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One Year & Under Club Part 26 |
Thanks Dee for the new thread... MB....always sending positive thoughts your way. Cold and flu season is here....and yes it does seem to hit us guys harder..:jester: Hope everyone has a safe and sober Monday..Tomorrow..last day of the year..looking forward to a sober 2014! Jim |
Another sober day, count me in |
Hi all! thanks for the new thread Dee! New Year's was never a big thing for me. I am one who usually wakes at midnight with all the firecrackers and such. :a122: Looking forward to 9 months on the 6th and a sober 2014. :ring |
I hear you Drake... Not a big partier either..I was with a group of people the other day...not by choice, and they were talking about New Years and drinking ect....and I kept thinking that I will be waking up New Years morning to a nice breakfast of baked apple and oatmeal..(done in a slow cooker with cinnamon) ...with a clear head.... I am determined to make this year a completely alcohol free year...one day at a time.. Jim |
Sounds lovely soberjim, baked apple and oatmeal , mmmm I think I will try that |
Welcome, Mags! That does sound delicious, Jim. Glad your protracted legal drama is over and done with, MB. Hopefully you're done with your brother for a good, long while. Hope your money is bright and ready in the morning! |
Good morning from BC. Although I am only (only?) 49 days into my recovery, I would like to hang out with you. I have learned a great deal from those that are farther along than I am. I cant yet relate to the 2 years + non drinkers but I am so determined to get my one year atta boy. 7 weeks will turn into 52 weeks very quickly I belive as long as I stick to my plan, my thought process and my memory of drunk days before don't fade. Thanks |
Hi, Rick! I got on this thread when I was early into my sobriety, too, and it has been great. |
Rick....welcome..congrats on 49 days! Jim |
Rick, welcome. Congrats on 7 weeks!! MB- glad it's mostly done. The bank will be fixed up in no time, you'll have your money and be done with all of this. |
Thank you for all you kind responses, Undies. But all this put me completely off the stride. I've been trying to call the bank sine 1 p.m. till 9 p.m. and no one answer me. And obviously tomorrow I will not get access to my money either. And there will be holidays... I've been waiting for this day for so long, when I can just breathe out and take a day of rest and peace. Yeah, right. The only person who is having his day of celebration is my jerk brother, and I am f***ed up again. I've spent the whole day trying to get a shred of information from the bank. I am sick of this, of one day at a time and accepting all this s**t that life is throwing to me. I don't need this "testing" or whatever. I hate all this. I hate this life. |
mb tried to send you a pm but your mailbox is maxed out. I wish I had some magic answer for you....but you know I do not. I know hearing 'take it one day at a time' and 'it will get better ' is probably making you ready to scream and tell all of us to fr*g off.. Honestly though...I have no magic answer for you..the alternative is to give up ..and that is no answer... You are strong... Your post is coming from a very tired place....get some rest...and know we are all sending you positive thoughts.. Jim |
Can you go to the gym and beat something up? |
Welcome Mags and Rick, you have just joined the bestest thread on SR!! Go er, I got in trouble for saying that last time! Other brilliant threads are available Yada Yada Yada! MB, sweetie I want to go shoot someone on your behalf- well, not really shoot obviously but certainly give then a severe frowning.i second Gilmer, go punch something. SJ, I'm coming up for pudding sweetheart, apple oatmeal and lashings of cream!!!!! keep mine on the hot plate and out of the dog! Drake I also don't particularly like to party, but I would use the excuse of New Year to get pie eyed each time! This year we are looking after our wee grandson, and New Years Day we are taking him to Glasgow to watch Celtic at parkhead. Gson wants to go to a big stadium, and we usually get a crowd of around 60000 there, it's an amazing feeling being part of that green and white tide streaming out of the gates after a game. It will be our last chance before we leave. Hopefully in Boston we will be able to take him to a game of something when he comes over with him mom for a visit. MB I too tried PMing you love, hadn't seen SJs post! |
Hey gang in on the new thread Thanks Dee for starting a new one. MB I hope things start looking up for you soon. Did you see the UFC fight the other night when silva broke his leg???? Gruesome or what lol. I'm stuck on a 15 hour night shift. Quite happily munched my way through 4500 calories so far today and still got plenty of food to see me through the night. Welcome to the newcomers. Take care.....Steve. |
