an unhealthy home than a broken one.
An unhealthy home is still a broken home, but you know that.
Originally Posted by
GettingBy If I try and force a solution now, but am not fully accepting... I'll end up backsliding, flip-flopping and doing more damage to them than good.
It's clear to me from that comment you have your children's best interest in mind and are making the adult, and very difficult decisions. You'll be OK.