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Old 07-20-2006, 10:17 AM
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ASpouse
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Telling him not to drink at home is and isn't a boundary. It is too open for interpretation.

Saying "If you come home drunk or stinking of booze, I will call the police and have you removed" is a boundary. It's clear, it's not subject to interpretation.

Your boundaries are too broad in nature. You need to be more detailed. This is just an example and not one that I think you should give. Maybe others can give you examples of a boundary that might work better for your situation.

Your home at Habitat is supporting a drunk .... he got all the benefits.

His problem will escalate over time, don't doubt that for a minute!
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