Just found this thread.... Mine would say over and over again "stop it Patty" if I was saying something he didn't like...or when we were with friends and he was drunk he'd say over and over to them "do you know how much I love this woman?" with a stranglehold around my neck or the classic...."I'm not drunk don't hang up" or "I'm only drinking 7up" and the all time favorite, "I'll be home in 20 minutes." |
One of my favorites...... When he would say "I don't have a drinking problem, YOU have a problem with my drinking!" As if I was the first and only person to think he had a problem with alcohol, so it must be my fault. Too much! Leaving him was one of the best things I ever did! |
My Ex-abf would tell me. "you think too much" |
I'll set your crotch on fire and see how fair you think the world is!!!! |
How's about.... "If you wouldn't ask me questions I wouldn't have to lie to you." That was one of the straws... Good grief. I like this thread. It gives me a lighter perspective on all of this. :) |
Ohhhh you must have been talking to some of your women friends! Women are trying to take over the world! Him:I think I will go talk to the guys and have a beer. Me: blah blah. Him: Hell, I am just going to go have a beer! Comes home 6 hours later, him: Why don't you want to talk to me? THUD! Me: Did you fall down? Him: No, I just missed the bed. I drink some, so what. I will be home soon. I never ask you to go because you always tell me no. Yes, I have asked you and you always say no! Him early in the day: I will see you at 5 when I get off. Later in the day: See you later. Around 5: Not sure when I am getting off, but will see you as soon as I can. Around 6 call him and no answer. :irked: |
I forgot: "You read too many books" "Can't you just draw a line in the sand?" "Give me a break" |
It made it really hit home that there was a big problem - how on earth could people thousands of miles away be saying the EXACT same things? I love this thread! I actually startrd to think it "was me", sometimes..I guess most of us here know THAT feeling! haha what also was bad ,too. for me back then was that it seemed so many people around me looked at ME like i was the one with a problem...ie,like no fun because i conduct myself in a dignified manner in social situations,and i choose to face my stress and problems rather than go their route. |
Originally Posted by minnie I forgot: "You read too many books" Him: Sorry, I can't make it because I am too tired from work (sound of the bar in the background). Me: Why are you bailing on plans YOU made with me? Him: Jeez, you're acting like a parole officer! Me: I'd like to talk with you. Him: Why? So you can use your ENGLISH words on me? (Meant big words. I teach English.) Me: I understand, you'd rather drink. Him: It's not the drinking. (More bars sounds followed by random woman calling me and being horrible.) AHHHHHHHHHH, the good old days! :rolleyes: |
A few more.. "You're so controlling, so what if I want to go to the bar and have a beer." "I didn't hear my phone ring since I accidently left it in the car all night." Which really equals=I passed out all night long so I didn't hear the phone. "I promise I'll be back in two hours." He ends up getting home the next day at 3 am, passed out in a corner were I can't see him, passed out under a sleeping bag... |
Opps can't forget this one.. "Yes, I did go to a meeting." Me:Then how come so and so said you weren't there? Him: Because they're blind I swear I was there. Him: Well I'm going out for a little while, I need to run some errands. An hour later I go into a convience store to get something and he is in the casino playing a Keno machine with a beer in his hand.. Him: what are you spying on me. I don't see what the big deal is, I only put in 5 bucks. Later comes home at 2am when he orginally left at noon. |
Originally Posted by kwelling5737 I’m just an occasional user You need a big cup of shut the F up…(if I hear THAT one more time I’m going to give him a big cup of black eye!!) just the way this came over (sp) cracks me up!!! i picked up a phrase one A used to say All the time "Ahm Tarred an wore out" |
I only left the bar with someone (other women) when I was drunk! (oh, alright, then it's ok! I work 50 hours a week and if I want to stop and have a beer on Friday night after work I will. (one beer took 10 hours to drink???) It's just me, it's the way I have always been, I am the way I am. Please come home, I will go to see someone about my drinking, I will go to counseling, I will quit, whatever you want, just come home. It was the birthday of one of the guys at work, I couldn't be rude and tell him no when he ask me if I was coming to his party. I never ask you to come along because you are no fun. Baby, will you come and get me, I can't find my car. I got kicked out of the bar for fighting and it's cold and I don't have a coat it's in my car.(This was when I was still very sick and I would drive to the bar he went to, move his car somewhere else and go back home.....giggling all the way.He never did figure out I moved it, thought he just forgot where he parked it.) |
Right, I've got more - all from today. "It's you that's got the problem, not me" "I don't know why you are so paranoid" "This is all your doing, not mine" "I don't know why you are being so unreasonable" "Think about it logically" Even better when they learn a few recovery phrases - "Take the cotton out of your mouth and put it in your ears" |
"I think you've finally flipped. I'm worried about you." "Why are you such a bitch?" |
"This is a business matter, not a personal one....10 seconds later.....and another thing, you MADE me move out last year." |
All the above need to be wrote out and made a sticky - These are great !!!!! Only those of us :grinattk: who have heard them, over & over, can understand and relate to the verbal abuse. Okay for mine: :wiggle: I left my AH in 6-2005, mid 7-2005 I finally asked my AH why he started drinking "again" he told me two things and I've never asked him again: 1. "You had 3 mini strokes and I (AH) did not know how to handle it" Okay????????? 2. "Your mother was sick and could have died any minute with that Aortic Aneurysm and two crushed Heart valves." Okay??????????? Do I need to say anymore??????????? :vg |
Ahhh my abf says "You're too smart for your own good." Cracks me right up. I say "You're probably right" |
Here's a few more: "Baby, I would never do that" "Baby, I am not using, I swear" "I think you need to see a doctor, baby, you are so depressed" ....IF "Maybe you should go back on the antidepressants again" In response to "where is the money?": "I can't remember, wait let me go outside and get ALL the receipts".....he was so very good at making me think I was crazy!!! |
HarleyGirl LOL :lmao :Lmao Boy did you mess with my mind. I am trying not to picture how much fun this would be. REALLY, I WON'T DO IT. :roflmao |
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