Sallytaylor- I agree with so much that was written above. For me as a stuffer of all emotions for many years it was finally FEELING anger that was a turning point in my recovery. I needed a lot of support around it from therapy, I used it as a topic at Al-Anon etc. Just a warning for me the anger started around alcohol and an affair my husband had, but it ran much deeper than that. It was family of origin stuff, work stuff etc. I could not just feel it for one and be done with it...... It has taken time for me to work through it (not done yet), but it is worth it. |
m1k3 and LifeRecovery - I put "buy a journal" on my To Do list for this weekend. :-) I think that will help a lot. Even writing it down here on SR helped b/c it allowed me to get it out of my head. I also think you are right that as I begin the hard work to face the issues I will find lots of deep anger beyond this latest alcoholic cheating debacle. I grew up with a biological father and a stepfather and have had 2 husbands and 4 different last names from all of this- I don't even know where to begin in figuring out who I am. It's been very lonely and confusing over the years, with each episode feeling worse than the previous one. But, I'm finally ready to face it. M1K3 - congrats on burning those journals!!! tHat is such an awesome step and symbolic of your progress that you no longer needed them :-) And to all the posters whose kitties and pooches have helped them get through - my kitten and elderly dog have been such a comfort. I go to sleep spooning my dog and I feel safer in her arms than I ever did in my XAH's arms... |
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