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tootsl1 11-25-2015 10:49 AM

Hi guys I'm glad we don't have the palava of thanksgiving, though we seem to have adopted Black Friday ( or the flipping - in replacement of a censorious word- sales executives have) and cyber Monday. What an excuse to get people with no money to borrow and get into debt buying crap they don't need! Bah Humbug!!!

Happy Hump Day everyone!

Soberwolf 11-25-2015 12:03 PM

Goodnight Overs having a nice early night watching the new James bond movie spectre & reading my new book

Night :grouphug:

venuscat 11-25-2015 01:57 PM

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Saskia 11-25-2015 04:37 PM

Thanks, V :-)

I'll be enjoying my dinner at the old folks' home :dee

Mags1 11-25-2015 10:10 PM

You're just a young pup, Sassy! X
Hi V X

Hope you enjoyed spectre, wolfie! I've yet to watch it.

I agree toots, Black Friday! Wow, it's a good sales ploy in this country! As long as you know the genuine cost, not any inflated-before-the-sale, ones, you can get a bargain in any sale, if you need it! Like itchy, he's got his head screwed on and done his homework.

Right, I'd best get into action and shake a leg!

Have a lovely day. ( unless you're a Turkey!)

Soberwolf 11-25-2015 11:11 PM

morning overs

Itchy 11-26-2015 01:35 AM

Morning Wolf!
Sassy,
You mean the senior community? Hey I am not rich either. I spend less on my tech toys than my BIL spends on his hunting lease, 4wheeler, guns, ammo, licenses, then having them processed. Remember I sell and upgrade annually in most cases so essentially always pay half price as that's usually what I get back, 50% within a year or three. Just my pursuit of happiness.
:C033:

FBL,
Hope your drive went well. I too look forward to my BIL's venison. I stopped climbing up into cold trees at dawn to shiver in wait for a large mammal to wander by. Then I have to lug it a mile to the truck. Then process it. My deer here on my place are safe and pets. But we both love fresh venison backstrap butterfly steaks!

Hey Probie/Venus! Hugz I missed ya too girl!
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Me too Mags!:tyou

Hey Dee, Toots and RZ!

IP, FG, and all the rest of the overs!

This is my FILs first holiday season since we buried his wife. We are going over there and cooking a good turkey day bird with all the fixins. He is not doing well, and we hope to cheer him up for a bit. He's getting deeper into the confusion and comprehension issues of Alzheimer's/dementia. He is all there, he just misplaces pieces temporarily. Statistically at his age, a man who loses his partner rarely makes it another year alone. It's sad to see. He told me the empty house bears down on him. Lots of family drama from the outlaws and family. In other words, the normal "let's get it over with" mixed in with "let's find some gratitude and cut some latitude."

Nit all!

venuscat 11-26-2015 01:41 AM

Nobody puts a smile on my face like you do Itchy love! :)

I hope that this holiday will be a special one for your FIL. I hope that all of the love you bring will help him in through this difficult time. ♥

Soberwolf 11-26-2015 03:38 AM

Your a real good man Itchy

Rusty Zipper 11-26-2015 04:45 AM

sas, i've been called way worse! lol

Happy Thanksgiving over's

itch, put down that third drumstick!

Saskia 11-26-2015 05:24 AM

Hmmm - if I'm a young pup then you all haven't been born yet :dee
Seriously, I love the senior community I live in. They take great care of us. Wonderful food (!), nice and friendly people (some of my favorite people are in their nineties) and beautiful surroundings. Life doesn't get much better than this :scoregood

I have so much to be thankful for and that includes having all of you!

Soberwolf 11-26-2015 10:25 AM

Ordered some new books today which I'm really happy about, gods undertaker by John Lennox, Charles Darwin's autobiography, Brene Brown's rising strong & Ann Dowsett's 'drink' can't wait to read them

Were making our first ever lasange tonight post some pics when it's done on my album

Happy thanksgiving to all my American friends & guests reading this

Mags1 11-26-2015 12:10 PM

I agree, lots to be thankful and grateful for.

evening overs

Soberwolf 11-26-2015 01:59 PM

Goodnight all & happy thanksgiving once again XO

Itchy 11-26-2015 09:44 PM

RZ!
What??? That is not a third leg! :a043:That is a thigh. I go for the dark meat, my SH likes the breast. We are like Jack Spratt and spousal unit. Jack Sprat could eat no fat nursery rhyme lyrics with origins and history

Hey Venus sweetie, it is great to see you back!

Wolf, Yer no slouch yourself! Lasagne yet?

Sassy,
Glad you do too!

Mags,
You might as well go get a turkey pot pie and join in from across the pond.
:c011:

The family was joined and it went really well. My SH Made the main course and several sides and her brother and his spousal unit made some too.

