Questions/opinons please I have some questions that I'd like opinions on. Thank you. 1) How long does it take for the urge to use to go away after you stop using? 2) Who is considered the "active user" and "addict in recovery" 3) Will an active addict tell you when they using? 4) If an addict in recovery promises to tell you when they have an urge, do they actually tell you? 5) what are the chances of relapse ? |
Just my observations from walking through the zoo . . . . 1) How long does it take for the urge to use to go away after you stop using? IF you are asking about real addicts -- a lifetime. 2) Who is considered the "active user" and "addict in recovery" You know the tree by the fruits. 3) Will an active addict tell you when they using? hahahaha. Sure. Maybe. No Never. Ok. Maybe. Only count on this if you are the supplier. 4) If an addict in recovery promises to tell you when they have an urge, do they actually tell you? See Answer #3. 5) what are the chances of relapse ? High. |
What is a "real addict" 1) How long does it take for the urge to use to go away after you stop using? IF you are asking about real addicts -- a lifetime. |
Originally Posted by mareahh
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What is a "real addict" 1) How long does it take for the urge to use to go away after you stop using? IF you are asking about real addicts -- a lifetime. Some are "situation based" -- change the situation and the need to self-medicate can end. Some are "past trauma" -- go back and fix the trauma and the need to self-medicate can end. and Some -- are Hardware / Hardwired Brain problems (can go a lot deeper, if needed), which may also show up as various Mental Illness, and that can last a lifetime. |
I'm having a hard time determining if my boyfriend is a "real addict". I'm a nurse and I work in mental health/addictions. I've also studied a lot about addictions. I just don't think or feel like he is a true addict. Nor does some of my co workers. So idk |
what's the drug, if you don't mind me asking? because from my experience and understanding, if you are talking about opiates, for example, i don't believe for a second there is such a thing as casual, part-time use. not really. also, i've had acquaintances of my ex and mine who were unable to understand how big the problem really was because opiate addicts can be so high functioning and don't necessarily look f**ked up. at all. i'm too observant and too detail-oriented, so i was able to pick up on a lot of little things that other people didn't. that's not a point of pride, it's an illustration of codependency. anyway, point being, some people seem they are doing fine when they really aren't at all. and i agree with hammer, they don't tell the truth about use. mine swore up and down over and over that he would be honest and he told me he KNEW he could come to me with the truth and i would be there. um, no. never. not once. concerning his drug use and all things associated with it, he was never honest. |
Originally Posted by mareahh
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I'm having a hard time determining if my boyfriend is a "real addict". I'm a nurse and I work in mental health/addictions. I've also studied a lot about addictions. I just don't think or feel like he is a true addict. Nor does some of my co workers. So idk Why are you asking???? |
Originally Posted by mareahh
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I'm having a hard time determining if my boyfriend is a "real addict". I'm a nurse and I work in mental health/addictions. I've also studied a lot about addictions. I just don't think or feel like he is a true addict. Nor does some of my co workers. So idk You have tracked the various fMRI studies? What do you know of his family of origin? |
Does he continue to use substances despite negative consequences? |
I haven't tracked any MRIs. I mean like reading up on it. And familiarizing myself with addiction. His drug of choice was oxy. For about a week he used coke and heroin. Then got caught and went to jail. 6 months later. He's still in jail. He has gone thru an extensive substance abuse program. No. His substance abuse isn't the main focus of our relationship. And it doesn't affect me. It's not my problem. It's his. |
No. He can't use. He's in jail. |
So he's not in jail for anything to do with drugs? Possession, stealing to support his habit, aggression while using, driving impaired, etc.? |
He's in jail for possession. He is being accused of other things (stealing) but that stuff isn't true. (Know for fact so dont tell me im being naive) They are sorting it all out. |
Sorry, but thats a BIG Red Flag JMO |
Opinion to? Do you associate every person who's incarcerated as a drug addict? |
I’m not sure if ^^^ that question was for me. If his use of drugs has no effect on you or your relationship with him, and he’s not using despite negative consequences, he probably just got caught up with the wrong people, and was at the wrong place at the wrong time and is just a recreational user. It sounds like you have a good healthy positive attitude and it also sounds like he’s doing all the right things during his unfortunate incarceration. It was probably just a phase. Good luck to both of you. |
No it wasn't towards you. And thank you for being positive |
Mareahh, I'm glad you work in the mental health and addiction field, because somewhere there I think you can find the answers...the truth. Because you don't want it to be so, won't change the fact that he IS an addict...there, I said it out loud. I say it not to be mean, but to try to help you see the truth. Nobody thinks "Hey, I think I'll go out Saturday night and shoot up some heroin." Well somebody does and that person is an addict, because only an addict would be that desperate. Heroin is not a casual use recreational drug. He is in jail, somebody decided he was guilty or he wouldn't be there. All that said...what about YOU? How is his drug use and incarceration affecting you? And what are you doing to find or keep your balance through all this. His use of drugs has affected you enough for you to come here and ask these questions. We're here for you, there are a lot of good threads up in the Sticky Posts at the top of this forum that might help you answer your questions honestly. I wish you the best, however this unfolds for you. Hugs |
Originally Posted by mareahh
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I have some questions that I'd like opinions on. Thank you. 1) How long does it take for the urge to use to go away after you stop using? I credit my mindset just before my heart quit. I elieved that if I didn't have a hit that I would die - and I consciously chose death rather than picking up again. That was a key moment in my recovery - I celebrated 21 years clean on May 10th of this year.
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2) Who is considered the "active user" and "addict in recovery"
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3) Will an active addict tell you when they using?
Originally Posted by mareahh
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4) If an addict in recovery promises to tell you when they have an urge, do they actually tell you?
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5) what are the chances of relapse ? |
Originally Posted by Ann
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He is in jail, somebody decided he was guilty or he wouldn't be there. All that said...what about YOU? How is his drug use and incarceration affecting you? And what are you doing to find or keep your balance through all this. Hugs |
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