HealthyandSober needs help and support
 

i am stupid alcohol give me relief

im in the same position i was last year and was going to work everyday this time im just dumb

one of my worst moments in live was was working with my dad and i started crying because he was mad i made a mistake. he told me i was weak and i am and crush me i failed him i am a failerureb

i keep falling in life sober or drunk im just stupid

Hi HAS

I moved all your posts here so you'll get more help.
I don;t think you're stupid or weak, just addicted. It's not the same thing.

I don;t think drinking really gives you relief tho - you don;t seem very relieved to , you know?

You seemed a lot happier when you were sober this year- how did you do it then? :)

D

Hi HAS

Sorry you are having a rough time. I’m wondering if you have access to a counselor or a doctor? I’m not quite sure what you’re saying if you’re still actively drinking or if you have a few days sober.

If you’ve had some time sober in the past, you know how good it feels and you know you can do it. You know you can do it because you came here and you posted.

Bigs hugs surrounding you.

((((HAS))))

:hug:

You’ll get back on the track, HAS.

I hope you will look deep inside and find the strength you need to get sober for good. :hug:

I hope you'll log back in HAS - we can help but only if you're online.

D

Cause you're still drinking.

Not that sobriety makes everything better. But it is the starting point for improvement.

I'm sorry that joy eludes you, but alcohol isn't the answer, and I think you know that.

What is the answer? For hating one's life? Not sure. But I know that depression has a medical solution. And despair, I believe, has a spiritual one.

You do know how to begin fixing things. Staying sober will be a big step in the right direction. You will be able to figure out how to find a new job that, hopefully, will be a better fit for you. Things will get better. :)

Your work situation sounds unpleasant, but I think you know drinking won't help. Drinking doesn't help anything, no matter what our addiction tells us.

Staying sober is the first step to improving things.

I hope things feel better for you.
Take care. :)

My guess is that you are an alcoholic like me. I tried to blame pretty much everything for my problems except alcohol - my family, my friends, my job, my health, politics, whatever - but in the end of the day the real problem was my refusal/denial of the fact that alcohol was the problem. And that quitting was the solution.

Certainly it's not easy to to do this - because we all have issue in our life that we face. But I can tell you from experience that the answer is a simple one - quit drinking. Being sober allows you a much better chance to solve all the problems and issues, whereas drinking pretty much guarantees failure/pain/sadness.

Healthyandsober - Helpful things have already been said, and I agree with them all. Please know that you are not pathetic or a failure. You're weakening yourself by drinking - and that makes it hard to face challenges or to come up with solutions. I did the same thing - kept myself in a fog, thinking I was helping myself cope. It's a lie. You will get free and then you can decide what to do about a job that's more suitable for you (as Anna mentioned). Life will be so much better without alcohol.

There's nothing wrong with you that's not wrong with the rest of us :)

no your drinking has a huge part to play here, and it's probably had a huge part in your past jobs too.

Drinking's not solving anything , its not relieving in any real way, its eating away at your self esteem and it is making everything harder for you, and leaving you worse off HAS.

I know these things to be true because I was there once too.

Noone can give 100 % to something when they're drinking.

Noone can really follow their dreams when their life is being torn apart by their drinking.

Noone thinks well of themselves when they're destroying themselves with alcohol again and again.

Noone can really be happy when their drinking is fuelling their unhappiness.

You're not a loser - you're an addict. Not the same.

Its a marathon not a sprint.

My life didn't change over night and yours probably won't either - but I really believe that if you got back into AA, posted here regularly and started seeing your doctor again about your depression....within a few weeks you'd be in a much better place mentally to assess your life, your job and what you want from the future :)

D

When I was drinking, I always felt hopeless. It wasn't until I'd been sober for a while that I began to feel better, like there was hope for me. :)

Stop drinking and give yourself time to heal and I'm sure you'll feel a lot better. :hug:

Hi HAS, Im sorry for your job situation. If you’ve been heavy drinking off/on since 2016 or before that, that is most likely one reason for the trouble. The best thing you can do for yourself is to not drink and stay sober. This will give you a clear head and help you be less anxious, depressed and hard on yourself.

Maybe there are other things going on as well. Maybe the field, job or company you work in is not a good fit. Have you talked to a counselor? Many community colleges have counselors who can provide job and career support and resources.

What about talking to your doctor to get back on antidepressants?

Please don’t call yourself stupid. It’s just not true. Though sometimes we do make poor choices. Please be kind to yourself.

I hope to see you keep posting here for support.

thank you all :grouphug::You_Rock_

:You_Rock_ too HAS :)

D

its just so sad to me i was only two months on this job and the 3rd is my last day. i don't know how to explain this to my husband

thank you fearless, Dee, glimmer and everyone :grouphug:

I wish for you that 2019 can be your year HAS - sober and in a good job that you love :)

D