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13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 10:48 AM

Well its
 
Day one again! So angry at myself - but what's done is done. Only way is forward :)

Kza 09-16-2013 10:49 AM


Originally Posted by 13unluckyforsom (Post 4183990)
Only way is forward :)

If only that we're true.:gaah

jdooner 09-16-2013 10:51 AM

You beating yourself up too much. You slipped, so what. You are not on a bender you prob feel horrible for giving up the 27 days in your mind but really nothing has changed. My guess is your prob 10x stronger now than two days ago. So best the 27 - you got this!

foolsgold66 09-16-2013 10:54 AM

Oh there you are! Yesterday is gone, leave it there where it belongs! Focus on today...

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 11:01 AM

Yeah your all right - no point dwelling in more self pity. Start again :) no more 'drinking at' other people and probably time to do a bit of work on me. Like nuu said there's no one going to come and rescue me from myself I have to like me. Thanks everyone for the support yesterday.

ScottFromWI 09-16-2013 11:04 AM


Originally Posted by Kza (Post 4183994)
If only that we're true.:gaah

Kza...there are a lot of people who do see it that way. Perhaps you could start a thread of your own if you are having a problem today rather than dive bombing others with negative thoughts.

Kza 09-16-2013 11:11 AM

I just meant that the only way is forward is not true.

lommey 09-16-2013 11:12 AM

come on 13 you know your a diamond:You_Rock_

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 11:14 AM


Originally Posted by Kza (Post 4184016)
I just meant that the only way is forward is not true.

I know but in my eyes in this case it's the only way for me :) are you allright anyway Kza?

Kza 09-16-2013 11:15 AM

Yes am fine

ScottFromWI 09-16-2013 11:16 AM


Originally Posted by Kza (Post 4184025)
Yes am fine

I hope so - i saw a simliar post by you in another thread suggesting maybe things aren't OK. Let us know...we are all in the same boat here.

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 11:16 AM


Originally Posted by lommey (Post 4184021)
come on 13 you know your a diamond:You_Rock_

Shining bright :) lol

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 11:17 AM


Originally Posted by Kza (Post 4184025)
Yes am fine

You sure? as scott says we are all here if you want to talk...I don't think we've spoke before so it's nice to meet you

sandgirl 09-16-2013 11:18 AM

The only way is forward-that is def true! You can't change the past-you can change your future-only positive thoughts:-). You can be different.

Kza 09-16-2013 11:22 AM


Originally Posted by sandgirl (Post 4184033)
The only way is forward-that is def true! You can't change the past-you can change your future-only positive thoughts:-). You can be different.


No, you can go backwards or stay the same.:gaah

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 11:42 AM


Originally Posted by Kza (Post 4184043)

No, you can go backwards or stay the same.:gaah

Yes Kza YOU can if that's what YOU choose to do. For me - in this case I'm going forward. So for me it's the only way.

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 11:42 AM


Originally Posted by sandgirl (Post 4184033)
The only way is forward-that is def true! You can't change the past-you can change your future-only positive thoughts:-). You can be different.

Thank you

Kza 09-16-2013 11:50 AM


Originally Posted by 13unluckyforsom (Post 4184084)
Yes Kza YOU can if that's what YOU choose to do. For me - in this case I'm going forward. So for me it's the only way.

Unless you fail and then it will not be the only way

Eleni58 09-16-2013 11:55 AM

13, as long as you keep coming back here and posting and keep trying, that is what truly counts! There are so many people that just give up and leave this site. So as long as I still see you here, I know there is hope for you--and you can do it any way you like--as long as you get there. Rootin' for ya!

KZA--negative attitudes = negative results.

ImperfectlyMe 09-16-2013 11:59 AM

Hey 13 use the negative banter there to grow your resolve to move forward! Sure one can stay in the same place move in reverse, but the fact that your here hours after a stumble means yes you are moving forward!

Onward and upward!

AugustWest11 09-16-2013 12:04 PM

Everything has been said that I wanted to say; So I will leave you w\ this ..

And some of the time, let the sun shine
Some of the time, let it shine
GD

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 12:04 PM

In a funny way I feel better - knowing that I can't drink. I don't know why I felt the need to dip my toe in the shark infested water again but at least the alcohols gone now and I won't buy myself any and no one else will.

