Moms and Mums Club 2013 Part 2
 

continues from here:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...2013-a-20.html

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Checking in for part 2 thread:-). Hope everyone e is doing good tonight:-)

We already have a new thread, yay!

Anewpage, I went to see my Dr last month after I decided to quit drinking to get a complete physical/bloodwork. Was so worried I had damaged my liver, etc. I came clean with her and she was very supportive. I think most healthcare professionals deal with this a lot. I was just so tired of lying about how much I was drinking and wanted her to know so she could run the right tests, etc. You are a good mom for trying to get help. You just need to commit to it and put in the work. Not easy, I know, but it will be worth it in the long run :)

Thanks everyone for the support. :)

She wanted me to go to an outpatient rehab which goes for 2 weeks, 6 hours a day, Mon-Fri. I said I can't do it, I have kids I have to take care of during the day. So I have another appointment with her next week, we are going to discuss this further. Until then she said try to stick to only 2-3 drinks per day, and make sure they are REAL measures, not doubles or triples. So I am trying. I am also going to go on anti-anxiety meds which I think will help tremendously. Feeling good about the future. :) It's going to be a struggle but I think I'm ready. My liver, my family and I deserve better than this addiction.

Hope all of you ladies are doing well today!

Wishing you the best Anewpage! Hope the doctor can help.

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Thought maybe we were talking to much in home room got our seats changed!!! New thread

This is such a great thread. I pop in off and on all day at work and it is a real pick-me-up. All the great ladies on here have such awesome advice and support and are trying so hard.

Anewpage - So glad you went to see the doctor! Hope you're feeling better soon :)

Hope everyone has a wonderful, sober evening!

Anewpage please be careful with anti anxiety meds and drinking (NOT MEDICAL ADVICE MODERATORS)
But when mixed with alcohol not a great combo.

Honestly not coping today.


I have easy and amazing kids, husband that supports me as much as he can. I'm so ashamed of my using and stuffing everythjbg up. Our 5 kids and my hubby deserve better.

You deserve better you really need to start living you as much as you live your kids!

Hi new to SR and hope its ok if I just jump in.

Midlife-what has you so down today? Sounds like you are really hurting

How do you believe that? Like really. I have not once gotten clean or stayed clean for myself. Always for someone else. I know 100% if it wasn't for my family I would be using with no desire to stop:(

Happy beingme. I just don't want to be here. Hubby will never trust me agajn. He thinks I've cheated, I feel that even going to the bathroom he's wondering if I'm doing drugs. He's worried.

Does he have a reason to be worried? My husband worried about the same stuff. In the end I did give him a reason. I behaved very inappropriately online with a man. When I got caught was when my drinking really went over the deep end.

I felt I didnt deserve sobriety for myself either. But, in the end I realized if I didnt care enough about myself to get sober for me it wouldnt matter. Husbands can divorce you or die. Kids grow up and leave you. In the end there may be only you. So you have to do it for you

He doesn't need to be worried.

Sorry about that mid. With my past history my husband understands my need for a connection with others dealing with alcoholism but I keep myself only on forums. I dont pm.

Fair enough:)

Happy I'm glad you are here! Hiw old are your kids?

Welcome, happy! Glad you found us :)

Thank you for the welcomes. Is it ok that they are 22 and 20 now? They still live at home and I spent a good part of their teen years drunk. So, I dont necessarily fit the mold I am a mom and I know the pain first hand

Advising not to mix anti anx meds and alcohol is not medical advice - just common sense :)

I changed the title - I had mums not moms :)

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Of course !!!! You're a mom when your kids are 60! How long have you been sober

I noticed that & thought it was adorable.

Almost 2 years. I havent used a formal program I actually have come from another alcohol support forum 5hat isnt as dynamic as this. I am supportive of any path to recovery that helps someone.
I classically hit my own rock bottom and surrendered.

oh man now I'm worried though..the counselor told me that drinking would basically cancel out the good the anti-anxiety meds would do. And I want the meds to work... but what if I'm unable to stop drinking?
i don't want to mess my body up.

Happybeingme, it is great having someone here with 2 years! I think most of us are fairly new into this?? I know I am, at least, at 25 days. Only using SR for now and hoping it will be enough. So far, so good ;)

What anxiety meds are you on anewpage?

Hi ladies, I'm here, it's been another long day! Today was day 7 sober, I'm drinking right now though, I had a glass of wine wit dinner at the Olive Garden, and I'm now having some beer. I feel so much better physically, but I'm mad I gave in. I won't get drunk, but I hate they I depend on alcohol for my anxiety. I'm already on antidepressants, an migraine meds, it's just like alcohol is my savior.

It's not your savior your your savior!!! At 7 days you will not yet feel this amazing feeling. Inside if me something changed at 3 weeks it became bare able to get through anxiety and nit drink. Now half way thriugh my 7th week its become my norm. of course the thiught that a drink might be nice crisses my mind.... but i know i wouldnt be satisfied until im sloppy! Im not judging you I just want you too feel what others of us are feeling.
It's like any other emotion your going to have it but you can learn to feel when it's coming! And take the approach that works for you. It's Like a baby who learns to use a pacifier to soothe themself when in discomfort. Eventually we have to take it away and they relearn a new self soothing technique. You wouldn't let your 12 year old have a pacifier so don't use yours:)