Check yourself weekender October 16
 

Knowing the bunch that gathers here each weekend a kickoff title like that can cause a stir. But for real. Check yourself.

Reading here as much as I do I learned that we drink for different yet similar reasons. Some because they scrutinize themselves so much it's unbearable so they drink. Others cause they go unchecked and off the rails so they drink.

This last few weeks I did not check myself and so I slowly drifted. Work got intense. I got lonely. I did not see where I was going cause I didn't want to check in. Now while I caught it I wanted to ask the weekender team to perhaps do the same. Check in. Where are you really at? What are we doing that we know leads to no good? Are we placing relapse building blocks and pretending they are not there?

Mecanix said something to me in a note of encouragement… “None of this is the fault of being sober”.

That's stopped me and made me feel so much better for checking in and seeing what was what.

Can you hear it? It's calling! *Ring Ring* the sober bells of freedom!

Welcome to your sober weekend!

Ken

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I'm on!

I had to think about it, but I don't know that I'm doing anything that leads to no good, but I'm not doing enough proactively to lead to positive change in some areas. I guess it is the same thing really.

At any rate you got me thinking. But for now it's gym time.

Wishing everyone the best day. :)

Shotgun :)

I'm in.
Thanks for another great thread. I love the weekend threads.

Congrats Mark!!!

I love seeing you here Tetra!!! You are part of the family!

Dang it if that cold won't go away. I will ignore the scratchy throat and tight chest and press on.

Have a big weekend of turning over the house and car to winter. Swap out summer for winter clothes. Put the rubber mats in the car and get the shovel in the trunk.

Pumpkin carving and food also!

Thanks for joining me!!!!!! Let's have some fun!

Here!

I have no meetings until 3:30 this afternoon. I am moving slllllooooooowwwwwwwwww......... . .

I have to spend my day in a basement purging old files for the shredders....I put it off all summer cuz it was hot down there. Time to pony up.

Window seat!!

Not easy but it's worth it. Plan to work a lil this weekend got an important mission coming up.

Welcome ast... Sounds secretive! Mission! Lol

Glad you joined. Let us know how you are doing!

I'm on the bus!

Health screening at the university at 8:15 (I signed up for a study) and then a couple of hours before I have to leave for my interview. I got a good solid 8 hours of sleep, amazingly enough.

Welcome, Ast. This is a good place to be on the weekend!

Oh and it's my grand daughter's first birthday today! Happy birthday, Nugget!!!

I'm in!! This is the earliest I've been in on the bus! Might have actually grabbed a seat! No big plans for the weekend. It's been a long time since I've not had anything to do for a weekend so I am taking full advantage! Maybe a long bike ride or walk. Just quality family time.

Have a great sober weekend everyone!
Thanks for the thread, Weasel.

I'm in! Good topic too. Just this morning I was out for a run and I started thinking about hosting a big Christmas party at my house. I was thinking of whether or not I'd need to rent some sort of tent and heater for outside (my house is very small), what I'd put on the music playlist, what food I'd serve, what alcohol I would provide (….!!!!!!!warningwarningwarning!!!!….), whether or not I could financially afford a party and then finally it dawned on me that I needed to really think about whether or not my sobriety could afford a party.
I have made my home alcohol free as a safe haven for myself. I have avoided entertaining at my house for quite a while to be sure no one comes to dinner with a bottle of wine or I feel pressured to serve wine. I have missed it, a lot. I don't have a lot of money but the thing I most enjoy spending my money and time on is cooking and hosting dinners and parties at my house. I started to get ahead of myself on this run thinking that a party might be nice at by Christmas I'd have a decent chunk of time under my belt. But I definitely don't feel ready NOW. I know preparing, planning, etc- although enjoyable, is always stressful for me too. Then I would have to deal with the nerves the day of the party and greeting everyone. If the party was tonight I wouldn't feel 100% confident going in that I would remain true to my sobriety. Therefore it is ridiculous to plan a party now for a few months out. I may very well be ready to host something like that come December. But I may not. And that is ok. But I shouldn't set myself up for failure now by planning something that I am not currently ready for and have no way of knowing if I would be ready for it then.
Thanks to your thought provoking post above I think I will wipe the party plan off the table. Maybe I'll have a big bash in 2016 :)

Happy birthday to your grand daughter!

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And Della Bo Bella has some shredding to do in the basement?!?

