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I've known my brother in law was an alcoholic for some time--it took a little longer for my husband to admit it, but he sees it now.

(due to the detailed description of the post I may be deleting it after I get advice)

Background: Brother-in-law (BIL) married 5 years, 2 young kids

Short version: BIL stripped down in front of us to his underwear and made a pass at me. We were both really wierded-out by it--it happened so fast--and he had been drinking. We left right after.

My husbands first plan: Confronting BIL about his behavior toward me as unacceptable.

There are a lot of problems here, and my husband especially, is very worried about him and his family. They bought a house on a whim not to long ago, and next spring their 2-year interest only loan is "up" and they will need to re-finance or get another loan I guess. They have 10k in last years property tax they have not paid. They are bairly affording their mortgage "interest only" payments. They have BAD credit, and terrible spending habits. BIL stripped the inside of the house down to the studs as soon as they bought it--with the intension of putting in the "best" of everything and opening up the layout of the house. He is in construction, so he does know what he's doing (at least in the construction aspect of it). It is a year and a half later and they are still living in one room of the house with two young kids. It is obvious he is under lots of stress--which I can only imagine will get worse over the next several months.

He drinks almost every time we get together with him. The incident of him stripping down is the first time I've seen him like that or that I ever felt he was coming on to me. We know, and he has admitted he uses alcohol every night when coming home from work.

I could probably give lots more info, but I guess that is not necessary.

What do we do from here? Or specifically what can my husband do? He is already planning on confronting him about the incident. Do we get all the family members involved that are close to my BIL?

It's not "super severe" right now to our knowledge--will he or other family members take it seriously enough? I guess it might be necessary for him to hit a "bottom" but we hope it doesn't come to that. We know he WILL lose the house if things keep going the way they are, and with all the stress, his alcoholism will escalate.

Advice would be VERY helpful.

Thanks