More hugs from Alaska! And I promise, we're not just hugging you because we're freaking freezing to death up here!

Being dumped sucks. Great gigantic donkeyballs. I think anvil is right though. Clearly, the dude's lacking something if he doesn't have the good sense to know what an amazing person you are!

And as for looks? Well... I think I look like Jessica Lange:
http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV...640_SY429_.jpg

but when I look in the mirror I look more like Jessica Lange:
http://images.starpulse.com/pictures...CWP-004326.jpg...

Awww... (((HUGS)))
Noday you got so many qualities, I am thinking of you and I hope your mourning subsides soon.

Being dumped really sucks, no matter what the circumstances. Being able to come here and get cyber-hugs and encouragement from all of us in all corners of the world, that helps to take the sting away.

Here's a big puppy hug from my boy - a lot younger and thinner, but one of my favourite shots of him - it goes with a big hug coming from me, from West (BC) to you in Quebec.


http://i289.photobucket.com/albums/l...t/DSC01690.jpg

I've been here since you first arrived on the forum - & baby, you've come a LONG way.
I know you feel crappy now, but you'll be fine. Really.
I also would love to know what everyone here looks like, but I notice the "old hands" don't post pics of themselves, so I accept that they know better. I can say that the 2 dogs on my avatar are mine - Dozer & Tuppence - & they would LOVE to give you a hug :)
Hang in there honey.
Helen

More hugs from the southern US! Sorry to hear that you are hurting, but better men await!!!!

p.s. Sadly, I look nothing like the women in a DaVinci sketch....

OK naive ... I need to swap usernames.
I just googled "Jessica Lange - images" so I could figure out if the picture was of lillamy or Jessica ... :/

hi hun...I am dating too, and yea, it does suck....so us SINGLEs must stay together...found this....

Big hug to you from the Emerald Isle !!
I hope you are feeling a bit better today.
M.:grouphug:

(((((NOday)))))]

We are all here to offer virtual hugs and support...and so sorry you are hurting. I got dumped too...and I remember very well how it felt. The feeling of overwhelm, disbelief, shock. My AH decided to leave right away when I discovered his relapse...he didn't entertain for a single moment trying for recovery.

I felt many of the same feelings you did. We hear in Al Anon not to personalize it, to begin to detach, but that seems so impossible in the beginning. What I also heard that it would get better. I didn't believe it in the first few months. But something happened. I don't know when. I read a few things here on SR that absolutely shifted how I was thinking about it all. It was a gradual acceptance that it was never about me....his only loyalty and love were for his addiction. When I first began to try to comprehend how horrifying that prospect is...I began to shift.

Today, only 6 months later.....I feel so much the opposite. I'm thankful every day that I discovered the truth, no matter how shattering it was. I'm thankful every day he chose to leave me....I'm SO thankful for that. The drama and uncertainty and stress of living with an alcoholic is over for me. I have my whole life to build the way I want...with loving, supportive nurturing friends, a re-focus on my career (vs. caretaking a chronically ill man) and so many other reasons. My home is a sanctuary of peace; quiet, clean, and happiness...(vs a place to land each day to try to re-group to manage the next crisis). Even as he tries every way to damage me in divorce, I'm at peace. Eventually it too, will be over. And I have the greatest gift: I have me. My sanity. My life.

I didn't believe I'd ever get to the other side of grief and shock and disbelief. But I did. You will too....take good care of yourself, allow your friends (real and virtual) to love and support you. One day you'll look back and be so proud of yourself. The pain will end. Just for today, accept that it is possible.

Biggest hugs for you

Wait a minute here. I'm 58, separated from my AW for almost a year, going through a divorce and now I've got dating in my future?!?

No effing way man, I mean it, no effing way!

Your friend,

You guys rock. You just do. "Thank you" doesn't seem enough, but thank you anyways.