02/08/16
 

It no longer needs to stop but has to stop. After several good days at times and weeks at times just to fall back in the same old routine I know now is the time. My wife deserves better. My body deserves better.

Congrats on the new sobriety date. Mine is just a few days ago, 02/04/16. This disease we share sucks, but having others to go through it with is very helpful.

Have you got a plan ?

My plan is to diet and exercise and also find joy in not drinking and not taking it to esxteems when I do. I am not a daily drinker. I had slight withdrawls when I was drinking 5 days a week when trying to sleep the first few nights. Those no longer persist but I still take drinking to extreems when I do drink so I know its time to stop. Hangovers suck and I dont want another one. Not remembering sucks and I dont want that ever again also.

The relationships I have that often involve drinking will change and thats scarry since some are close family, but they will just have to change.

February 8 is a great date for a sobriety date. Hope you'll join us in the class of February 16 thread here. It's really helping me so far this month.

I'm glad you've decided to get sober. :)

"and not taking it to esxteems when I do". Most of us find that very hard and it's much easier to just stop drinking and take that option out of your life. But I'm glad you're trying to stay sober in the man mean time

I struggle with it to so either A.) I will quit drinking to get sloppy or B.) I will just quit.

I am hoping for A but am finally ready to do one or the other. The first few weeks will be B.

Try a few months sober, and see if you like yourself better.

Part of recovery is the creation and maintenance of new routines. This involves change. BIG CHANGE. If you aren't changing the old routines, they are easy to return to.

So you plan on drinking, you just don't plan on overdoing it?

That, BD, is a lousy plan.

Quit completely. Never drink again. Believe me, it's easier than the charade of thinking you can control your drinking.

If we could drink and 'not overdo it' very few of us would be here BD.

You're fighting for your life here - a wishy washy plan hoping to be maybe kinda sorta sober is no good.

A plan's not hard to make.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html

why not commit to some real change BD? :)

Welcome back BD!! You can do this!! :)

Congrats.

Day 2 and I feel great. Sleep was restless for a while of course but what I did get was great and my body is not shocked by the toxins this morning.

I have commited to 2 weeks with 0 alcohol. After that if I find it not possible to drink sociably then I will be taking some of you guys advice. I have made the calim I am doing it before but feeling different this time.

I deserve better. My wife deserves better. I never intend to have another withdrawl symptom. I never intend to not remember a thing due to liquor.

Feeling good. Thanks guys n gals.

You already know you can't drink sociably, go back and read your old posts. You don't need our advice to see that, you have hard evidence from your own failed attempts at doing so.

It's great that you are making these changes, but it's simply your addiction telling you that you might be able to somehow drink "repsonsibly" again some day. Most of us have tried it, multiple times, and it always fails, every single time. I hope you can keep up your current focus and realize that staying sober is the best solution long term.

Scott,

This will be the last attempt if failed. I talked a big game before then always went on back to that liquor store. I dont want to go back. I dont even want to ever be drunk again. I am scared of it. I am scared or what it made me. This time will be different. I can feel it.

Want a beer? Sure. Sounds delicious.
Want a screwdriver? $/&@ No! Want me to have 8? Thats what will happen.

Not sure I understand...do you mean you are going to make one more attempt at "controlled drinking" after a short period of not drinking, or are you attempting total sobriety as a long term/forever goal?

Believe me, you'll want 8 beers just like you wanted 8 screwdrivers. Alcohol is alcohol. Doesn't matter what it's in.

Detoxing and intending to never get sloppy again. I wont touch a sip so long as I feel any AV. The AV not only says drink today but says keep going and going and going. Its the drinking to get drunk that is going to stop.

The thought of just saying no for the rest of my life sucks. People know whats up then and as far as now this is between my wife and I and you guys.