OT: Need some SR lovin'
 

Hi SR family. I'm sorry I'm not present as much on the forum. I have been reading lots but not posting as often.

Today is a particularly rough day. I've been dumped. I feel abandoned, sad and rejected. I have been repeating the serenity prayer a lot to try to comfort myself, but really, I could use some SR loving.

Big ((((HUGS)))) from your old, fat, runner friend.

How could anyone dump someone with a great set of pipes? :)

I know this is tuff but you have many friends here and you are loved.

Please feel free to PM me if that would help.

Your friend,

You know, I really wish I knew what everyone here looks like...it helps me to put faces to names, and to imagine getting hugs from people.

Thanks Mike. I appreciate the hugs.

Hi hon,

We've never met before (I don't think?) but here comes big hugs from the other side of the Atlantic ... and release!

Stay strong girl

Still
xx

I am very sorry you are feeling low, NoDay.

You have helped me so much on this forum, your growth and honesty have been gifts to me while I struggle with codependency.

You are a kind and loving person with a great sense of humor.
His loss.

I wish I had something perfect to say, but if I wait for that I will say nothing.
I am sorry NDBT.

Beth

Well, I have a really big beak, and flat feet......:lmao

Sorry to hear about being dumped.

Be gentle with yourself and give time for grieving the loss. A few positive affirmations may also help:

I approve of me. I approve of me.

also:

Love is everywhere,
I am loving and I am lovable.

Like this?

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedi...tures_pics.jpg

That's what I was thinking :)

Hugs from the sock monkeys!

AWW, BOO! Being dumped sucks. I'm sorry.

just think that he had some very dark secrets and you're way better off without him.
((((HUGS)))))

Here's another hug from the other side of the Atlantic, a big hearty one to chear you up-don't worry, you are not alone, there are plenty of us who have been feeling similar pain. Hang on till things turn around, as they always will (it's just sometimes hard to think that way when you are in the middle of a crisis)

Sending, big bear hugs, Noday. I think we need a girls night out -- or maybe an SR F&F night out. I know a lovely little coffee shop here that makes the best chai tea and sells the most wonderful gelato. ;) Alaska's not too far, is it? :)

:grouphug:

Since I'm in Quebec, maybe we could meet someplace in the middle, like uh, Saskatchewan?

:hug:
You are a wonderful woman with a lot to offer in a relationship, and you deserve someone who recognizes this and has the respect to offer a lot back.
When the time is right, you'll discover the right person.
Until then... :hug: Do something nice for yourself! You're worth it!

Big hugs from Alaska. Being duped sucks. But - at the risk of sounding cliche - when our HP closes one door, another opens. Be on the lookout!

I have to laugh when I think of what I must "look" like - with a name like tuffgirl and being from Alaska - I envision a lot of you probably think of Sarah Palin, smiling over her caribou carcass - shotgun across her lap. Nope, not me. I carry a pistol. LOL! ; )

noday-

i never told you this but i am from levis, across the saint lawrence river from quebec.

if you got dumped, then i would say he was not ready for your beautiful honesty and self-sufficincey.

please don't let this reflect on your beautiful self. you rock. i've been with you now for 3 years and am well qualified to make such statement.

yours sincerely,
naive

Just sending kind thoughts your way. I know this is not easy, but I also know after reading your posts here that you will use this as an opportunity for further growth. Unfortunately sometimes that comes with a little hurt.

All I can say is he must have a freaking screw loose. You're an amazing woman and if he let go of that he has to be some kind of idiot. HP must have someone perfect for you waiting and waiting for you to get free....

It's all good, sweetie, but I also know you're feeling a little bruised. I sure do wish we could have a cup of coffee! Ever feel like a visit to Texas?

What do I look like? Well when I was 25 people told me ALL the time that I looked like Princess Diana! I'm twice that age now and I look more like Rosie O'donnell! Life can be cruel that way! LOL

:grouphug:

I'm so sorry. I feel your pain. Hugs from the Deep South. Hang in there.

More hugs from Alaska! And I promise, we're not just hugging you because we're freaking freezing to death up here!

Being dumped sucks. Great gigantic donkeyballs. I think anvil is right though. Clearly, the dude's lacking something if he doesn't have the good sense to know what an amazing person you are!

And as for looks? Well... I think I look like Jessica Lange:
http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV...640_SY429_.jpg

but when I look in the mirror I look more like Jessica Lange:
http://images.starpulse.com/pictures...CWP-004326.jpg...

Awww... (((HUGS)))
Noday you got so many qualities, I am thinking of you and I hope your mourning subsides soon.

Being dumped really sucks, no matter what the circumstances. Being able to come here and get cyber-hugs and encouragement from all of us in all corners of the world, that helps to take the sting away.

Here's a big puppy hug from my boy - a lot younger and thinner, but one of my favourite shots of him - it goes with a big hug coming from me, from West (BC) to you in Quebec.


http://i289.photobucket.com/albums/l...t/DSC01690.jpg

I've been here since you first arrived on the forum - & baby, you've come a LONG way.
I know you feel crappy now, but you'll be fine. Really.
I also would love to know what everyone here looks like, but I notice the "old hands" don't post pics of themselves, so I accept that they know better. I can say that the 2 dogs on my avatar are mine - Dozer & Tuppence - & they would LOVE to give you a hug :)
Hang in there honey.
Helen

More hugs from the southern US! Sorry to hear that you are hurting, but better men await!!!!

p.s. Sadly, I look nothing like the women in a DaVinci sketch....

OK naive ... I need to swap usernames.
I just googled "Jessica Lange - images" so I could figure out if the picture was of lillamy or Jessica ... :/

hi hun...I am dating too, and yea, it does suck....so us SINGLEs must stay together...found this....

Big hug to you from the Emerald Isle !!
I hope you are feeling a bit better today.
M.:grouphug:

(((((NOday)))))]

We are all here to offer virtual hugs and support...and so sorry you are hurting. I got dumped too...and I remember very well how it felt. The feeling of overwhelm, disbelief, shock. My AH decided to leave right away when I discovered his relapse...he didn't entertain for a single moment trying for recovery.

I felt many of the same feelings you did. We hear in Al Anon not to personalize it, to begin to detach, but that seems so impossible in the beginning. What I also heard that it would get better. I didn't believe it in the first few months. But something happened. I don't know when. I read a few things here on SR that absolutely shifted how I was thinking about it all. It was a gradual acceptance that it was never about me....his only loyalty and love were for his addiction. When I first began to try to comprehend how horrifying that prospect is...I began to shift.

Today, only 6 months later.....I feel so much the opposite. I'm thankful every day that I discovered the truth, no matter how shattering it was. I'm thankful every day he chose to leave me....I'm SO thankful for that. The drama and uncertainty and stress of living with an alcoholic is over for me. I have my whole life to build the way I want...with loving, supportive nurturing friends, a re-focus on my career (vs. caretaking a chronically ill man) and so many other reasons. My home is a sanctuary of peace; quiet, clean, and happiness...(vs a place to land each day to try to re-group to manage the next crisis). Even as he tries every way to damage me in divorce, I'm at peace. Eventually it too, will be over. And I have the greatest gift: I have me. My sanity. My life.

I didn't believe I'd ever get to the other side of grief and shock and disbelief. But I did. You will too....take good care of yourself, allow your friends (real and virtual) to love and support you. One day you'll look back and be so proud of yourself. The pain will end. Just for today, accept that it is possible.

Biggest hugs for you

Wait a minute here. I'm 58, separated from my AW for almost a year, going through a divorce and now I've got dating in my future?!?

No effing way man, I mean it, no effing way!

Your friend,