My FIL is on all kinds of meds and facing Thanksgiving apparently was too much for him. He decided to steel his nerve and went down to Wal-Mart and picked up a fifth of Old Crow Bourbon. He was next door with his son when I got there drinking in his truck with him. Then he finally came back and he was tipsy. He wasn't an alcoholic and hadn't had alcohol for 15 years or so he said. But he said he was in so much physical pain he had to do something. With all the meds he is on I am surprised he stayed awake and was pretty open and explained his drinking to me later. He is a big boy and he handled it well I guess. We'll see tomorrow. His great great granddaughter 11 years old and his Sis in law are staying the night to make sure he is alright.

My heart goes out to him. Our Aunt was married to an AF troop who was killed in a B-52 crash in the early Vietnam era. She never remarried and became an over the top religious type who joined a religious community and they took all her money and when she ran out ten years later they threw her out in so many words. My FIL left and drank next door because he did not want her to know.

Funny but he was stumbling less and steadier on his feet than without. He wasn't drunk but feeling good, literally. Whatever works for him is fine by us as long as he doesn't drive more then next door afterwards. I got him to show his great grand daughters his certificate from General Douglas MacArthur for serving on the personal guard platoon living at the Military Governor's palace escorting him to and from his office with 5 jeeps two front and three rear. My FIL changed over to the Air Force and retired at 20 years in 1968. Lots of stories and he has done his duty and then some. He spent the rest of his career in many places like France and a year in Thailand during the Vietnam conflict. He knows and has talked to me about his failing memory and how it scares him. He is a shadow of his former self physically. But he is still all there, just gets lost sometimes and then recovers.

He deserves respect. I'm realizing that he is facing his decline with more courage than many. His heart is broken to be alone, for the first time, and having us do the cooking instead of Mom. The empty house deafening in its silence.

We are thankful to have him and us today. I hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving, ( You guys over there can join in too) got your tryptophan fix, and are ready for the next holiday, Thingsgiving.

The first Thanksgiving was when the local indigenous native people invited the colonists over for a meal after they nearly died of starvation. They had the same problems hosts have today in not being able to get their guests to leave. We never left.

"For his defense of the Philippines, MacArthur was awarded the Medal of Honor. After more than two years of fighting in the Pacific, he fulfilled a promise to return to the Philippines. He officially accepted Japan's surrender on 2 September 1945, aboard the USS Missouri anchored in Tokyo Bay, and oversaw the occupation of Japan from 1945 to 1951. As the effective ruler of Japan, he oversaw sweeping economic, political and social changes. He led the United Nations Command in the Korean War until he was removed from command by President Harry S. Truman on 11 April 1951. "

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Douglas_MacArthur

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instant 11-26-2015 11:20 PM

Hi everyone. Today I was thankful to ride up a hill on my bike and not keep looking at how far it was to get to the top. Had coffee with my wife and we had a laugh in the sunshine

Today I do things routinely that I never believed I would be able to do ever again.

Thank you all

tootsl1 11-27-2015 12:46 AM

Itchy I love talking to the older folk who come into the practise, a lot in their 90's but still in control of their faculties. I love hearing living history and feel it is a shame we treat our oldies as a nuisance to be dealt with rather than a generation to be held in esteem and respected. Even as a kid I went with my gran to help with the 'meals on wheels' that she did and would sit and listen quite happily to reminiscences.

I am grateful for finding SR, it gave me the community I needed to own and manage my alcoholism
I am grateful for the life sobriety has given me.
And I am grateful that I have a head stuffed full of stories waiting to be written.

Saskia 11-27-2015 02:52 AM

Good morning, Overs!

Nice to have a "morning after" the holiday with no regrets.

Itchy, so sorry about your FIL. It's a difficult process to watch and so sad. With my parents I tried to keep in mind what full lives they had.

Soberwolf 11-27-2015 02:56 AM

Hello overs

InParticular 11-27-2015 06:52 AM

Good morning everyone. It's 7:40 am, I'm looking out the window at an almost-full moon, pretty high in the sky still. So weird. Listening to Bob Dylan Blood on the Tracks.
Itchy, thanks for sharing all that about your FIL. What an interesting story, we all have our journeys and challenges.....although it wasn't thanksgiving for me I guess I'll pitch in some thanks, I'm thankful for my health and for my personal freedom which I take for granted everyday. The fact that I could do literally whatever I want today (within reason) and make any choice, is in itself such an incredible fluke of amazing luck when I think of all the people who have lived through wars, poverty, hardships of all kinds.
Instant I like the thought of your bike ride and your moment with your wife. Thanks for sharing that. :)
My job is offering a great opportunity, the thing is I'm torn because it means devoting another year at the least, maybe two, and I'm pretty sure they're not going to compensate me adequately financially for it. It will entail a crap load of work, and so far this company has treated me pretty shoddily. So I'm deciding if I should suck it up and do the work for a company that has never really shown me much appreciation, or cut out now and move on to other opportunities. I was planning on moving back to the city soonish......I don't know what to do. Advice is welcome you wise Overs.

Hi SW. :tyou


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