Originally Posted by
honeycs 
All of you have such great ways of handling situations so calmly...I hope I learn to be better in control of me instead of letting my AH control me with his drinking tactics.
Oh please, you must trust me on this...I certainly didn't start out being calm in the way I had handled things with my ex. I did loads of pouting, walking out of the house, silent treatment, etc.
It took a lot of experimenting and practice before I learned ways of handling things that made 'me' happier, and were good 'for me'.
I was a sloooooow learner too! Give yourself some time!
P.S. I didn't find this forum until 'after' my ex and I split. When I finally did join, I was amazed at how others seemed to have it all together. And there I was an open, raw, oozing wound from head to toe, inside and out. But in time, I learned soooo much here! And you will too! I'm sure of it! :-)