Bah humbug SO, my holiday season is just fab, my inlaws decided to disown us and I decided to disown my own family.....ain't life grand? Actually, I am "on a break" from my family, crazy people.....and I am sane..right?? LMAO!!! Anywho, my life has changed so much these past few years, I am trying to work on new traditions, but wish I didn't have too. The good news is I have remained sober! I had a planned to drink one night last week, while driving to the market, I thought I would get me one of those little boxes of wine and that was it, but ended up picking up what I needed and skipping the wine isle :) :) . I drove to where I thought an AA meeting was last Tuesday and waited for other cars that never showed up lol, SO....I guess maybe another time I hope! Anyway, I am TRYING to not be so pissed off this holiday season, but some days are better than others. Love to all my SR folks! |
Hi, Lola. Great job. I think it's just ten times harder for you to stay sober in Italy, with all this fine wine around. I remember my trip to Italy during Xmas days, all this great food, wine... Aaaaa. My best wishes to you. Stay strong and determined. |
awe, midnight...I would totally agree with that :) I am trying to stay strong! |
Stick with your SR family Lola :) D |
Lola, I'm sorry that it's tough for you now. I hope you find some happy and fun ways to get through the holidays. |
So I live alone with no family within a couple thousand miles my mom wants me to get an xmas tree I might just ttell her I did why would I want to stare at a decorated tree by myself? Hang in there. |
Thanks guys....and Fitz, I remember not putting up a tree cuz I was so down in the dumps :(:( |
I think it's great you skipped the wine aisle. :) I have disowned my family completely actually, they were quite toxic and it affected me badly. I like the SR family much better :) |
^ me too D |
Sorry you are having a tough go, Lola. Your twin is here for you! I'll be your punching bag if you'd like! :) |
lol Fern.....no one wants to be on the receiving end when I start swinging. I just hate that I have to say goodbye to everything and everyone I've ever known, its part of gods plan for me I suppose, but it hurts like hell! |
Glad you were able to pass up the wine:) This time of year is tough, lots of raised expectations about family. Hang in there! |
Thanks PL....I was thinking that earlier, I need to lower my expectations for sure... |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
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lol Fern.....no one wants to be on the receiving end when I start swinging. I just hate that I have to say goodbye to everything and everyone I've ever known, its part of gods plan for me I suppose, but it hurts like hell! |
Thanks Rose....that's exactly how I feel, I'm grieving them...but I need to let them go :( |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
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Thanks Rose....that's exactly how I feel, I'm grieving them...but I need to let them go :( :) |
Hi Lola, You still have lots of people who love you on here, me being one of them! I am sorry things are tough right now. I think making new traditions and building new memories will help. Remember you are a strong and amazing mom. Also, you skipped the wine aisle, and I know how difficult that is!! Sending hugs. :) |
keep your chin up you can do it:) hugs to you~~ |
Thanks everyone! Its really hard to let go of everyone and everything I have ever known :(:(, Thanks for the much needed support! |
Lola sorry it is all happening at once around the holidays. It's hard to let go but sometimes it's the only thing to do. Stay strong! Fitz, I always had a tree when I lived alone. I loved the lights, made things very cozy and comforting. This year I am trying to figure out how to have lights and a kitten at the same time lol |
My wife and i made a resolution to not engage in family drama this year or any year. can not have a war if one side does not show up |
Originally Posted by FreeFall
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Lola sorry it is all happening at once around the holidays. It's hard to let go but sometimes it's the only thing to do. Stay strong! Fitz, I always had a tree when I lived alone. I loved the lights, made things very cozy and comforting. This year I am trying to figure out how to have lights and a kitten at the same time lol |
I'm currently not speaking to my brother. (the only family i have left) Stupid holidays. ...Could probably come up with constructive ways to fix this thing between us, but would rather stay mad for a while. Still not drinking, though. And congrats that you're not, either. :c011: |
I am not sure if it can be fixed or if I even want to anymore, I tried to make things right with both families and they chose not work on things together...so be it. When I get pushed to a certain point I become evil with my words, its very rare this happens but my sister brought it out of me last week...then I was mad at myself....sigh... |
If these people have a negative effect on you, then by all means, distance yourself. Work on you. You deserve it. |
Thanks Cas, I've always been the type who automatically think I don't deserve anything good in my life and I am working on changing that! Yes they have a negative effect on my life, such is life I guess, live and learn! |
Originally Posted by lilgolden73
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Thanks Cas, I've always been the type who automatically think I don't deserve anything good in my life and I am working on changing that! Yes they have a negative effect on my life, such is life I guess, live and learn! |
My mother is in a class all her own. I look at that saying the same way, yes I can choose my friends thank GOD, cuz I sure didn't choose this dysfunction. Anyhow, I am most disappointed in all of this nonsense, could have been so different....sigh |
Lola, Cass is right, you deserve to be happy. A year ago I was hopping mad about something and drank more because of it, as I hadn't quit yet. I work harder at self control now....and a big part of that, is who I choose to be around. Family and holidays can really push our buttons. |
I agree PL, my buttons are not that easily pushed, yet they find a way to do it...everytime! |
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