I see where you're coming from Patty, but try to remember there is a wife and 4 children who are also benefitting greatly from having a home to live in. And, not only that, the wife is here reaching out for help to get her life on track.
Welcome, Jen. I hope you will stay and read all you can. This site has been a great help to me. (And Patty really does mean well.....)
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