Cutting out alcohol from your life is a huge success and requires a good bit of effort and iron will. Moving forward, you can now live a life of more peace and clarity. However, that doesn’t mean that suddenly all your other problems are gone. For many who struggle with addiction, it’s common to also fight battles with self-esteem or confidence.
So how do you feel confident without relying on that “liquid courage?” Here are a few ways to boost your self-esteem and own your worth.
1. Be gentle.
Try not to judge yourself harshly. Often times we are our own worst critic, and during recovery the habit of judging yourself too harshly can keep you stuck. Instead of fretting over feeling guilty or unsure of the future, focus on your accomplishments thus far in life. Think about the positives and all the possibilities that stand before you in your new, sober life. You can refrain from allowing negativity to rule your thought life.
2. Look within.
When you think about becoming more confident, you may be tempted to think it’s somewhere “out there,” but the truth is confidence comes from within yourself. It is a characteristic that you can cultivate and grow. Those that are most confident will tell you that self-love is necessary to feel confident. You must embark on a journey toward loving yourself no matter where you’ve been or where you are in life. Remember that it’s about progress; not perfection.
3. Set goals.
Go ahead and set some personal growth goals. You are entering a new stage of life of sobriety and will need to organize and construct plans that will help bring order back into your life. When you set new goals, you’ll be able to step up to the plate with responsibility to take action toward those goals and then success will follow. The fulfillment of a goal will bring you happiness and working towards goals will introduce a healthy dose of discipline to your daily routine.
4. Invest in yourself.
Take some time to regularly invest in your growth. Read books about improving confidence, listen to inspirational audios, or get on YouTube and watch a few motivational videos that will build you up. There are some amazing teachers and speakers out there willing to assist you grow your confidence level. The more you learn about yourself and other topics that interest you, the more confident you will become.
5. Choose your company wisely.
To feel more confident, choose who you hang around with wisely. You want to hang around those that love you unconditionally and who genuinely have a positive outlook on life. If you spend a lot of time with judgmental or angry people, you may not feel safe to be yourself. You’ll feel like you’re not enough and this won’t do you any good. Limit time spent with negative people and take time to cultivate friendships that foster self-love, happiness and confidence.
Sobriety is a wonderful accomplishment—it’s truly something to be proud of. Though your confidence may be lacking now, know that you are not alone. Take these tips into consideration as you move forward in life, trusting that your confidence will grow as you continue to make the effort at personal growth. If you find that you’re not getting the results you want, consider hiring a life coach or seeing a counselor as they may help you get through any obstacles you’re contending with and help you regain the confidence you’re seeking.