so glad to have found this site
 

hi guys im glad to have finally found some kind of help, my drinking has spiralled out of control badly im at the point where 15 cans of beer isnt enough and ive become totally obsessed with planning my days around where and when i will buy my next beers from, im now 33 and suffering with bad pains in my liver and kidneys, it finally hit home yeaterday when my son said to me daddy ill miss you when youre in heaven, i visited my doctor last year and he more or less laughed at me and said "why do u drink so much" this site has helped me today where ive read peoples storys and im hoping itse going to help me put my life together

Hi Dave,


I can relate to the feelings of shock when our tolerance gets so high that 15 beers is no longer enough. I remember looking at the cans in the recycling bin and feeling like a crazy person. And heck, if there were a few more than that then who knows, 20 maybe?

It sounds like you are concerned about your health. My worries about my health were my motivation to stop drinking. I also had some pains like your describe. I am thankful I had them when I did. It was my body telling me to stop.

Take those as a blessing and warning. You're only 33. You have so much more to live for, especially your son.

It's not easy to stop but it's within our control and so darn worth it. Everything in life becomes better.

I hope you keep us posted on how you're doing!

I'm 34 with 2 little girls. There is no better reason to quit than for your children. At my young age I have been on the fast track to being nothing more than a tragic story. You can do this. Just keep coming back to tell us you made it one more day.

And Welcome.

stay here i to am 33 and drank 12 to who knows how many beers every friday and saturday or when ever i holidays when you herd that i bet it hit you hard made you think and thinking is scary trust me i got 8 days in after 13 years of hitting it hard every single weekend i have three children also what has helped me is reading alot off this forum i mean reading thinking relating and i no i still got a alot of fight left but im sober now and have been 8 days and i take it a day somtimes a minute of a time stay here i am

thanks for the reply, ive done ok today ive read on here that people drink ginger ale so ive stocked up on it and had about 4 glasses, i just hope i can last, at the moment i feel ok and ready to beat it, hope tommorrow i feel the same

Welcome to SoberRecovery Dave. We are also glad you found this place. You'll find a lot of people here that care and are willing to help. Try to keep your not drinking in just for today, each and everyday.

Hope to see your post on your progress.

Keep coming,

Harry

Hi Dave,

I'd certainly change my doctor - anyone who laughs at this situation isn't really the guy you need...and I think it would be wise to check out those pains with a competent doctor asap.

You'll find a lot of support here - there's lots of face to face support available too - recovery programmes like AA or smart etc, counselling etc.

It takes a lot of work and commitment but we can, and do, get better - and you're not alone here :)

Welcome to SR!
D

thankyou everyone, for the 1st time in 18 years i feel positive towards kicking this and the fact i want to do it helps

sometimes if i need i go to the chatroom and if not talk to just not feel alone see whats going on no matter what time this helps me i also have been doing alot of soul searching and reading and posting we can do this

We're glad to have you here!

I can relate to your drinking. I was a man obsessed. I was either drinking, procuring alcohol or recovering from the effects.
Please don't let it get that far for you. It's a living nightmare.

I've got over seven months sober now, thanks to this site.
AA works for many, too.

You have things to live for. I didn't. It's only me alone, but I'm doing this for myself.
It's a great feeling! I'm free from the bonds of alcoholism, although, I know I will always be one. One drink, and I'm doomed to 20.

Wishing you the best!

Welcome and good luck! You now have a whole forum o people cheerin you on...how awesome is that!!!

I'm with Dee, time to get a new doctor...I go so mad when i read what he said, I wanted to hop on a plane and cross the pond to smack him.

You can do this!

so day 2 today and im feeling ok,, got a few little pains and a back ache but i dont know if thats just my bed!!! woke up this morning and replaced beer thoughts with thinking about getting different flavour teas and soft drinks, so far had 2 cups of coffee, 2 chocolate milkshakes and 2 ginger ale and orange juice better than the 6 beers i wouldve had by now

I got to the point in my illness I was hiding how much I REALLY drank from others because it took so much for me to get to the same 'point' other people were when socializing.......and I convinced myself that it was okay that that was the situation....and it was okay that I hid it. I actually said to my wife recently that I hid my drinking because it just would not look right if I slammed 6 beers in front of company to equal their one glass of wine. Oh the reasoning we with this disease make !!! Obviously you do not NEED to get buzzed, and you do not NEED to drink.

