My wife and i made a resolution to not engage in family drama this year or any year. can not have a war if one side does not show up |
Originally Posted by FreeFall
(Post 3688024)
Lola sorry it is all happening at once around the holidays. It's hard to let go but sometimes it's the only thing to do. Stay strong! Fitz, I always had a tree when I lived alone. I loved the lights, made things very cozy and comforting. This year I am trying to figure out how to have lights and a kitten at the same time lol |
I'm currently not speaking to my brother. (the only family i have left) Stupid holidays. ...Could probably come up with constructive ways to fix this thing between us, but would rather stay mad for a while. Still not drinking, though. And congrats that you're not, either. :c011: |
I am not sure if it can be fixed or if I even want to anymore, I tried to make things right with both families and they chose not work on things together...so be it. When I get pushed to a certain point I become evil with my words, its very rare this happens but my sister brought it out of me last week...then I was mad at myself....sigh... |
If these people have a negative effect on you, then by all means, distance yourself. Work on you. You deserve it. |
Thanks Cas, I've always been the type who automatically think I don't deserve anything good in my life and I am working on changing that! Yes they have a negative effect on my life, such is life I guess, live and learn! |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
(Post 3688099)
Thanks Cas, I've always been the type who automatically think I don't deserve anything good in my life and I am working on changing that! Yes they have a negative effect on my life, such is life I guess, live and learn! |
My mother is in a class all her own. I look at that saying the same way, yes I can choose my friends thank GOD, cuz I sure didn't choose this dysfunction. Anyhow, I am most disappointed in all of this nonsense, could have been so different....sigh |
Lola, Cass is right, you deserve to be happy. A year ago I was hopping mad about something and drank more because of it, as I hadn't quit yet. I work harder at self control now....and a big part of that, is who I choose to be around. Family and holidays can really push our buttons. |
I agree PL, my buttons are not that easily pushed, yet they find a way to do it...everytime! |
Hi, Lola. I feel for you - our closest relatives always know our weakest points and hit right on them. All my deepest scars in my soul come from my immediate family. Take care of yourself. You do deserve a good life, don't let anyone destroy this faith. Take care. |
Thanks blue.....and yes, my deepest scars revolve around them... |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
(Post 3688284)
Thanks blue.....and yes, my deepest scars revolve around them... |
Exactly, this is going to be a long process, I have many many scars but I will work through them all. |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
(Post 3688295)
Exactly, this is going to be a long process, I have many many scars but I will work through them all. |
I am getting ready to start a new job with new benefits and yes, I am going to therapy....I hope the couch is big and comfy! |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
(Post 3688365)
I hope the couch is big and comfy! |
I have spent years neglecting myself, tired of it, time to get myself in order otherwise I am no use for anyone else either! |
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:09 PM. |