You asked, "Does all of this sound like alcoholic behavior to you guys?" My answer is yes, this does sound like alcoholic behavior. I can't tell you if you are an alcoholic or not. That is a decision you and only you can determine. |
However, I do not have withdrawal symptoms from alcohol. Yet. I do not drink alone. Yet. I could never imagine hiding bottles Yet. I bet if you come back and read your post 5 years from now you will be doing all this things if you are still drinking. Alcoholism is progressive, everything that is happening to you right now is only going to get worse. There is so much alcohol in my house right now and I don't sit around thinking about it all day. With so much alcohol in your house you don't have to worry about running out. I bet if you had zero alcohol in your house you would think about it. Only you can answer the question of whether you are an alcoholic. Stick around SR and read a lot, you may get some answers. |
Hi and welcome! As everyone has said, only you can decide if drinking is a problem for you. I didn't drink every day either, never hid alcohol, didn't go particularly crazy if I couldn't have a drink. I'd say I was more of a binge drinker, sometimes to the point of blackouts. There are two sayings I like that really helped me realize I had a problem. One is "I didn't have a problem every time I drank, but every time I had a problem I had been drinking". The other is "when I could control my drinking, I didn't enjoy it, and when I enjoyed my drinking, I couldn't control it". I don't have an "off" switch either. I never know at any given time whether I'll be able to drink just two glasses of wine, or if it will be a binge night. I got tired of the guilt and shame and self loathing and hangovers and lack of self esteem. I have 4 children who need a sober, happy mom. I have 43 days sober today and call myself a recovering alcoholic. I was told to "look for the similarities, not the differences" and there were plenty. Keep reading and posting the people here are so supportive. Oh and my favorite saying, "To thine own self be true". Best wishes to you! |
sounds to me your a binge drinker that's what I was and I'm an alcoholic because I did it 5 times a week.....I have said and done many stupid things during a binge at least once a week there was some kind of drama I lived like this for 13 years. When you start and don't want stop is a sign there is worse things to come. I didn't drink everyday either but things will only get worse for you unfortunately. |
[QUOTE=scarletrose;3114034] I hope that I can do this with alcohol. Just walk away. I deserve a better life than to be a 37 year old woman dancing on bars and falling down drunk. It's not fun anymore. [QUOTE] I hope you can as well. If you are able to do that, you are very fortunate. And probably not an alcoholic. For most of us, it takes more than just walking away to recover and stay sober. I wish you luck! |
Hi and welcome! You sound an awful lot like me. . . I'm 36, married with two kids, full-time job, do triathlons and marathons. . . I have a 1/2 marathon coming up next Saturday. I also questioned whether or not I was a true alcoholic. I don't drink every day (anymore, I did when I was a SAHM). But I do have trouble stopping once I start, and I think about alcohol more than I should. I black out easily, after 2 or 3 drinks. And I regret much of what I say and do after drinking. All fights with my husband occur when I've had something to drink, and all self-loathing comes during a hangover. I haven't been able to quit completely, but I'm working on it. To echo what many others have said - don't be consumed by trying to label yourself or define the extent to which you have a problem. If drinking is in anyway affecting your life negatively, you most likely are in the beginning stages of wanting to change that behavior. And you're in the right place! Tell your husband that you're conducting a little experiment and you want to see if you can abstain from alcohol for 30 days. Ask for him to be supportive (not drink in front of you, not take you out to a bar, etc.) It will be very hard to try to stop without his support. . . Good luck - use SR. The people on this site are AMAZING. |
Originally Posted by scarletrose
(Post 3113457)
I would never choose alcohol over my kids, husband or my fitness. |
If you are able to do that, you are very fortunate. And probably not an alcoholic. |
Hi scarlet! Just wanted to add my welcome..... I'm really happy for you that you can see your drinking as "not normal." I didn't know I had a problem for a long time (well into my 30's) because I was a binge drinker and it seemed that everyone got drunk once in a while. Over time, though, I started breaking promises I'd made to be home at a certain time, only have a few, etc... I'd feel in total control when I had that first drink, so why did I end up still wanting a drink at 3 a.m.? It's baffling, for sure. I understand the expectations you think people might have about you being the party girl. I thought the same thing at first, but found that I actually like myself more when I'm sober. I feel freer just to be me, to be a little crazy or silly, because I'm not worried about appearing sober, getting the next drink, trying to walk/talk. Now I see how stupid people get when they're drunk and I just don't want to be that person anymore. Glad you're here - we're all behind you, so keep going -one day at a time.:day6 |
Originally Posted by Supercrew
(Post 3113572)
As opposed to a fake alcoholic?? Courage, Aiden:c021: |
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