Originally Posted by
HurtingAgain 
I think there is always the fear in the back of any sober spouses' mind that if they leave, the alcoholic spouse will finally get sober and become the sort of partner to someone else that they should have been to them.
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I remember this feeling, too. Had it for a very long time. Fear is about the unknown...something we have no control over. There is no way of knowing whether your AH will ever have true recovery. But you have you, and your own life to live. Does your happiness depend on the well-being, or the future, of your AH?