Class of July 2013 Part 39
 

last part here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-38-a-20.html

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Thank you Dee, and goodnight. :hug: ♥

Good morning! :)

night guys :)

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Hi everyone! Had a busy, but great and sober weekend. My daughter's bd party was a lot of fun. I usually drink the night after a bday party ... my AV tells me I deserve it as a reward for all the planning, etc I put into it. This year I didn't listen to it. My reward was a happy little girl and no hangover yesterday :)

Does anyone have anything special or fun planned for Valentines Day? I'm going to volunteer at my daughter's school party, but that's about it.

Hope everyone is doing well xxx

No plans whatsoever. Neither one of us fancies getting trampled by the crowds! :hide

Hahaha Gilmer :scared:

I'm with you!

We don't do anything for Valentines. Leave it for the younguns lol.
Ladybug, I'm so proud of you for getting through your daughters birthday . That must've been hard to do, but you did it xxxx love you :kiss:


I have a dilemma guys and I really need your input here.

Katie has asked me to go to her birthday on Saturday night. She's has barely spoken to me for a couple of months.

I said yes ok as a quick reflex answer. It's a 60s theme which I love but I don't think I'm safe to go to be perfectly honest.

All her friends drink, my ex husband drinks and her girlfriends and guy friends drink. I think I'll be setting myself up for a big fail.

If I go for an hour even, I think it's too early in my recovery and I'll be tempted.

I'm risking her not talking to me and being really upset I didn't go.

Could you just talk to her and be completely honest? Tell her that you want to come from the bottom of your heart, but you think you might not be able to resist drinking if you do, and drinking is "just so bad for me."

Definitely thank her for inviting you, and ask to maybe take a rain check.

BTW, did you end up buying her the birthday gift?

She might be even more upset if you go and get wasted.

She knows your struggle, right? - I'd be honest and tell her what you just told us - maybe you and her can make another date for coffee or something?

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Squirrel foraging for bird seed in the snow. Lil bugger.
He was ducking right under the snow and disappearing for a while before coming up for air.

Love ~ I think you answered your own question.
Please talk to her, and tell her how you're feeling.
She loves you, and respects your journey. :hug: ♥

And I see that we all just basically said the same thing Wendy love.
You have ALL of our support. :hug:

And that photo is AWESOME Bob! Thank you for sharing. :) :hug: ♥

Great pic Bob :)

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Said it on another thread. The first thing I thought of today (V-day here) was happy memories of when I made a fuss and did corny make a fuss romantic stuff. Alone now. First thought- BOOZE WILL MAKE EVERYTHING WORSE'. Not to apply transference. To remind myself then was then- and now is now.
Do not drink folks. Post, go to a meeting. Have a great planned event without any booze. If there is booze at an event- do you HVE to go? What is important- to look happy and nice, or sobriety?

(((PJ))) ♥

Thank you for this message love....I appreciate how this day can be a trigger for people.

Well said Pj. Thanks honey xx :kiss:

Snoozy, I agree with the others. I think you should talk to Katie and be honest with you. I'm sure she will be proud of your sobriety. Maybe you can take her to lunch or meet for a coffee, as Dee suggested? Hoping it all works out. I can understand how it could be a hard decision for you.

Thank you, PJ, for you motivational post. I have no plans or desire to drink today. Of course, I know that could change in a heartbeat, but I think I have a pretty good plan for the day.

Hi and much love to everyone else!

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Hi all, just checking in. Nothing new. Pretty flat.

(((Leshar))) ♥

Hi, Leshar! Glad you checked in.

Did exactly that Gilmer. Honesty is the best policy.


Xxx

Thanks for everyone's input, you all had the same idea. The stress is off me now , phew xxx

I played the tape forward ( as Dee always says ) & I didn't like what I saw.

It would only have ended badly.

Feeling happy today xxx

I'm glad Wendy :)

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Also glad, and very proud of you Wendy love. :) :) :) :hug: ♥

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Hi all. Been offline, nothing too dramatic and checking posts here and there. My phone has not let me login several times to the site, so gave up!

Firstly, Bob, unlike my fellow "Ausssies" on this thread, I absolutely LOVE camping and don't mind 4 wheel driving too. (I'm now even questioning if Dee, Suze and Snooz are even Aussies at all if they don't camp, lol. Hmm. He he.)

Leshar, just a hug. Hope this down feeling passes.

LB...so awesome you are getting through each day. You must have really racked some time up now...loving your resolve!

Snooz, I agree with the others re the party. katie has surely seen enough relapses to understand. You could even offer to help her set up as a sweetener, but ultimately, the AV might tell you to stay. Best to keep away....the olive branch can still be appreciated, just in a different way. Maybe offer to help clean up the next day, lol? That would for sure reinforce how foul alcohol is.

No news here. A few stressful things going on, but have to be positive and look forward and not let my mood get me down.

Love to all, especially those in the early days, please give yourself credit that you are doing really well.xx

Sending huge hugs to help you get through the stress dearest Crois. :hug: ♥

And I really am going to go (horrendous English, but what can you do?) camping with Nick.
And I am looking forward to it. :)
Mind you, I am kind of looking forward to every single part of my life with Nick. :)

Hello dearest Bug. :hug: ♥

Also loving your resolve: you sound strong and happy. :)

I enjoyed camping when I was younger Crois, but then camping became a boozefest for me...and now I'm into my creature comforts too much :)

Besides I'm not sure the scooter could handle rough terrain :lmao

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I once went camping, and came face to face with a skunk! I shuffled quickly back to the campfire with my pants still around my ankles!