Hi undies... took awhile for me to sign in today here. I totally blew it yesterday drinking. bad bad choice! but I'm dustying myself off and gettin right back at it. I red a quote this morning that said " If you dont change your sobriety date will" that totally hit me because all tho sometimes I switch up my routine I havnt really changed my thinking process much or anything. I just ordered some recovery based books by this guy Noah Levine whos from the punk music scene and a revocerying addict himself. Reading about him and the tattoos and punk lifestyle I thought the books would be a good choice since I come from a punk music mosh pit going background and I guess hes pretty into buddha and that stuff so I thought it might be worth a shot. Also have a big book laying around that Ive been doing some reading in. The thing I find frustrating that whether Im sober or drinking I feel like I am constantly thinking about alcohol in one way or another. I messed up tho hangin with that friend of mine and it just shows that I really need to end that friendship and have no business hanging around people active in their addiction. |
Hi, BF. Glad you got those books. I hope you are able to change your mindset. Glad you're here! |
Hello undies!! Glad to be here and welcome all newcomers and returners :hug: Good day today but have now come down with my very first cold of the year - haha thanks for that [shakes fists] with only a day and a half of the year to go lol! Hopefully it will pass quickly. |
Glad you jumped straight back on the wagon dude....Welcome back. |
BF--glad to see you came right back. I'm sending you a hug. it will be ok---you can do this. Babs |
I must dash off to a mtg...my web access has been shaky...wanted to get this in quickly. WELCOME BACK SO SOON BF...I would never make it back. Honestly, I would most likely die. I used up my relapse chips. Also glad you have an expanded game plan!! xx |
My wish for you BF is you find that way to make 2014 your year for recovery :) D |
Hi Undies. I hope you are all well. Day 280 for me. I went to a meeting tonight. I always leave a meeting feeling better then when I walked in. I have completed step one with my sponsor, and moving on to step two. We are taking it slow at this point. I'm just feeling a little sad and down. I look at all the money I spent on booze and when drunk, and it makes me mad. My wife and I finally had a real financial discussion, and are going to try to get back on track. I'm going to try and pay off debt, and live simply. I spent so much money trying to keep up a great appearance, but still was dead inside. Now we have to repair ourselves financially. If I can get sober I guess I can do anything. It was a good year, but not easy. Losing my job still hurts a bit, but I scored a new one real quick. God Bless all of you for being here. I hope I perk up soon, and can realize that I have a lot to be grateful for. Matthew |
Thanks all for the warm welcome to your thread. I will check in daily. Its 9 PM and almost time for bed. That will secure 49 days for me. Longest stretch without a drink since I was 16. Almost 60 now. Speaking of 60, my wife had bought me a couple of tickets to see Tim/Faith in Vegas on Mar1 which is my 60th birthday. She bought them last August. We were planning a group trip to vegas. Since I dried up, I have been to Cuba all inclusive, half a dozen Christmas parties and abstained thru all of it. Vegas different story. I first went to Vegas when I was 21 and have returned at least 25 times. Each time was a few days of over indulgence on the liquor, eating, carousing and gambling. Over the Christmas week, I started to think more and more how I was going to handle this trip. I came to the realization that I do not want to put that temptation in front of me. Talked to my loving supportive wife and we decided to cancel the trip. I am so relieved. I just know its not the place for me right now. $400 worth of tickets means nothing if I have a slip. My wife is so great. I would be dead by now if it wasn't for her. Just thought I would share that with you. |
That's terrific, Rick. Will you be able to get any kind of refund on the tickets? Even if not, I think you guys made a wise decision. Matthew, it's great to see you! Congratulations on your 280 days! Don't beat yourself up about decisions you made in the past--remember, you weren't truly yourself back them. You are striking out very sensibly now. Now is what matters, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. It's surprising the mountains of debt you can burrow out from in time with patience. Don't lose your sense of humor in your sad times. Stay close to your HP. Don't be a stranger! |