You have found a GREAT website to be a part of. My advice....get active with this. It's great to read and lurk, but my support for myself skyrocketed once I became more active and talked about it. It does not replace the need for other routes of support, but it is something....and something is better than nothing.

thanks for the great advice, ive found myself glued to this site since yesterday morning and i cant believe how much its helping me through, if i sit here and read its taking my mind off drinking completely, i now know im an alchoholic i used to drink a beer and have another hidden in the cupboard to drink in between thats how bad i became, but for my son and finding this site yesterday i know i would still be doing that today as i have my parents visiting, although i still cant bring myself to tell them that i dont want to drink anymore as i dont think they understand, theyre from the school of thought that a few pints a week is ok!!! and i dont think my partner believes that this is it for me so hopefully i can do this with this groups support

Welcome to the SR family!:hug: Lots of support and good info here so read and post your thoughts and questions. We're here to help you stay on the sober road to make your life better than you ever thought possible. Glad you're here!:)

I'm never without a 12 pack Dave- Of ginger beer! Love it! Drink at least 2 cans every day :)

Welcome

And that was just to wake up! lol

It is better than the beer though. Good to hear your feeling better and hanging in there. I just do it for one day, today. Don't know what's coming tomorrow so I'll wait till then and then just do it for today again.

Take care and God bless.

Harry

well day 2 is nearly ended and ive had a decent day, kinda overdosed on chocolate milkshakes lol but hey thats gotta be better than beer!!
I dont know if its all part of it or just in my mind but i seem to be a bit spaced out staring into spaces and very jumpy but hey that might just be me.
Ive not had any serious symptoms yet and i hope thats the way it stays, i shall make my partner my son and myself dinner in a while and relax with a ginger ale and orange over ice!!

I'm eating bourbon biscuits and also some ginger nuts with a cup of tea!

lets keep this up together we can do this, i just imagine a month from now how good i hope im feeling

Well, here's day two done, so it's off to bed now.

See? It's not so hard, is it? lol! I wish... I'm obsessing about it all the time! The worry, I mean. Sleep will be very welcome tonight, and I do feel a little better without the drink inside me.

I might have had too many biscuits, however!

Cheers dude, will check in again soon.

Do you mean fizzy ginger ale and fresh orange together? Or ginger ale and fizzy orange together?
Just wondering? Is it nice?

xx

its fizzy ginger ale and fresh orange with ice its lovely, very refreshing

Great work Dave!
My doc laughed at me 12 months ago and sent me on my way. I drank even more heavily for the next year before seeing him again last week and finally getting help. My advice is don't wait, find another doctor and get help soon.
Good luck with day 3 :c011:

Hey Dave,

Welcome to SR its great to have you here. I am outraged that your Dr. LAUGHED when you went to for him for help, get rid of him immediately and get yourself a new one, most Docs are wonderful about alcoholism as it is a disease, with that sort of attitude I wouldnt want him to treat anyone of my family for sure.

You need to get your liver checked when you do find a new Doc, and plan a course of action to stay sober, maybe AA or some other organisation, just being able to talk it over with a Doctor would really help to get you back healthy again.

Grtz on being able to admit you have a problem that is an enormous first step to recovery.:c011:

BTW you son is sooo cute :)

Suzie x

thanks guys day 3s here still ache a bit but have no thoughts of drinking alcohol instead the milkshakes have taken over lol
ive told my partner that we have to change doctors and i think were going to do that as he has shown how incompetant he is more than once.
so heres to day 3 and plenty of milkshakes and ginger ales!!!

Dude. Spend as much time with your child as possible :) I know you want you, and he wants it too.
He will help you even if he dosen't know it.

How's it going today, Dave?

ok mate kept myself busy mowing the garden and eating lol.
sitting here at the mo with my ginger ale and orange, how you doing?

Yeah, we're good, and doing well. I go this far last week, so I really need to get beyond Thursday night/Friday to say that I'm track. Very much a n00bie!

Also, been to the gym tonight, which keeps me busy.

Check in Thursday, ok?