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SoberLeigh 07-11-2021 07:02 AM

Sunday Blessings, all.

It was pouring rain here last night and, unfortunately, pouring just to the south and east of us. Haven’t heard the reports yet on flooding in North Port. They are 4-5’ lower than us in elevation above sea level; compounding the problems for that area is the lack of modifications and upgrades to infrastructure systems to accommodate the boon in new construction in that area; one byproduct of that is inadequate rainwater drainage facilities and systems. It seems the authorities approving the new construction are only concerned about the increased tax revenues generated by the new construction. Sigh.

Alysheba 07-11-2021 08:29 AM

Sao, rooting for England for you! Not sure who they are playing, I'm sorry to say, but I know how much England winning would mean to so many of my English friends! :hug:
Mags, sending you good vibes with MIL. These situations can be so difficult sometimes, but we all need each other. So wonderful of you and Mr. M to be there for her. Love you. :love:
Have a great day all and in remembrance of dear Rusty Zipper, Rule 62, don't sweat the small stuff.
Love and peace to all. ☮🧡💛💚💙💜💗

venuscat 07-11-2021 08:52 AM

Italy. ❤️

Alysheba 07-11-2021 09:11 AM

Thank you, Venus! :hug:

Well, I have to support my English friends. Go England! :bbj:

Cityboy 07-11-2021 10:26 AM

Here's hoping for a good game and for people to keep their heads about them and stay safe and out of trouble.

Alysheba 07-11-2021 10:43 AM

Yes, I hope everyone stays safe, first and foremost. Things can get out of control. I hope people wear their masks! 😷 💟

SoberLeigh 07-11-2021 10:46 AM

Go England!

MidnightBlue 07-11-2021 11:27 AM

Hi, weekenders.

I popped up to say good luck to everyone who is rooting for England.

I got my first Covid shot on Thursday. The first day went smoothly. The second one I spent in bed with fever, which was gone, luckily, by Saturday.

Stay safe, stay sober, everyone.

See you)

Mags1 07-11-2021 11:49 AM

Midnight pleased you got your covid vaccines.

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SoberLeigh 07-11-2021 12:48 PM

So am I, MB.

saoutchik 07-11-2021 03:35 PM

Lost on penalties. Gutted.

At least I'm sober.

SoberLeigh 07-11-2021 03:37 PM

I was disappointed for you to see that, Sao.

Sobriety is a win everyday.

Robbie64 07-11-2021 04:22 PM

Ah, well. The last few weeks have been exciting due to the football and England doing so well. I'm very disappointed that England didn't win the final. But as sao has posted, at least I'm sober. It's also only the second time as an adult I've watched the finals of a major international football tournament while being sober throughout the whole of the tournament. The only other time was the World Cup finals back in 1998. I'm pleased with that as it feels like a massive achievement. Plus I won't be hungover when I get up in the morning.

SoberLeigh 07-11-2021 05:14 PM

Well done, Robbie. Sobriety is your forever win.

Alysheba 07-11-2021 05:37 PM

The getting up tomorrow morning without a hangover will be worth every bit of it. We may be surprised at how many people may have watched it sober. Esp if you have to work. I hope so. :hug:
Disappointed for my English friends. :grouphug:

Mags1 07-11-2021 09:37 PM

It’s horrible when the game goes to penalties. It’s an achievement not drinking through all the last few weeks.

Raining cats and dogs here. It’s the great British summer. :lmao

Kaily 07-11-2021 11:04 PM

Disappointing end to an exciting few weeks. Who knew football was such an emotional roller coaster. Went to bed feeling very sad. I will recover. :lol:

I keep having drinking dreams, it worries me. Yesterday it felt so real, I was going to the shops I used to go to and kept being told ' no you don't drink'; I was arguing that I did and that I was just pretending that I didn't. It was so frustrating not being able to buy it. I woke up and actually still believed I could drink and was disappointed when I realised it wasn't real. It set of a huge craving. My addiction rarely seems to leave me be.

Mags1 07-11-2021 11:53 PM

Kaily, sounds like you’ve got the two wolves in your subconscious. The good one knows you don’t drink. The bad one still pushing you. in your dreams anyway. :hug:

theVman31 07-11-2021 11:54 PM

Salutations weekenders :)

Commiserations to the English SR'ers :(

Addictions dont ever leave us imo.
Its so dangerous to play with the idea of drinking (imo)
I've had a few bad drinking dreams too lately, one was very bad i wasnt right for a while after waking up, unsettling... Probably hated myself that i wanted to drink again even if it was in a dream. I was drunk as a skunk in the dream as usual when i drink dream or not. Probably in another car crash too. Dreams are the window into the unconscious mind, dreams reflect subconscious desires, dreaming reveals hidden truths... yea whatever, no over analyzing, all that counts is you didnt drink consciously :) I wonder if theres any threads which discuss drinking dreams or dedicated to this. Its interesting subject matter in any case.

two weeks to the summer holidays for me, i'm taking the full month of august off :) :) :) !!!

have a good week weekenders !






Mags1 07-12-2021 12:15 AM

Hiya Vinny :wave:

I had many drinking dreams when first sober. When I woke up, for a minute I thought it was real and was so relieved it wasn’t. Now they’re few and far between but do seem so real. Our ‘tools’ do work subconsciously in our dreams though, for example I’m sure the shopkeeper in Kaily’s dream was herself saying and knowing she doesn’t drink. The restless one wanting to drink could be the av working in our subconscious.