Good Morning Undies, Welcome Mags1:ring This is a great group of people with an abundance of love, wisdom and support. Welcome Rick! Congratulations on 50 days of sobriety:c011: I think it was a very wise decision to forego Vegas. I can only imagine what kind of trigger that would be. Protect your hard-earned sobriety at all costs. ((MB)) - We all care about you and wish you the best. I think the suggestion to do some boxing is a great idea to relieve stress, frustration and improve mood. Hopefully, today is a better day for you. Toots - Your New Year's Day plans sound like great fun. I hope you and your grandson have a great time watching the celtic. I too would really use the excuse of New Year's Eve to really drink as much as I could. Last year on New Year's Day was a beautiful day around 70 degrees. It was wonderful waking up hangover free and walking all my dogs. I did notice that no one was around in the neighborhood. I concluded they were all still in bed nursing their hangovers. What a sheer sense of relief and gratitude I had that day! ((Boozefree)) - I am so proud of your candor in admitting your slip. That takes an incredible amount of courage. All I can offer is my experience. Having a sober network in the real world was essential to me (AA) and recognizing that I will have cravings and learning to deal with them. It certainly wasn't easy because I simply wasn't accustomed to fighting off cravings. What worked for me was thinking the drink through to the ugly conclusion and attending AA meetings. My prison pen pal sent me some exercises that she had completed in her cognitive behavior training and some literature on the disease of alcoholism. The literature really hit home. It states "I am your disease. Hello, Just in case you forgot me -- I hate meetings, I hate higher powers, I hate your program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you suffering and I wish you death. Allow me to introduce myself; I am the disease of addiction. I am cunning, baffling, powerful and patient. That's me. I have killed millions and I am pleased. I love to catch you with the element of surprise. I love pretending I am your friend and lover. I have given you comfort, haven't I? Wasn't I there when you were lonely? When you wanted to die, didn't you call on me? I was there. I love to make you hurt. I love to make you cry. Better yet, I love to make you so numb, that you can neither hurt or cry. When you can't feel anything at all, that's my true gratification. And all I ask from you is long term suffering. I have been there for you always. When things were going right in your life, you invited me. You said you didn't deserve these good things and I was the only one who would agree with you. Together we were able to destroy all the good things in your life. People don't take me seriously. Fools. Without my help these things would not be possible. I am such a hated disease and yet I do not come uninvited. You choose to have me. So many have chosen me over reality and peace. More than you hate me I hate all of you who have a 12-step program. Your program, your meetings, your higher power - all of these things weaken me and I can't function in the manner that I am accustomed to. Now I must lie here quietly, you don't see me, you don't think of me, but I never go away; I am growing bigger than ever. When you "only exist" I can live. When "you live" I can only exist. But I am here. Waiting. And until we meet again - I wish you suffering and death. I am your disease and I will wait for you. Forever. You can count on me." ((FeelingGood)) - I hope you are taking care of yourself and start feeling better soon. Leading my sunday night AA meeting I had three beginner's attend. One spoke of her sponsor going out after 28 years of sobriety. Relapse might be a good topic for next week's meeting. My plans for New Year's Eve entail attending my regular 5:30 meeting and thoroughly enjoying a sober New Year's watching movies and being utterly grateful for my sobriety. Wishing all Undies a wonderful New Year's Eve. |
Hello Undies, its been forever since I have posted in here, tomorrow marks my 1 year being sober so super excited!!! I just wanted to say hello and wish everyone a Happy 2014!:You_Rock_ |
Want to wish everyone a Happy, safe and sober New Years' :sparkler I am grateful to all for your support on this thread during the past year and look forward to your support in the journey ahead.. Jim Nel...Can I be the first to offer an early CONGRATULATIONS! |
BF and MB :hug: Welcome mags and Rick! Big NYE plans, clean up the kitchen after the hopefully successful delivery of a new refrigerator, sit in on the SR Tuesday Chat/Meeting and likely in bed by 10 since I was up by 5AM. Happy New and Sober Year Undies! :ring:fireworks2 |
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