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 12:06 PM


Originally Posted by AugustWest11 (Post 4184129)
Everything has been said that I wanted to say; So I will leave you w\ this ..

And some of the time, let the sun shine
Some of the time, let it shine
GD

Hey AW how are you? Love the quote. I'm going to catch up ob your posts in a minute see how it's going for ya. You doing ok?

AugustWest11 09-16-2013 12:08 PM

Still breathing :p Kinda tired but not sure I should sleep out of free not getting up for work :( and presently that would not be good thing :( But all in all; good ..

wehav2day 09-16-2013 12:21 PM

Kza, lets keep this positive, shall we? There's an abundance of negativity in the world, so I think those bases are covered

13, you can do this! If I had a dollar for each time I drank "at" my partner, I'd be rich! Still drunk, but rich. If you focus on being the best, sober, strongest you there's a good chance your so will notice and follow suit in some way. When I sobered up I thought my relationship was doomed. But it improved and we got closer almost despite ourselves. Give it time, see what happens.

Good thoughts headed your way

freshstart57 09-16-2013 12:21 PM

Folks who have been sober for a while will tell you that the way forward is to take any option of drinking away. Life will bring us situations, or we will manufacture them, that tell us any manner of lies to get us to drink again. Our subconscious knows no limit, and will use any event to excuse yet another appeal for 'just a couple'.

How can we succeed if our own brain is turning against us? Well, it is possible, and folks do it all the time. The brain part that wants the drink is resourceful and imaginative, but powerless. It has zero ability to direct our actions, our actions flow from our thinking rational mind, not our survival urges run amok.

Our way forward needs a plan which must be to never drink again, no matter what. Makes me think of Linus and Lucy, and the security blanket. Linus asks Lucy to never give him his blanket back, no matter what, and she agrees. In the next instant, Linus tells Lucy he has changed his mind, and wants it back, and Lucy folds like a cheap tent, to Linus' great dismay and disappointment.

Our way forward starts with a belief in ourselves, that we can succeed, and that we will succeed. Our way forward has the belief that for us, forward is the only way.

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 12:26 PM


Originally Posted by Kza (Post 4184107)

Unless you fail and then it will not be the only way

Failing isn't one of my options though :) so it won't happen. Simple.

HeadLump 09-16-2013 12:28 PM


Originally Posted by freshstart57 (Post 4184156)
Our way forward starts with a belief in ourselves, that we can succeed, and that we will succeed. Our way forward has the belief that for us, forward is the only way.

Lovely!

So good to see you back and posting, 13. It shows great determination :)

13unluckyforsom 09-16-2013 12:31 PM


Originally Posted by freshstart57 (Post 4184156)
Folks who have been sober for a while will tell you that the way forward is to take any option of drinking away. Life will bring us situations, or we will manufacture them, that tell us any manner of lies to get us to drink again. Our subconscious knows no limit, and will use any event to excuse yet another appeal for 'just a couple'.

How can we succeed if our own brain is turning against us? Well, it is possible, and folks do it all the time. The brain part that wants the drink is resourceful and imaginative, but powerless. It has zero ability to direct our actions, our actions flow from our thinking rational mind, not our survival urges run amok.

Our way forward needs a plan which must be to never drink again, no matter what. Makes me think of Linus and Lucy, and the security blanket. Linus asks Lucy to never give him his blanket back, no matter what, and she agrees. In the next instant, Linus tells Lucy he has changed his mind, and wants it back, and Lucy folds like a cheap tent, to Linus' great dismay and disappointment.

Our way forward starts with a belief in ourselves, that we can succeed, and that we will succeed. Our way forward has the belief that for us, forward is the only way.

You always make me feel so positive - your words are always dead on target. You have a gift for helping people. You see through the mess and focus only on the big picture. I'm going to do what I should have yesterday and read some avrt material.

foolsgold66 09-16-2013 12:41 PM

So glad you're doing better. Btw, you should just go ahead and change your avatar, this is who I think of when I read your posts:

https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/i...QM3-8oPCkalDGD

13 from House...


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