As you say Vinny, sometimes best not to dwell on them. We don’t want to feed the av. :a043:

Have you got any plans for your month off yet Vinny?

Kaily 07-12-2021 12:29 AM

Thanks Mags and Vman.

I also dream't I was a farmer, I'm not fearing I will become one of those so I guess I shouldn't fear that I will drink. I would be a hopeless farmer, I wouldn't be able to send any livestock to market. :rolleyes:

Mags1 07-12-2021 01:58 AM

Nah, me neither Kaily. Probably name all the sheep and pigs too. You’ve got two doggies that would hire themselves as sheep dogs.;)

Robbie64 07-12-2021 02:16 AM


Originally Posted by Kaily (Post 7667057)
Thanks Mags and Vman.

I also dream't I was a farmer, I'm not fearing I will become one of those so I guess I shouldn't fear that I will drink. I would be a hopeless farmer, I wouldn't be able to send any livestock to market. :rolleyes:

That's why Paul McCartney (and his late wife Linda) became a vegetarian. He'd bought a farm in the 1970s and couldn't bring himself to send any of the livestock to market after watching the lambs playing about in the field. Apparently he and his wife were eating a roast dinner at the time and had to stop eating it. They gave up meat overnight.

Dee74 07-12-2021 02:40 AM

I used to dream of high school a long time after I left it but that wasn’t to say I wanted to go back.

I did find situations where there was no easy solution triggered me for a while and you certainly have that going on right now, Kaily.

in my experience though that alcoholic urge will leave us, so long as we resolutely refuse to feed it.

Stay with us Kaily :)

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Kaily 07-12-2021 05:22 AM

Alfie would love to be a sheep dog, he watches one man and his dog with me and gets very excited if we see sheep on our walks, Daisy not so much, she prefers to chase children in hope they will play with her. :rolleyes2

I am a vegetarian, Robbie. I gave up meat about 3 years ago, I miss the taste but ethically it fits me better.

Thanks Dee, I have a lot of dreams about my last work place and feeling scared and trapped. I relive the panic attacks I was having. My night times are exhausting.

venuscat 07-12-2021 05:27 AM

(((Kaily))) ❤️

MLD51 07-12-2021 06:49 AM

Haven't read anything, I'm very late to the party this week. I was on vacation from work last week and was staying away from my computer as much as possible.

Made good progress on the everlasting bathroom remodel. The shower is finally nearly done. Just need to touch up the caulking in a couple of places, install the fixtures and the curtain, and I can use it!! There's still work to do, but in a couple of days it will be fully functioning as a 3/4 bath again. I will probably shower in it once just to give it a "test-run," but really, it's not going to get used much.

I'm not liking being back at work, but it is what it is.

Hope everyone is OK, I'll go skim the whole thread now.

MLD51 07-12-2021 08:11 AM

I need to learn to not sweat the small stuff. I have always been a worrier, and tend toward anxiety. It's better in sobriety (I don't have nearly the anxiety level I used to), but there is work to be done there. I tend to over-plan and over-think. My man friend is always telling me not to "plan the fun out of everything." I understand what he means. But it's funny - when I don't do all the planning, he feels lost. :) The other day we went on a quick road trip and I gave him the task of doing the navigation. He was so surprised I didn't already have the route completely planned out. And I left it up to him where we ate lunch, but he kept asking me what I wanted... Baby steps...

CaptainHaddock 07-12-2021 08:37 AM

Hi MLD!

Bad luck to the English football supporters. Loosing a final on penalties really is a cruel thing. I’m sure that is not enough though to make Italy’s victory seem bittersweet :).




MesaMan 07-12-2021 09:06 AM

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Two things I didn't have to worry about yesterday:

1. Drinking
2. Wondering what a Sunset on Mars looks like

Below is the Fire Smoke around us that Free mentioned. Wicked.

As Robbie mentioned above, Paul McCartney stitched together several Land Plots on the QT for privacy just north of Campbeltown Scotland. I remembered from some R&R Magazine Interview that it was called 'High Park Ford'. And, had been forever. It's where Cattle could be driven to waiting Ships up across Land that wasn't Bog. The end destination was for Market in Edinburgh, and beyond. So, when an Airline gave me a free Business Class Ticket, I gave the still-working Wife a loving wave and booked a Seat upstairs on a Jumbo to go find the Spread of my Bass Guitar Hero.

Easily done. An old Map in the Lobby of a Campbeltown Hotel showed exactly where it was, and a Telecom Guy at the Bar told me the back way in. By an old Coal Colliery from the East. He'd installed multiple Phone Lines there, Spanking new Road Pavement Sir Paul had paid for in muddy Farm Country for was another give-away. Since Sir Paul had been Knighted, he could fly his private 737 Jet into the Military Airbase nearby at Machrihanish Air Base. I took some Film Pix through my Telephoto Lens Canon AE-1, and went on to look around the area. Good fun for a Week on a free $5,400- Business Class Air Ticket.

See the Red Roof Buildings at GPS Coordinates: 55.460644 x -5.643840 on Google Earth.

Paul McCartney On His Scottish Farm


https://i.postimg.cc/g28dZjvz/Sunset-Smoke-11072021.jpg




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