I am out :-( Just wanted to TY guys/girls for all the support I have gotten here. But I am not in a place I like right now & feel isolation is best for me. I am an plan to stay sober, that is not a problem now. I will check this post tomorrow from my PC just to thank everyone 1 last time. Again TY all. |
your call of course, but I think isolation is about the worst thing we can do. I tended to think way too much left to my own devices - I needed to connect with people and feel a part of something...I needed to be accountable too. whats the problem with checking in here AW? D |
I hope you figure out what you need to figure out. Always someone here to listen and help. Have a great weekend. |
Yes, why choose to isolate? Isolation was about the worst thing in the world for my own addiction. |
Whatever you feel is right, but I always felt when someone tells people they want to be alone, in telling people they are shouting out the opposite indirectly. Even just coming here and reading people's posts helps. Sometimes I fall asleep reading, which is nice, also because I have spent two hours reading encouraging stuf...mind off of the anxiety, and its not two hours drinking on the couch. Good luck to you. Hope all is well. And if that's what works for you the. More power to you, personally I just get in my head too much and that's not a cycle that ends easily |
I second that Jennie. My addiction thrived in isolation because it prevented me from fully seeing the consequences of my drinking, particularly the effect it had on others around me. Do what you need to do August, but if it's sobriety you want, I doubt you will find a more supportive, understanding, forgiving and helpful community than the good folks here at SR. |
Your reasons are what they are, but ( Only asking and I dont know how else to say it) why post that you are out? I would not have made a post at all, I just would have left. Are you willing to talk about it? I hope that you will reconsider. Support is essential in everyone's life. |
AW, I don't want to read too much into your post, but I think it might be helpful to ask yourself what you're seeking right now? I have often found that when people say things like "don't worry about me" what they really mean is "please worry about me". Maybe that isn't the case for you, but if it is, it might be good for you to try thinking about what needs you are feeling and how you can ask for them directly. Again, please excuse me if I'm overstepping, I only know that it took me a long time to learn how to express my needs directly. I would do things like not call friends to see how long it would take them to call me, or go away for the weekend without telling anyone to see if anyone noticed. It made me unhappy and never elicited the responses I hoped for. Learning how to recognize my needs and express them directly has made me a lot happier. |
For me...I'm either facing toward the Light of the Spirit or turning my back on it. I sometimes will look away from the Light...but I always try to turn back. Leaving any type of on-going recovery should really be thought about. I always like to run things by my sponsor....but that's just me. Good luck... |
Originally Posted by AugustWest11
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Just wanted to TY guys/girls for all the support I have gotten here. But I am not in a place I like right now & feel isolation is best for me. I am an plan to stay sober, that is not a problem now. I will check this post tomorrow from my PC just to thank everyone 1 last time. Again TY all. Maybe isolation isnt such a great idea. It can really be hard to come back from, and you can risk becoming a shut in. The longer you are alone, the more your social skills deplete and you end up having a harder time re-assimilating back into society. At the very least, I would check the forum and communicate, so you have some interaction and support, but its your call. |
Hi, August. I second all that's been said above - isolation isn't the best choice, IMHO. I am quite a "lonely wolf" myself, and generally I'm ok with that. But I have to admit that my addiction loved isolation as well. I don't know your reasons for that. I can only tell out of my own experience. Sometimes I seek isolation in order "to sort things out" and understand who I am and what I want in life and to avoid pressure from those who are close to me. But it's a different story with SR - for the last 8 months I sorted out more than, I think, in the last 10 years. Anyway, whatever your decision is, remember there are always people here who will support you and offer light of their souls when you need it. Best luck to you. |
I agree with MB-I'm quite an 'alone' person too and I'm quite happy with that. I don't really feel the need to be out socialising...but SR is a different matter. It's being in here and listening to and learning from others that has made the difference to my life. I've known many who have left this forum and then slipped because their addiction got them all to itself. Be well. Be strong. And remember where we are x |
We'll keep the lights on for you. if you ever feel like chatting we're just a click or two away. Best of luck on your journey! |
I'm sorry you're not in a good place right now. We understand, as we've been in that same place before. I hope when you check in again, you'll feel the support of SR and decide to not isolate yourself. |
Originally Posted by Pondlady
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I'm sorry you're not in a good place right now. We understand, as we've been in that same place before. I hope when you check in again, you'll feel the support of SR and decide to not isolate yourself. |
Good Morning AG, Nice to hear from you. I look forward to hearing from you when you do get on line. Our public library here, has free internet and computers too.....just a thought:) |
A place that I and millions go is AA for help and it can easily be free. In your general area there are hundreds of meetings a day. We have to get out of ourselves and be honest, I wasn't for a couple of years so I suffered. I found that my thinking sure wasn't my strong point as it was cluttered with too much stuff that got me into this condition in the first place. BE WELL |
Originally Posted by Pondlady
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Good Morning AG, Nice to hear from you. I look forward to hearing from you when you do get on line. Our public library here, has free internet and computers too.....just a thought:) |
Originally Posted by visch1
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A place that I and millions go is AA for help and it can easily be free. In your general area there are hundreds of meetings a day. We have to get out of ourselves and be honest, I wasn't for a couple of years so I suffered. I found that my thinking sure wasn't my strong point as it was cluttered with too much stuff that got me into this condition in the first place. BE WELL |
There are many helpful recovery sources available to help anyone and everyone who has the willingness and openmindedness to use them in helping them learn to stay clean and sober a day at a time. Sober Recovery is just one of many of those sources available to help us. It is one of many tools to use each day. Im 22 yrs sober and began my recovery journey in rehab where family stepped in to get me help I so desperately needed to begin learning about my alcoholism, which is my drug of choice, and received tools and knowledge of a recovery program to incorporate in my everyday life. One day while looking online for something else I could use as an added bonus or tool each day that I didn't make an AA meeting, I found Sober Recovery along with many other online sites to fill in the void. I was able to connect here each day and stay connected 24 hours a day if needed, reading and passin on my own experiences, strengths and hopes of what my life was and is like before, during and after my drinking career. In the beginning I first had to learn about my addiction to alcohol and how it affected my body, mind and soul. And how and why it affected all those around me. Those 28 days in rehab was a good start for me and from there I attended a 6 week outpatient aftercare program and many many recovery meetings in AA while being a mother to 2 little ones and my husband at that time in my life. Fast forward to 22 yrs sober, 23 yrs this coming August 11, I am still using SR to continue helping others struggling with addiction by passing on my own ESH with them. In doing so, I can continue to live alcohol free, honest, happier, content and enjoying the promises offered to us as stated in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Listen, learn, absorb and apply all that you can about addiction and pass on that knowledge to others. :) |
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