Originally Posted by
sfgirl 
I think that is the key and what I found out is that I was actually doing a lot of things pre-sobriety that I actually didn't want to do. I almost especially mean that socially— I felt certain obligations and now I am like f*ck it.
yeah i like what you said before about contentment - for me it's like i'm working towards being content in how i am.
I was always feeling the need for approval from others, in relationships, or social groups, the need to be out doing loads of stuff in order to somehow validate myself.
For the first time in ages, possibly ever, i'm content and happy to be single, and content and happy with myself, or at least getting there!
I don't feel this need to be socially active in a huge way. If i feel like seeing people or doing something, then i will, and that's cool. But it's also cool if i don't feel like going out.
Whatever things are like, i'm kinda basically at peace with it.
That's just my experience of how things are for me at the moment...
