Hello Carol, Nice to have you here at SR..I have been gone for a couple of days, so i don't know if this is your first post..but Welcome..I can relate to enabling, buying the alcohol, and even though i was an alcoholic, i got fed up with it too, i hated it, but continued on..But, i agree with Hoobie, you both need help with the addictions..I am really early into my program as well, so i am careful of the advice i give, but, there will be plenty of wonderful people along that will give you their time, SEH...So, best wishes to you..and keep coming back..