I was pretty sure I didn't really know what a boundary really was. I didn't really see my home as supporting him since he works 12 hours a day to pay for it and is very concerned with sending the money out on time. Maybe just the fact that I got us in here while he was a jobless drunk is what you mean?
It's not like I can take the home away from him or us...it will belong to us no matter what from now on. If he leaves, I have it and vice versa.
I agree that things will get worse again.
The hardest thing is breaking out of this. I'm so used to having that bad night - which is usually way after all the kids are in bed now - and then 2 good weeks, and then that bad night...
it's such a lie.