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(Climbing aboard!!!)
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I'm in too!!! Looking forward to the weekend since we are having a children's party at our farm. My daughter is excited. People will bring booze and they will be hung over the next day. I will wake up feeling great. What a gift! I have a crazy day at work today. I'm supposed to be in 2 places at once and that used to cause me lots of stress. Now I realize that it's simply IMPOSSIBLE so I roll with the punches. I feel great about my sobriety today and I'm riding this wave!

Happy weekend everyone!!!

Hi everyone! Thank you Weasel for getting us started. Great topic this week and timely, too. I'm setting myself up by not taking care of myself and not doing the things that have been working for me. Skipping meetings. Posting as much on here. Paying too much attention to other people's issues and not on my own.

Time to refocus.

MLD, I'm sending good thoughts and support your way for your interview this afternoon. And happy birthday to your Nugget. Awesome!

Mera, good catch on your part. It might be too much too soon to entertain. There's always next year. But great to start thinking about dealing with holidays and making plans to stay sober.

Time to scramble. Congrats Mark on shotgun. Weas, I hope you finally kick the cold

Hey weekenders! Great topic, Weasel.
My schedule has been exceptionally busy so I'm planning some down time for myself this weekend. I've got a cold or allergies and know that Ill feel better faster if I make a big pot of soup, curl up on the couch, and watch a bunch of old Halloween movies.
Counting down!
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I'm in! happyface:

The B man is on!!!

More...anon!!!! :)

I'm climbing on board early (at least for me!).

Morning y'all! :)

Will be thinking of you today Marty! And happy birthday to your granddaughter!

Good luck Marty and Happy Birthday Nugget!!

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'Mister In? Mister I.B. In. Please come to the White Paging Telephone'.

I was just out checking out the fantastic Dark Sky. We can also see the Headlights of Hunters plodding along small Roads on a Plateau way distant from us. Folks waking up and commuting to distant Jobs. Lots to see with Binocs. Voyeurism. But, channeled innocently for once... :smokin:

I was out at our Gate last Night until about 20:00 Hours. Turns out an iffy Phone Plug connection into the distant Modem there was causing Line noise. This causes Software to drop 'Net connection speed to 'work around' that Line noise issue. So, Life is good again this Morning here in Techno Land.

I sho got a lot of giggles out of the prior Thread. Man, there were some classic Lines posted.

In exerting Mindfulness over Socializing and - gasp! - separating out the concept of fun always involving Alcohol when hosting Dinners - I'm having to plow new Territory. This is when being part Mule is helpful. I'm sticking hard to my justified Boundaries when Plans are created as though nothing has changed. Have all the Drinking Pals over, and watch like some Sober Statue as everyone get plowed. Uh, whoops, gotta wash my Hair that Night. OK, well, first grow some Hair. Then, wash it.

Ain't gonna get sucked into that Water swirling down the proverbial Toilet Bowl this Holiday Season. The resolve and support here is especially appreciated!
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Just checking in i hope you are all well
this weekend am having my nephew over for the night then Friday am doing food shopping then Saturday am going to a drop in for trans people with my husband and my sister Sunday am going to an art gallery with a trans group should be fun .

This cracked me up!!!! :dee

Count me in! Looking forward to a nice relaxing sober weekend.

White paging phone? Aren't those all museum pieces now?

Went and saw The Intern last weekend. Lots of good generation gap humor. A good time at the movies. Nons gives it 2 thumbs up.

I woke up in the mood this morning, but Mrs. Nons responded with a coughing fit into her pillow. Not only did I not get what I wanted, but it seems highly likely I'll be catching something I definitely don't want in the near future. :(

Another sober weekend in paradise! Wootah!

Hey Weasel
I'm hopping on late....slept til 6:30am in my neck of the woods. Sleep glorious sleep.
Obsessive thinking. That wrecks me....I'm working on it...its getting better.

I'm definitely in-
Mld...it's great that you got a good night's sleep. Make sure you eat before the interview also. Good luck!
Happy birthday Nugget.
great idea to switch summer to winter this weekend. I think I'll do that also. I have to go through stuff and weed out trash and clutter.
I'm not sure where I am these days. Yesterday I was lazy and didn't want to leave my bed. Today I feel rested and am looking forward to a productive day. We'll see how the day goes. I'm optimistic.
See you all later -