sillysquirrel I tried the lots of sex about a year ago. For a little while it seemed to work, but then I was smacked hard with the reality of it all. During all that sex I was never once kissed, never once just held without sex, and before long he was stomping on my feelings again. I think his illness was progressing rapidly during this time frame, so when we were not having sex it was as if I didn't really exist. I woke up to it all while on vacation. We were in a wonderful place, beautiful, somewhere you can leave your troubles behind. What I got while there.... a husband that walked 10 paces ahead of me at all times, who had few words and when I didn't act perfect jumped all over me and then punished me by withholding all affection ,while he gave good night kisses to "his girls" (our girls) and walked back into our room without even looking at me. Our son looked at me and said something like "what the hell". The next day I told him I was tired of being F'd and we needed to start counseling.

Don't think you can make his mood better in the long run with lots of sex... it only fogged up the issue for us and then made reality much more painful for me.

Oh, Alone22....I know it will not help the true underlying issues. My point is that to him, it would be a perfect marriage. He has his perfect family. We are all living together. To all friends and family looking in he is this great family man, (appearances are so very important to him). But in his self-centered mind, he has it made with a live-in nanny/maid/chef/wh*re, all of which he is getting for free!! How great is that?? And he also has me there to pay for half the bills!

Oh, Anvilhead - it is so good to have you back posting, again. I've missed your spicy writing.

CLMI